War on Divorce

Divorce advice? My friend is in a really bad marriage right now her husband has been known to hit her and be very mentally abusive. She came by today and ask me to go to her county and file for divorce with her because he has been taking a flash light and a gun and searching every inch of the house everyday like ten times a day. He is on drugs or something but she cant even sleep so she is staying with me for a while. What would be the best way for her to go about this she is scared that he will try to come over here and hurt her and my family. He is a pshyco andvery capiable of it. So my question is what should she do and can she file for divorce in a different county from where they live. Will a restraining order really work for her if she lives here. Please any advice would be great. by the way he has no idea she is even thinking about the divorce and that scares her even worse what scares me is i am afraid that he will come to my house and demand to know where she is at and if i dont tell him he will harm me and my family

Divorce Advice? I need some advice. I need to know how to get a divorce from my ex without him. B/c he will not send the papers back.

divorce advice? Here goes: Guy meets girl, have 1 kid, get married and are married for 5 years where upon 2 more kids arrive. Marriage breaks down and wife files for divorce. There are no assets worth mentioning and both are unemployed. The husband is a student and has large student debt. What could the wife realistically aim to receive from the husband in terms of maintenance etc and what variables are relevant in this issue.. All children live with the wife abroad but within the EU. Tricky one huh

Where can I find free legal advice , or talk to a real person about divorce advice, need someone who knows law My aunt was recently surved with divorce papers, but befor her husband informed her, he had a family member remove their kids from the home and took them to another city, this cant be legal, I need some advice to give her, legal, or course. Located in Arizona.

where can i get free divorce advice? i have some basic questions that i need help with about filing my own divorce. like do i need to fill out the part about support if i just want to continue the order that we have now and when do i need to file the fee waiver (with the divorce papers or before?) is there any websites that can help that i don't have to pay $30 a question for?

Is there anyone who can give advice on the question in the marriage/divorce section- to web divorce advice? I posted a question about divorce advice, looking for more input from experienced couples - for picking up the pieces of a broken heart. (thanks) look in marriage and divorse for my complete question. I sincerly appreaciate everyone's advice, THANKS.

Advice for filing for divorce in Maryland? I am going to file for divorce today. My spouse and I have been separated for 12 months and 1 day. Does anyone have any advice? Our home is undercontract and we have no children.

How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give? For example, is there anything you wish you had done differently at all?

Advice about my parents getting a divorce ? My parents are getting a divorce soon and I actually kinda agree with it. My dad always makes us(my mom,sister and I) my dad does everything for his self while my mom does everything for me and my sister first and there are also other reasons. I think this will be the best for everyyone. But can you guys please give me some advice? I'm 13 and in 7th grade and my sister is 11 and in 6th grade.

Due to a recent divorce; I need home advice-? Due to a recent divorce, I need advice; I have an outstanding home equity of $50,000 and the present home mortgage is $250,000 and the home is valued at $365,000, what would be the house payment if I was to keep the house. Would I be better off selling? Is there a way to figure out what the hosue payment would be?

Practical Divorce advice: How the hell do I start over? I am in the air about how to literaly go about leaving my husband and starting over in a new city (I have been suffocated by my current home for years-- this town is too small for the both of us!). I mean, how much money will i need to even TALK to a lawyer? We dont have kids, but we have 2 cats, one pregnant. I'd like to keep them both + offspring , does a normal divorce case even handle animals? I have no hangup s about my stuff. He can keep everything we bought together. I just want what I came with and neither of us has lots of money to fight over so thats that. Do i even NEED a lawyer? Can I move before the divorce is final and do the paperwork by mail? Is it rude to send out a divorce announcement? (Just kidding, kind of.) Is there someone who will just talk to me about it? How was your divorce?

dedicated husband and father needs divorce advice.? I think my wife wants to leave. I don't want to break up my family, and I have tried just about everything, counceling ext... but she does not even try to make it work. I told her If that is what she wants I will take 100% responsibilty of or 3 year old son. all she has to do is support herself. we have about 10,000 dollars in debt, witch she should be half responsible for. We have been married for 6 years, and she has stayed home with our son for 3. I wish we could work this out, we had a good marriage, and I love her more then anything. I don't want to fight over my son, both are good parents, and want to raise and see him as much as possible. but right now I am looking for advice if we do divorce.

Divorce Advice? My wife and I are thinking of divorce. Does she get half of my assets? We have a 5 year old kid. How much do I pay my wife for child support? Also, where do we file the divorce papers? We were married in Lucknow and I would prefer to go to court in Lucknow. While she might insist on Delhi. Can I control this? Thanks so much for your advice Does she get 50% of all assets? Does she get the money which is in my IRA and 401k? What about 529 account? I am the owner of 529 account.

Looking for advice or assistance to get a Divorce Finalize? A mother of seven beautiful kids searching for Divorce advice and assistance to get Divorce Finalize. I’ve tried filing my divorce on my own on several occasions, but no results. Went through Legal Aid Services and was told can’t help me with services due to case is too difficult, having been separate from party too long and having problems’ getting other parties serve to get Divorce Final. There are three fathers that I’m having trouble getting to cooperate with the divorce to bring this divorce to a conclusion. I’ll like to get this problem solve on several occasion. I was 16 years old when I married my kids father which he was 18 years old and my family told us we need to get married. My biology mother sign for me to get married (I was rasied by someone that had custody of me) I left my husband in 1997 not even a year after we got married. After leaving my husband two years later I start having kids that was born into my marriage(Why I was still legally married to him. The Court want the fathers of the other kids to be added into the Divorce papers. It hard trying to get all the fathers served with citation. I've tired get a lawyer and I asked for a payment arrange and the lawyer told me I start my price it $50 grand and the price can go up. I advise you to keep doing what you been doing you been doing what you want to do anyway.I'm also is waiting on the school that I have been working with to restart my case over because we went to court and the judge stated none of the fathers were able to get served.

help. My husband filed divorce papers and I have nobody to give me advice. I need advice.? forty y.o. together 20y, married 9y. No kids. Own a house equal share I am in it. California. I have some of my own income enough basically to feed myself but this is CA. He has a secret (he's making it secret) woman encouraged him to file the papers. I'm Christian (he's nonbeliever) so nobody gives me any divorce advice, just marriage advice but clearly this isn't helpful. Help What do I do?? Len -- right, I became Christian 4 y ago; he didn't like it.

Divorce Advice and Custody Help for single father.? I currently have custody of my little girl, and am about to go into a divorce. My estranged wife has decided that she wants to drive out here and take my daughter to the other side of the USA. How can I stop this from happening, and what advice do you have in regards to maintaining the current living arrangement? I currently have a job, a house, and stable living conditions. She is living with her friends, is not stable, but can sound logical as heck. Bill

Marriage/Divorce advice, please??? I've been married for almost 5 years. We have a 15-month old son. We haven't been getting along for months and finally we have agreed to get a divorce. I love him, but I am not in-love with him anymore and I can't help the way I feel. The thing is that I have talked to my ex a couple times in the past week or so. I still have feelings for him, but I don't necessarily want to get back into another relationship. Also, he lives in another state and has a child of his own, so there's no possible way for us to be together right now anyway. He's not married, but he has his son. I still love him, and I believe I always have. He was my FIRST everything, and we almost had a child together 12 years ago. I'm very emotionally attached to him. I guess I just need some advice because I'm so confused and screwed up lately. I am numb. I'm trying to have compassion for my husband because he is really hurt that I'm leaving him, but I don't feel that sad about it. My husband doesn't know I've talked to my ex. And if my ex didn't have his son and I didn't have mine, we would def be together. Advice, please?

my parents r getting a divorce any advice??? my parents are getting a divorce and I'm mad @ both of them 4 a couple of reasons 1.) they're getting a divorce 4 stupid reasons 2.) my mom seems like she doesn't care about my bros and I anymore 3.) my dad is totally out of whack and has HUMONGUS mood swings 4.) I'm just confused I feel like crying all the time and then I'll b really happy. I need help does anybody have any advice 4 me???!?!?!?!?!?!

What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce? This is for everyone who has been through a divorce. I am going to court to file for divorce this week.I need all the help and advice i can get.Thanks. no i do not have a lawyer. I can't afford it since he spent all the money we had.

Need divorce advice. Please help.? I have no idea what divorce entails. How much do lawyers cost. Do I even need a lawyer? I'm pretty sure my husband will not cause problems for me as far as financial things go. I mean, he will be willing to pay child support, etc. What kind of settlement is normal for a stay at home mom? Basically I need my graduate degree to get meaningful work, and I want to be independent from him. So I'm worried about the cost of day-care. I can take out loans for school, but the immediate expenses will be rent, food, and daycare (my children are all under school age). Is it reasonable to expect help with those costs until I'm on my own two feet (roughly three years)? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

I want a divorce... Advice? My husband and I are in what is termed as a sexless marriage. In the last two years we might have had sex 10 times. I have tried talking to him about it, I've asked him to seek therapy - I asked him to come see a sex therapist with me. He simply refuses, and says he's working on it, but when I approach him he turns me down. Now, when I try to talk to him about it he flies of the handle, or sigh and say 'not this again.' I've given him time to sort it out, and he keeps making empty promises. I am tired of living like this. I'm desperately lonely and unhappy. It's affecting me in a bad way. Emotionally I'm wrecked and I'm 'nasty' when I don't want to be. He is my best friend, and I love him dearly but asking me to live like this isn't fair. And he's doing nothing from his side to fix things. I have brought up divorce about this very issue before and he called me petty and childish. I want the conversation to be civil and not have it turn to threats (last time he threatened to take our son away). He's a good father and a good provider, and I wish I could be happy with just those two things. I realise his problem isn't me. I took it personally in the past, but I now know that it has nothing to do with me. I've tried to help him, but I can't help him if he's not willing to accept he does have a problem and is willing to work WITH ME to make our marriage work on all levels. I have done all I can from my side. Just thinking of leaving him tears me apart, but I can't go on like this. I've decided to wait until after Christmas before bringing it up, no need to spoil everyone's festive season... can you give me some advice? What do I say? How do I stop it from turning into something ugly? He has a tendency to start screaming and cutting me off when I try to talk - I want us to sit down and have a proper conversation about this, then decide how to proceed. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Melissa, he DOES NOT have a health problem. If it was something as simple as that, I could understand it. But it's not... he simply doesn't want to have sex. He says we're too old (we're 31!), or it's too much work, or, or, or... his list of excuses are endless. I'm sorry for those who are in abusive relationships, and I hope they make it out. But you know what, a vibrator isn't a replacement for proper intimacy. Ask me, I should know. How old is he? 31 When did he have his last physical? January 2008 Heart problems? Not the last time they checked. Trust me on this... the plumbing works. I would be a first class b*tch to leave someone who's impotent. I will try again, of course I will. But believe me when I tell you, this isn't a decision I've come to lightly. pbxgirl: LOL - now I'm not overweight. Obviously, I don't have the body of an 18-year old anymore, but neither does he. I've never threatened him with our child - he has though.

I need legal advice about divorce? I obtained retirement money from a previous marriage. I opened an account and put the money into it. I have since remarried. If I divorce this man to I have to share that money with him?

divorce advice needed. Internet history Report? How can I find out where they surfed online. who they are messaging and etc. For Divorce Reasons and for personal knowlege. Any advice? any emails or instant messages. what is the service i can even look up called? A Client Asked me

Husband considering divorce. Any advice PLEASE???!!!? We've been married for almost 6 years and have one 2 year old daughter. I'll admit our first year was more than rocky. Getting used to each other was tough because we had never lived together. The last couple of years have been the best of my life. My husband is a successful business owner, we moved into a brand new home and I am a stay at home mom to our baby. I've been happy...extremely happy. After an argument over something very petty yesterday he decided to say that he may not want to be married anymore. He said he's not sure. He wants to go to counseling. I am devastated. This came as a huge shock to me. How do I go through each wondering if today he'll decide to end things? I feel like I'm in limbo and that I can barely function because I don't know if I have a marriage or not. He said I need to relax and we will work through it. How can I relax if our marriage is potentially ending? I called a lawyer for advice but I don't even believe in divorce. I love him.

I need some future divorce advice please.? Hi. I'm in need of potential divorce advice please. I married a girl 8 years ago who walks all over me in everyway. I own my own landscaping biz and work about 13 hours a day. She does all the billing and has a job of her own w/ a govt agency. I own the home; her name is not on it. We have 2 kids , 3 vehicles. I'm sick and tired of her talking to me and treating me like shit. I know I'm weak but I need to at least get some preliminary advice if she decides to leave (or more realistically tries to throw me out of my own home). She does drugs with her friends almost nightly which kills me. Cocaine. Is there anything I can do if this day ever comes? Anything I can do to set myself up so I won't get totally raked over the coals? Only educated adults respond! Thanks

friend of mine husband ran off in the usa, now he sends her papers from a lawyer re divorce, advice welcome.? both are from jamaica, he left last year on a visit to the usa and did not return. during period he has been very rude to her accusing her of having an affair with him. she has since ended corresponding with him. now he has retain the services of a lawyer and have written to her advising of divorced proceedings and have given her 20 days to responde. since not up to speed with divorce laws of usa, desperate for some good advice to give her. they have no children, no motor vehicle, no house, no joint bank accounts, etc. they have been married since 2002.

Help has anyone ever worked with an guardian ad litem in a divorce case? Any advice of what to expect? I am in a divorce and my husband has severe drug and alchohol issues, his attorney on his behalf requested a guardian ad litem and I am worried I do not know anyone who has worked with one or went through this experience. Will the guardian ad litem take into account the police reports made, his arrest, jail time ect? What should I do to prepare? My son is 2 months old and he wants full custody...help advice anyone?

my BFF parents are getting divorce! advice? before the vacations started i talked to my BFF on the phone and she said to me that she wasnt feeling okey since the night before but she said it wasnt aout health and she told me she wants to tell me in person whats going on, her parents have been separated for a year and i think her parents are divorcing, i am 90% sure its about that, and today im meeting with her but i dont know what to tell her so she feels i suport her! any advice?? i dont want her to be sad but ive got noo idea about divorce...

Question about parents, marriage, and divorce - need sound advice? Today my parents informed me that they were now going to sleep in different rooms. From what I can see, there's been some stress in the relationship and they've been arguing. They also told me that they were going to go to therapy again. I'd had no idea about all this until they told me. Are these signs of an impending divorce? Normally I wouldn't post something like this online, but I've done some google searches and the only websites I've found have been signs of divorce from the spousal standpoint.

I have been married for 25+ yrs-need some hopefully-friendly advice on divorce in MInnesota-? I would appreciate some friendly advice--we reside in MInnesota. Could I please get some advice on different aspects of a divorce. I realize that I need a lawyer--we have property and of course--BILLS. Also, I hear that the 1st step is really big. Oh yes, the other half is retiring in June-not because he can afford it--because he can--he is 61-I am 52 and very sick about the retirement. Thank you for your help-...

Need divorce advice please? I'm wanting to file for divorce from my Husband. We have two small children, and I have been a stay at home mom for 5 years, so no income on my side. Does anyone know of low income, or anywhere I can go to for assistance is filing for divorce. He has been verbally abusive for many year, and has become more so to the point I don't want my kids nor myself to live this way any longer. I've given him too many opportunitites to make changes, and he has continued to get worse towards us. I have two little boys one will turn 4 on the 15th of this month, and my other son is 20 months. My husband works OTR right now, and it's so sad to think how peaceful and happy our weeks are when he's gone, to the constant chaos we go through during his few days home each week. Please any advise out there? For all of you out there who insist on adding your two cents worth, theres a reason they call it that. I have been the most devoted wife and mother, my husband is only gone for 5 days not two weeks. Theres much more to the story, so be careful what you throw out there, as I was only wanting some advice on filing, not marriage advice. I've been a wife that has supported my husband through many things thick and thin in our marriage, and also had to endure alot of verbal and a ear ago physical abuse, he was arrested, and I got him out of it to give him that chance to change!!! I'm an educated wife and devoted mother to my children that has commited to my family for the very fact of " Family Unity" and therefore have to make my children my MAIN priority given my husband is obviously not interested in changing. I've threatened divorce, asked for counsling, you name it. Just in the future, please be careful of how you read into others seeking a bit of advice.

anyone can advice whether is it possible to file for divorce outside australia? a friend of mine married an australian would like to file for a divorce. she currently resides outside australia, she is australia's PR holder. is it possible for her to file for divorce outside australia? or she has to file it in australia?

My parents need to get a divorce! Advice anyone? Lately they haven't been fighting a lot, but everyone once in a while, they'll get into a big fight. I'm tired of having to deal with it, I'm tired of having to pick sides, I'm tired of hearing them demean each other, I just want them to divorce already. I AM TIRED! I FUCKING HATE LIVING HERE! I CAN'T WAIT TILL NEXT SEMESTER, SO I CAN MOVE OUT AGAIN FOR COLLEGE. Sorry, I just need to vent. Any Advice? When I tell them that I hate that they fight, etc,etc; they say that it's good to fight. And I agree, it's okay to fight, but when it's the type of thing over and over again, and they start to become overly nasty toward each other, and they put their children in it, it's NOT alright. A lot of times my dad says the only reason he's still married to my mom is because me and brother. Well guess what, it's done nothing but fuck is up AND now both my brother and I are old enough (I'm 18 about to 19, my brothers 23) for them to separate. BLEH! I cannot take this anymore.

Why do so many women ask for advice on divorce? What the hell is up with that? Can't you make up your own mind? Does begging for non-direct sympathy gain wisdom and power in order to kick your man to the curb? It seems most men don't reach out for advice and women get it from everywhere (all for free.) Constantly men are helping out hoards of wailing women all over the world when they need to know how to screw over their husbands in a divorce, and in return most of them wouldn't help you out if your life depended on it. What gives?? The ratio of women asking advice on divorce (here at Yahoo) is about four women to every man asking for advice. It may seem like a burning question in a way, but honestly... I'm curious. After hearing women discuss an issue like this... They'll listen to gay men, hateful women who've had terrible marriages, etc. They don't always seem to get advice from quality people (in my opinion) and instead take the advice from the worst and go with it. Ummm.... Ann (and others) Me hurt? Yes, 8 years ago but that's not why I'm asking this qiestion. Every day I see people ask for divorce advice and what a downer it is to see people constantly asking the same questions before browsing the million other already asked questions on divorce. lol

Divorce Advice PLEASE!!!!? So here is my problem. My wife of 9 years wants a divorce. We have 4 great kids together. I am not planning on fighting her on this. Whatever she wants me to sign I will. We already agreed on joint custody and to me nothing else matters. I love her as much as I can love another person. I want her to be happy even if it's without me. That is why I will give her the divorce she wants. That is the last thing I want. She has just been so unhappy with me for the past 3 years and she wants to move on. Is there something I am missing here? Am I not doing what I am supposed to? I keep thinking that if I become the person she always wanted me to be that I will one day have her back. It may be naive but that is all I have. If I faced reality I would probably kill myself. I came close twice and they locked me up in the hospital for it. I just want to be with my wife I just don't think I can make her happy. Any attempts to help me with this would be appreciated. Thank You

Where is the best website to get experienced advice on marriage and divorce ? I'm going through a complicated divorce (married 17yrs, & still love him) need experienced advice/blog support from those (30+) who've been there-done that. I'm an emotional and financial wreck (in Michigan). He has parkinsons and says he still loves me and the kids but lost his job, caused me to loose mine, he has moved into another residence with an 80 yr old woman and her 55 yr old daughter. He has filed, we are getting a divorce.

Divorce advice?getting back into the workforce? I have been married what will be 5 yrs soon, I am 25 yrs old going on 26 and my husband is 35 yrs old.I have a daughter who is 5 yrs old from a previous relationship and a son who will be turning 2 yrs old(he shares the same dad as my daughter).Our divorce is a bit ugly he cheated we seperated i cheated in retalition which is how my son was concieved and we tried to make it work but that never happened.I worked for about 2.5 -3 years during our marriage as a community college proffesor(adjunct) and HS history teacher.But have now worked at all for the last 2 yrs except for some babysitting jobs and helping out at my friends bakery.I wont be able to get a job as a teacher this time of year so i need a fill in?My friend offered me a job as manager/ a cake decorator at her bakery for $13.50 4-5 days a week,sometimes sat.mornings, 6-8 hrs.She said the days and hours vary by seasons.Do i take the job?even though its not a job i would normally take? Her manager another friend of ours is on maternity leave and wont be able to come back till april- may?So this could work out well?

Need advice on seeking what was agreed to on divorce papers? I divorced my husband in 2001. He didn't want the divorce. He bragged on his financial statement beccause at the time he was making big money as a painter, but has always only worked sporadically. When my (pro-bono) lawyer saw this, she mentioned "alimony" and he hit the cieling. We agreed that he would pay some credit cared bills I had in lieu of alimony. This never happened. I didn't act on this because I was busy in therapy,, trying to change from an emotionally abused timid "mouse" Now we've both been in therapy and have a friendly relationship (he helps me out alot, I'm disabled, he does heavy work for me, paints and cleans my apartment, etc.) But he never intended to pay those bills, I can't on my disability income, he doesn't make that kind of money now, and I don't know what to do. I can't even afford a lawyer should I choose to go after him for reneging on a court order, plus, I am dependent on him for this help. Any advice?

Where is a good place to get free divorce advice?

Divorce Advice without let spouse know about it !? I am california resident , indian origin , green card holder and canadian citizen. Custom arranged marriage to a indian girl in india 6 month ago but never registered with govt of india(still it is a legal marriage). the wife living in India in our house never came to USA. i am planning to apply for divorce in california. At the same time , i never want to let them know because it is not safe for my parents in india. what is the best way to do the divorce. one of the paralegal advice me ' just some letter to the spouse and get her signed on acknowledgement card' that would serve the purpose of she rec'd the divorce notification. i don't know how that would work if court directly sends letter to her in india bypassing me and paralegal. i would really appreciate your advice. just freaking out with this indian marriage and its culture sentiment (sorry to say i am indian too).

What advice would you give to a couple in the moment of divorce ? I would advise for the sake of children do not blame each other and for the sake of children unite on important occassion. Please give decent answer as this may help many.

need help with getting on my feet with money. stupid moves in my youth and divorce. need advice please!? trying to have a child with my wife. but the only way is invitro. credit score to low to get it financed. just wanted to know if there was a loan or something i could get to pay off my credit report. we do not own a house to refinance, and little bit each month is taking way to long will wait if need be, but its just so hard. thank you for any advice

military divorce advice? i am prior active duty and my husband is currently active duty. i went to talk to a lawyer about getting a divorce today. he said that my husband, who is an e-4, will be paying around $300-$400 a month for both of our children. this is not enough to help me raise our 2 babies! he went by the texas state guidelines though. is there any way that this could be wrong? it would seem that he should help with more. if there is anyone who has gone through this situation could you please give me some advice? i would greatly appreciate it!

Divorce advice!!! help needed!? This is a long one so bear with me! In January 2008, my wife walked out on me. I was aware she had some debts and I got upset (well angry..Not physically of-course!) and she just left. We didn't file for divorce as my wife said she just needed some space and so I waited. I continued, as I always did (and always have) to pay the mortgage, council tax etc. All of my wifes income, which was £40k, was disposable, throughout our marriage. She texted me every day to say she loved me when she left, how was I, do you want to meet up etc. So I just played along, like a fool! Anyway, in October 2008, I found out that she was seeing someone. I was deeply upset and so, I started to see someone in November. It was awkward being with another woman but female company was nice but I still loved my wife. However, in December a week before christmas, I found out that not only was her boyfriend 21 (she is 30, I am 33) but that they had been in a serious relationshiop since February 2008, only after 4 weeks of walking out on me! To make matters worse, on Xmas eve, I opened one of her letters in error, and it was a CCJ from the HSBC, saying she was over her allowance. I have since found out, she has accumulated about £20k of debt. I have no idea how, but I think it was clothes, as I used to find lots of them in the back of her car, sent to her work address. Her credit card bills were 90% attributable to ASOS (Which is an on-line clothes shop I have since found out)? I am seeing a Solicitor tomorrow to file a divorce. However, my wife has said she is prepared for me to buy her out for £15k. I get to keep the house and she will sign to say I am not responsible for any of her debts. To make things more complicated, I have a new job and I have to move in 4 weeks. I can't sell the house in this time, so I will have to rent it out. However, I can only buy my wife out, with a long term loan on the mortgage. This will put my borrowing to £205k, and the house is worth about £240k, but this is coming down as we all know!!! So questions! All of the debt is in her name (on her credit cards, with no loans on the house). Am I liable for this? Our house is in both our names (her credit card is with HSBC with the CCJ as is our moartgage) can they come after our house, even if she never paid any of the mortgage, or gave me any money towards anything? Should I buy my wife out, or is renting my own flat to much of a pain? I am deeply upset with all this, as I still love her deeply but I can't afford to stay with her (she is too much of a risk) and I will never be able to forget about her boyfriend and how she lied to me for so long, saying how she missed me, but just needed space. Please help me, I desperately need advice! Oh and a virtual hug if that is possible!

step by step divorce advice please? My girlfriends husband is addicted to coccaine as I mentioned in passed questions. He was getting help but felll back into the drugs again. She wants to file for divorce but needs some info on how to handle this step by step. 1st she has 2 illnesses 1 is M.S. and the other it another blood disorder. Her insurance is through her husband. Next they have 1 child 1 1/2 years old also on his insurance. Next they own a house and the market is slow in her area now. They also have credit cards that totall about $20k. She only makes about $35k/year so no chance in keeping the home. So what can she do? He refuses to leave the house and she has no where to go and please don't say shelter or anything like that. Her husband isn't adusive or really causing much of a problem besides the fact that she hates him for doing drugs and not being there for her or the kid. The lawyer gave her legal advice like cost and time it would take but that doesn't guide her in the right direction. Advice please... She could get an apt. on her salary but the problem is owing a $2500 mortgage every month. Both of their names are on the house and he's not reliable enough to pay that. And she can't afford that on her salary alone. That's the problem. My advice was put her house for sale, find an apt. ask that her name be taken off the mortgage, hopefully the house sells soon enough, and then make the divorce final.

Tennessee Divorce Advice Please!? Is there a place to call in Tennessee for advice on a divorce for someone who really cannot afford one? This person has been married 1 1/2 years and is being totally railroaded by controlling husband. Money is an issue for her. To be clear, she has a job and would probably be considered to make too much for free legal help, but still does not have enough for the divorce fees.

Advice me to divorce or to wait - An south Indian with depression? I am from southen part of india, I got married an year back. On the first day onwards my wife having doubts about me. From her parents I heard that she is having problem for the past one year. Suddenly she started doubt about my health and I am hidding something. We went for the Doctor and as per his advice we went for Neuropsychology consultant. Report points that she is having paranoid personality disorder and coexistent adjustment disorder. She refused for the treatment and left from my house. After 3 months I meet consultant she told me that wait for some time or take decision about divorce. For the job reasons I left foreign country. For the past 3 months, I am in the depression and not able to decide. As far as I know she didn't understand me. Whether should I give some more time or go for mutual divorce. Advice may clear my depression.

I Need Divorce Advice? I am about to file for a divorce and could use some advice as to what steps to take and the estimated cost and time it will take to be done. It's completely uncontested. 3 kids are involved but we already have custody set up between us already. I live in Georgia, and he lives in Florida. We also can't afford attorneys, so we want to do this on our own. If possible.

Need divorce advice for a friend? She's the primary breadwinner and has a child. The husband went back to school while the mother worked, so he was a stay at home dad, but was planning to get a job now that he's finished school. She's been told by her lawyer and his lawyer that she will probably have to pay alimony since she has been the one working. Is this true? Is there anyway around this? He's finished school, but hadn't found a job yet...

Help!?!? Can someone help me with some divorce advice? Wyoming people especially? I have been separated since January 2006. I am still trying to get a divorce, I don't know where my ex lives- somewhere in Washington with his pregnant girlfriend. We had a lot of "stuff," and he worked in the oilfield and made a lot of money. Since then he has quit and dont know how much money he's making... but he hasnt made any payments on anything since October, and everything is under my name too. My credit is terrible and I have a 30 hour per week job making 7 an hour, and three kids! Questions: How do I get a divorce? I don't have money for a lawyer and the pro se packet doesnt make sense When he has to pay child support is it from the time that he supported us or from what he makes now? In a divorce does the debt have to be split in two or can it be that he pays 6 times as much since he made 6 times as much when he was supporting us? I can barely afford my rent by itself let alone all these other things. Anything else you may have to add in would help a lot. I have the packet to do it myself, it's just that it's confusing with all of our debts, etc... also, his last known address is not where he is because it's the house that we shared! Neither of us live there anymore. I just know that he met a girl online that I think he is still with, and thats where she was from was Washington. Also, I am from Riverton... not that it matters? More details: I am the one who requested the divorce because I wasn't happy anymore... so the divorce is something that is going to happen no matter what. I have tried to find him but cant The last time I talked to him, was December 13 and he told me he could care less about what happens to the kids or if they even have a Christmas, that they are my problem now, and that he wants to give up his parental rights. I know he would sign papers and have no problem with that, because he told me I could have everything, he just wants it done. Problem is I just cant find him, and also I cant figure out the paperwork myself

Need accurate divorce advice.? I have been married for 3 years now.Over the last 6 months,I found my wife drifting away from me and getting very chatty with an office colleague.Although I have no surefire evidence of aldutery I have several witnesses who saw them togther all the time at their office premises as well as other evidence like phone bills etc which proved that she called him very often.So I confronted her about it,made my displeasure known.She completely denies the affair and maintains that the person is just a good friend,but I don't think so.Our relationship has gone for a toss and we barely speak to each other,its impossible to live like this for the rest of my life.Now what I want to know is - If I divorce her,would I have to pay her any alimony ? She earns almost as much as me.How can I avoid alimony ? We bought a flat which is 100% in my name.Even the home loan is in my name,but she had pooled in some money initially.Does that make me liable to pay her anything? And lastly how much would an average divorce proceeding cost in Mumbai ? I do not anticipate much of a fight.Please advice.I cannot afford to spend too much on this as I have other committments in my family that I need to take care of.Although I know you mean well - please don't give me advice asking me to reconcile etc.Thank you,but I just can't do that.

Can anyone help on advice on divorce with parents? my step parents which are who i live with are divorcing is there any advice cuz im only 16 and pretty much what my step dad told me was if my step mom dont leave in the next two years then when i turn 18 he is leaving and wants to take me with him. and of course i will go with him but any advice im just really downn

The crappiest Marriage/Divorce advice.......? Whats with all these "Top Contributer" people and their crappy advice? I've noticed this one user "jude" who has like 5,000 "best answers" but here is an EXACT example of one of her answers, this one to a guy that wants to leave his wife for some ex girlfriend he decided he still had feelings for....she advised: by jude Member since: September 18, 2006 Total points: 92493 (Level 7) Badge Image: Contributing In: Marriage & Divorce Best answer 31%17132 answers Badge Image: Contributing In: Marriage & Divorce Member Since: September 18, 2006 Total Points: 92493 (Level 7) Points earned this week: 192 "if your still in love with your ex your poor wife hasn't got a chance, so u need to get a divorce before u hurt your wife, and she finds out what kind of person u are." 31% of what this illiterate person thinks is "Best Answer"???? WTF??? LOL! Thoughts? Maybe I am the moron, who knows! BTW, "jude" is the TOP answerer in Mariage and Divorce, and I am on my 20th account! Go figure! Ha! Hey "Optimist" most of us here today are actually at work.....I get paid to do this! LOL! But thanks for playing anyway! : )

I am getting a divorce, and have a settlement coming. Need advice on renting or buying home? I am divorcing, and have reached a settlement agreement, husband keeps house and buys me out. I will have a set amount to put down on new home in about 60 days, or sooner. I am trying to decide if it is better to buy right away or rent for 6 months. My fica score is not the greatest, mid 600's, so I will pay off all bills to show no debt, raising my score in time. I am basically a first time buyer since last mortgage was only in husbands name. I was thinking maybe of renting, and putting down payment in 6month cd to earn interest. I am just really confused what to do, as I really wasnt expecting the divorce or a settlement. Thanks.

For any woman who has been through a divorce... Advice needed!!? My husband and I were high school sweethearts; we got married young even though everyone told us not to. To no one’s surprise here we are, three years later, getting a divorce. We both want it, it’s for the best. My mom came and took all of our pictures down and I cried my eyes out. But the worst was yesterday when I got officially served with the papers and I cried the whole afternoon because it became so real. Ok, so here is where I need the advice. I know the divorce is for the best, he was emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive, and he admits to this. I think that is why this is so hard for me, he destroyed who I was inside, and I feel like I need him. But how do I move on from this? How do I pick myself up from this? How do I not dwell on it? I just need some advice on how you maybe picked yourself up and moved on and didn’t feel so bad about it.

Divorce advice for the child.? im 20 yrs old, and i have a twin sister and a 15 yr old brother. i am the only one helping my father with his divorce, hes like 58 and cant write very good, and i do all the writing and reading for him with all the paperwork and he complains to me alot. and its taken a big tole on me. ive gotten sick some nights im soo stressed, i feel quilty becuz i shouldnt be the one stressed even though he is to. i need advice on how to get through it. and i dont like my mother she is the reasons for the whole spilt, she doesnt know how to close her legs

Need divorce advice. I already am the sole provider for our family...if we divorce will I be paying more than? I am currently having to pay? For example... My wife does not work (or so little that it really does not count ie less than $200/week). If we get divorced will I really notice a big difference in my finances since I am already paying for everything from food to insurance to house payment etc. ? Or will I perhaps actually be paying less because I will only be paying a set amount for child support? Live in Texas and don't think there is spousal support since she is actually capable of working...just had decided (on her own) that she would stay home and raise our kiddo. (Because the thought of daycare was so horrible for her to consider...ugh.) Please only factual answers. Thanks in advance.

I need help with military divorce advice...just found out my husband is cheating..? He does not know that I know the truth. I am seeing a lawyer next week, who will hopefully help me. I want to take her advice and not let the cat out of the bag with him yet until he comes home to face me in person. I love him but he has been so mean to me lately and now I find this out. Yes it is true. Anyway, he married me know that I was disabled. I have no job. He promised to take care of me and wanted me to have health insurance. He signed a prenup that he could not touch my inheritance and would pay alimony for five years if eligible. I know it is probably up to the judge to decide, but i know the military looks down upon cheating. I really need support financially and the health insurance. What are my chances if I divorce him of getting any alimony. I live in a no fault divorce state, however he doesn't --he is in school in Illinois. Anyway I just don't want to make a move without taking everything into account. I talked to him before about the horrible emails between him and this girl. He told me he never cheated on me and that they were just friends. Well I got into the chats and it proves otherwise. He has no idea that I know. He got mad at me cussed me out, punched a hole in the wall and is very distant. He says he loves me and wants no one else. He is such a liar. How would you proceed? I don't want to confront him over the phone...I want to do it next month when he comes home. I just want to know your opinion on what support if any I will get from him if I divorce him. He obviously doesn't want to work on the marriage or he would have been upfront when I questioned him. I love him but i must move on I guess. The Jag attorneys would not help me. I even talked to an ombudsman and was told that I could not speak to his commander. So if I get a lawyer, hopefully she will know how to do things. He doesn't even pay the house bills like he is suppose to or want to buy me groceries...so much more to tell..... I am heart broken, but relieved to find out the truth today. He is E2 in the Navy

Why is the only advice people can give here is get a divorce ? I mean who is posting here, 15 year olds who think money grows on trees ? Do people on here realize that getting a divorce might mean you have to blow the money your child was supposed to go to college with on a divorce ? Or that it is already hard enough to scrape by on 2 paychecks ?

My parents are getting a divorce. Any advice? I have gone through spiralling depression to deal with my mom and her drinking problem but I need some advice on how to get through it

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I am going through Divorce Any Advice? I am a 24 year's old woman who is going through divorce and i need advice from anyone to make it as civilized as possible. Husband is 34 and is not to be trusted in any financial issues.... Any advices on what to do , what to ask for, what no to do, what to be careful about?>Thank you all

Need California Divorce Uncontested Process Advice? Question Details: I already finished : 1. Proof of service of summons 2. Certificate of Counsel So what to do next? I'm so confused. Next is: 1. Mail origianl, $335 check and 2 copies to the court and court will mail me back the stamped with copy of certificate of counsel 2. My friend take that copy of certificate of counsel to him to sign or he keeps that copy??? 3. What's next??? Please post step to step for me, thank you so much for your advice!

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I need free legal divorce advice in Mass? I am getting a divorce and we baught a house together. The value is now 15k less then when we got it. How do we distribute the loss?

I have been married for 25+ yrs-need some friendly advice on divorce in MInnesota-? I would appreciate some friendly advice--we reside in MInnesota. Could I please get some advice on different aspects of a divorce. I realize that I need a lawyer--we have property and of course--BILLS. Also, I hear that the 1st step is really big. Oh yes, the other half is retiring in June-not because he can afford it--because he can--he is 61-I am 52 and very sick about the retirement. Thank you for your help-...

Can anyone recommend a good website for serious advice on divorce issues in Canada? I need to choose a lawyer soon, but I also need to choose a country.

Gonna file for divorce, any advice and suggestions much appreciated? We've been married nearly 8 years. It has been rough. He has spent more than half this time cheating, he is emotionally abusive, has been physically abusive to our children, we are two completely different people. We are constantly at one anothers throats, I'm so sick of it, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than to deal with him or anyone like him any longer. I've never been divorced and I am gonna file with legal aid as I don't have much money, but I am new to this and would appreciate advice from those who have been through divorce or perhaps those who are divorce attoneys and so forth. Advice from how to deal, to legal info that would be useful and good to know, is very much appreciated. Thanks so much. Please no advice to go to counseling. We've been there, done that. i have tried to work things out. He will not change. I will never be able to forgive him for his cheating, for the things he has done, the way he has treated me and the children, and for ruining my life this most likely will be contested, because he is controlling, always trying to tell me what to do and blackmailing me, and using anything hecan against me as a pawn, if that don't work he tries to buy my affection. I've told him how I feel but he does not care. He thinks going to church or changing for a short time is gonna make things better, but my love for him has been dead for a long time. I don't wanna be mean or coldhearted in this or take his children away from him, they still have the right to know their dad. I just don't feel that I should have to stay with him for the sake of the kids and be miserable in the meantime. He says things like don't break up the family. He don't understand the emotional trauma he caused me and what kind of pain he put me through that I will never forget. He says leave the past in the past. But the past, was most of our marriage. Lke 5+ years of our marriage My sister is gonna sell me a house in another state, I'm not putting his name on it at all, and she is also helping me with a vehicle. We live together right now, but I am planning on leaving when I get the money saved up. I live in FL I stayed "so long" because I didn't know where to go or what to do, he always made me feel trapped and useless and threatened me with the kids, telling me that he'd get them cause I had no job and he did and anything that I fell for, I'm smarter than that now. Now, I can go to a shelter I imagine, but it's hard to do that, because one of our children was removed from our home and fighting to get him back because he slapped him in the face and left a bruise. I don't want welfare to not return him cause I'm living in a shelter...

Divorce advice for a young childless couple married 1 1/2 years? i have been with my husband for 4 1/2 years we have been married 1 1/2 years. We now realized that we just got married and was together in the first place out of convience and not wanting to be alone. I dont want to be with him anymore and he feels the same but its still heartbreaking for me. We have been together since i was 17 and i have never been alone before. I need advice and motivation and support on how to move on and mend my heart even though its a abnormal circumstance. BTW we have to continue to live together until the end of march due to financial obligations! HELP!

Marriage or divorce advice, please... what would you do? I'll try to make this short.. Married for about 4 1/2 years and I've fallen out of love with him long ago... 1. It's been 8 months since we've had sex, this time around (but he lets me swing, BUT makes me feel guilty about it, sometimes) 2. He's also lazy around the house with most things (but had been making some dinners since we had our baby, 4 months ago). 3. Doesn't back me up with the kids when I'm having a real tough time with them. (kids from my 1st marriage) 4.He is also not consistant with them and gives in easily to get them off his back. 5. Never spends quality time with my son. (mainly just criticizes him.) 6. Makes fun of my own views, sometimes. 7. Very messy around the house. 8. I've threatened many times for divorce and each time he got better, but then went back to his old ways. 9. Selfish. (ie- keeping the house at a comfy level for himself, while I'm extremely cold) 10. Treats me like I can't make my own decisions sometimes or speak for myself. All in all, he is a kind man, but there are a few other complaints as well. I'm out of love with him and want a divorce because I'm very unhappy..... but after "talking" it over with him, last night- I feel like maybe I'm being selfish. What do you think? Please give me your honest opinions? I have talked and begged him to change. Even wrote down what I'd love him to do to me one time. And as far as child support, I told him I'd let him see his daughter anytime he wants. AND that we could try to deal with child support out of court. I told him I would do whatever it takes to try and make it a smooth transition for him and the kids. Also, when I swing, the kids never know where I'm going or what I'm doing. Ok, just for info sake, my first husband was extremely abusive to myself and our kids. That's why I divorced him.

Parents going through a nasty divorce. Need advice? OK, so here's my story... Short version, cuz its getting late... Basically my mom has disowned me for the past year or 2, and its like she's trying to bring my whole family (dads side) down, not just ending her relationship with him. She stopped talking to me mainly cuz she knows i'm siding with my dad, its really sad when you think about it, but the truth is I dont want a relationship with her anymore anyway. All I know is this has been going on for almost a year since she served my father, and nothing has happened yet, unfortunately everyone is still living in the same house... Dad sleeps in his office (in the house) on a fold-a-way bed... That's also his kitchen. He lives out of that one room... I hide in my room, and thats the only room I use, its horrible... Let me tell ya some of the stories about my mom, and then you can formulate your own opion, I think it can speak for itself. 1) I'm gonna start from the beginning here, from when we stopped talking. About 1 1/2 years ago, I lost my mom's cell phone. I apologized to her, but honestly could not afford to just run out and get her a new one either, so there really wasnt much I could do except truly apolgize. Well, I did offer to get a new one within the month, but that wasnt good enough for her. My dad then told both me and my mom, that if this was her attitude then I shouldn't replace it at all, and also it was technically dads phone since he paid for all the lines on the family plan. Mind ya that mom never used the phone anyway, it was always turned off, and usually never charged. But she wanted to prove her point, so for the next several months thats all I heard from her, since I never did replace it. Like my dad said, it would have been a waste of money. Honestly, even before that we had a strained relationship, but not to the point where we didnt talk. 2) Fast foward to her birthday, a few months later. I was working that day. She knew I was going to be working and told me not to worry about taking off, that we'll do something another day or whatever. Well, before I left, she was bitching about something, I dont even know, but I left my gift on her bed. When I came home that night, I found out she had a temper tantrum like a 2 year old cuz my dad decided to do the cake the following night when I'd be home, and also cuz it was the wrong kind of cake, cuz she had gallbladder problems and couldnt have fat. And I was an inconsiderate bitch to even think about buying it for her. I told her that the following year I'll buy her a salad, and write happy F-ing birthday with the fat-free dressing... I mean, please.... First off, I thought she could have some fat, just not overdo it, I didnt know it had to be a fat free. And any normal considerate mother, would have just said, "THanks for the thought, but I really shouldn't be eating that, you guys enjoy it." or something to that effect, or maybe offer to go out and pick out something else that she can have, but no she has to act like a 5 year old instead. Needless to say, her gift was back on my bed, still unopened. Unfortunately I threw out the reciept, so I couldn't return it, but instead just kept it for myself. 3) Now all this above was still almost a year before she served my dad, but I think even back then she was talking about it, and knew she was going to divorce him, so thats the whole point. She brainwashes my sister into thinking that my father is a POS and a deadbeat dad, and all she does is curse him out in front of her. She's only 15. MEanwhile, my mom will be bitching/cursing my father out, and my sister is right beside her cheering her on... How can you do this to your 15 y/o daughter??? 4) Now more recent. Too many stories in between. But I think your starting to get the idea. Anyways, my cousin's wedding was a few weeks ago. I was soooo scared cuz I was afraid she was going to have some sort of outburst there and start a scene cursing at my father or something, and I was honestly really surprised that nothing happened. THat is until my father got a call from my uncle the next day. Now to backtrack, my mom was bitching about needing money for a hotel, etc since it was in NJ, and we're in NY (still only a 3 hour drive, and me and my dad did it w/o hotel, but whatever) for about 2 months prior. My dad just ignores her when she starts, but in the end gave in since it was the only way my sister could go. MY mom said she couldnt afford to go otherwise, and she wouldnt let my father take my sister out of state, so it was the only way she could go. So anyway in the end, my dad gives her 200 for gas/tolls/hotel, etc. So what does she have the nerve to do we find out??? SHe put $25 in the card, thats right 25, w/ a nasty note saying what a POS husband he is for not giving her more money. Now the whole reason why she wanted to go to wedding was to not let my cousin down, please...... 4 or 5 what am i up to???) Some of the things she comes up with that are all lies anyway are really starting to scare me, cuz my dad could go to jail for them. I know the case will go to a judge eventually, cuz my mom is going to fight and fight until the end. Now you go to court and its her and my sister who will be testifying for my mom (although like my boss said, they dont usually involve the children on the stand, but my dad says she might, shes almost 16, actually she will be 16 by then, the court date right now is sept. 18, her b-day is on the 6th) and then me testifyng for my dad. It's her word against ours. I mean, what if the judge takes her side, since theres no way of proving it really one way or anohter. My mom is really good at putting on a front esp. if she can get something out of it. (sidenote just the other day she was bitching for about an hour straight before she realized my dad wasnt even home... HEr reaction?? "You mean I was yelling and bitching all that time for nothing, the POS didnt even hear me???" Yeah, priceless.... It shows her true colors... Anyway, some of the things shes accusing him of: - Physically abusing her. I mean thats so easy to "prove" its ridiculous. All ya need to do is have a bruise from something else, and noone can tell where it came from, and besides courts always side with the mothers. - Not providing food for my sister - First off, my dad does keep food in his office and he locks it when he's not home, hence why my mom is complaining. However, theere is another room called a KITCHEN!!! Besides everytime my dad offers to cook for her its either "Yuck i dont like that" or "im on a diet" - please shes 16 years old. She won't eat a burger cuz it has too much fat, but she doesnt think anything of eating an entire box of oreos cuz sometimes you gotta cheat, so whatever... - porn on computer - Now my moms trying to accuse him of being a micheal jackson cuz some gay porn somehow got on there a few years back.. He said he did not download it and it probably came as part of a virus from aol cuz he used to get a lot of crazy emails. He stopped using aol and hasnt had any problems since. He also said this porn was in one of my moms folders, so very possible she did it to plant it against him. She has also said numorus things against my uncle and my grandmother, including wishing death upon them. MY grandmohter is 75 years old, nearly deaf/blind, wheelchair bound, diabetic, evertying, but shes a "hopeless bitch that wants everyone to wait on her hand and foot". SHe says her mother is an angel cuz she always worked 3 different jobs to support family. Oh please!!!!!!!!!!!! BTW, i dont talk to her side of family at all anymore cuz they're all the same way. She also wants to get my uncle/grandma supbeonad (sp?) for all the money my dad borrowed against them or whatever. LIke my dad said, is this a divorce case or a criminal case???? BUt with all the things my mom is accusing him of, it could very well be both. Has anyone else been through such a nasty divorce... I really need advice. I feel soo depressed lately. And yes, that was the short version, lol.... I could go on and on, believe me. I actually just copied and pasted the above from my myspace group I created. I wrote that a couple weeks ago. Anyway, after rereading it I realized I had a few words on there that were inappropriate and i want to apologize. Also, just want to thank anyone who actually read that, I know it was quite long, lol. I think lately its been bothering me more cuz its been a year and still nothing happening, and im just soooo sick of listening to her all the time, just yelling and cursing... Its gotten to the point where we dont even talk anymore, and in some ways i feel kindda guilty. I mean she is my mom right?? BUt at the same time idk if i can ever forgive her, or if i even want to. BTW, my myspace group is http://groups.myspace.com/teensofdivorcedparents if anyone has a myspace account, please join. It's meant as a support group for any age, not just teens (btw, im 23), and would even appreciate it if i got a few divorced parents themselves to join to give us their perspective... My mom was talking about my grandmother on my fathers side. She' the one thats diabetic, etc. I love my grandmother, shes the complete opposite of that cranky impression that you got. BUt my mom is constantly making comments about her b/c she lets everyboody wait on her hand and foot, etc. The one that works three jobs and is so "perfect" is my mom's mom. And she has the same nasty personality as my mom, yelling and cursing everyone out. THey're not happy unless they're angry. Although I'm not ready to make mend with my mom yet, I do appreciate the different perspectives. The thing is it does go farther back than just the divorce. The divorce and the way shes acting about it was the last straw, but the relationship was declining for a lot longer. And according to my dad, this has been her personality even before they were married (except instead of cursing my father, it was aimed at others), but she was always a negative person. Thanks for the advice everyone, like I said i'm not ready to mend the relationship yet, but it does help see the other side, a little, i guess.... BTW, my dad cant move out because then its abandoment and my mom would get everything, cuz my dad left her. They're still legally married, papers havent been signed yet. I probly could afford to move out, but would only be able to afford the bare essentials and plus it wouldnt be fair to my dad to leave him,. So basically theres nothing we can do...

divorce lawyer advice? Iam having problems with my current divorce lawyer, at first they said the whole cost would be 3,000$ which I paid at the beginning., now they are sticking me with a current bill for $3000 more, and wanting me to always keep money in a trust fund does that sound right? I was wondering if I could switch lawyers during the middle of this, and if I did would he have to give up all his notes and things or would I have to start over with everything. I am currently in the process of turning everything over to District Attorney in the state of Texas for him not contining my case until I pay the rest of the 3,000$. I dont know what to do? Do you have any advice on anything I can do? They wont continue my case until I pay the other $3,000 they billed me with and to me that doesnt seem right ..but does anyone have any advice on what I can do with all of this? I want to get this done as soon as i can because theres so much my future ex husband is hiding (money wise) and my current lawyer wont do anything until I pay the 3,000$ he gave to me. at the beginning of the divorce he told me the whole thing would cost 3,000$ and its bull that hes billing me for everything little thing example: phone calls, emails, faxes, contacting my husband lawyer, and for me contacting them they are charging me..to me it doesnt sound right and I want to switch lawyers! the hold up is they wont continue with it until i pay the rest of the $3,000 from him billing me again. but in the beginning he told me that 3,000 would be all there is and i paid that up front and never recieved a bill and 3-4months into it he throws another $3,000 bill..

Divorce advice? Let me say first that as of now we are both representing ourselves in court. We DO NOT have lawyers and do not plan on getting any until necessary. This is why I'm asking this question on here, so I do not need advice on obtaining a lawyer. We are both in debt big time and agreed to not obtain lawyers for financial reasons I had my divorce papers served to my ex, they were returned back to me because, I guess, he moved to a different county. I have two questions. First do I HAVE to do anything further with his paper work, or have I done "my part" in having them served. Two, IF I do have try again, can I just send them to his parents house, since that's the only other address I know? Our first mediation meeting is on the 2nd of Nov., so, to be honest, I want him to miss the meeting (this guy's a piece of crap (criminal records and domestic violence issues) and I'm trying to do anything I can to keep him away from my daughter and me) if it'll make the case run smoother on my part ps I had the papers served by a county Sheriff

Divorce advice? I am seriously considering divorcing my husband. He is a pathological liar, who cannot keep a job, and I have just had 11 years too much. My question is, when do I say something to the kids. Do I wait until I file divorce papers, or do I sit down and talk to them about it first. (I'm thinking of for some strange reason we work this out, and then the kids know about our problems.. Obviously we fight all the time which is not good for them to see, but I'm sure a divorce will be devastating to them. My husband refuses to discuss a divorce, says he doesn't want one, but I'm pretty sure I do. (I signed up for counseling, but he refused to go, which I just go by myself for my own sanity.) my kids are 9 and 7. Believe me when I say, I have tried, tried, and tried to make this work. It is hard being married to someone who lies constantly, gets fired 4 times in 10 years (BECAUSE OF LYING!) and has put us deeper into debt, day by day. I just want to be happy, so that I'm a happier mother to my children. Right now I am so miserable I cannot take it anymore. I tried to go to counseling together, he wants no part. Everything is "perfect" in his lying eyes! Please don't tell me to find God Amy!!! I just deserve to be happy with my life!!!

Divorce advice? Friends are breaking up. He has total control of their finances and he's cheating on her. She wants to ask for divorce but just discovered that he's closed out all of their accounts. She cannot access any money and the lawyer is demanding a $5,000 retainer up front. Should she look for another lawyer, one who will work with her? Is this normal behavior for lawyers? Husband is screwing her over and now she can't pay for divorce. Help.

Divorce advice.? After 2 years of separation can i get a divorce without the help of a solicitor.

Divorce Advice? One spouse is in Qatar, another in MO. Spouse in Qatar doesnt answer phone, or respond to emails. But has a direct deposit set up to pay child support. How can the divorce be granted if spouse wont send papers back with signature? Can you file without the signature? Actually the father has custody and the mother isnt interested in the children and has minimal contact. she pays child support, but only after nearly 2 years of being away from them and not paying. She hasnt seen them since 2005 and hasnt spoken to them for over a month. And before that, there would be a 5min call every few weeks. No xmas or bday presents, no cards. Nothing.

Divorce advice....? Quick story: I am 34 years old married for 4 years ... together 6. Recently left home. I have been living in my own place for about 6 weeks... started dating great girl recently... Left my wife (she wanted to stay together)... We are divorcing very amicably... Reasons I left: Sexless marriage... Lived 2 seperate lives... Nice girl but did we did not do anything except watch football together. She wants kids and I refuse to bring kids into a unhappy marriage. I ran into her over the weekend, she is dating now as well and I am happy for her.... BUT how do I get over the "OH MY GOD!!! Did I make the wrong decision???? panic attack?" I know I did the right thing for both of us but having a rough day!!

Divorce advice? Ok. I am only 20. My son is 2 and my daughter is 8 months. I got married my senior year in high school because my now wife was pregnant. We had our son, and she just pretty much left it to myself and my mother to take care of him. Well, we ended up having another child. It's the same thing but worse now. She hates doing anything with the kids and they hate her trying to do stuff with them. They only want me, my dad, or my mom. My wife just sits around and doesn't do any housework. She has an attitude all the time. We have tried talking to her but it doesn't work. I am sick of this. I want my children to have a good mother and good life. What should I do? How can I get custody of them? Ok. To all of you trying to preach to me about pre-marital sex, back off. I made a mistake, but at least I was man enough to take responsibility and try to make it work. I'm not trying to totally cut her out of their lives. I just think they deserve better than her.

Divorce Advice??? I was recently married last month. I found out that she was secretly emailing another man with plans on filing for an anullment. She was going to do this secretly and suprise me with it . I also found that she was looking for an apartment. Also she has been having extra activities, what they are I dont know. Mysterious phone calls. Leaving in the middle of the night. We have a home, I pay the mortgage but she is on the deed. How will the affect the home. Could she take it? What is the easiest way out of this? Thanks No, at this point I don't trust her. I could never do that again. I am the elder, we are three years apart. It does seem like some sort of plan. I left out the details like she wanted me to cosign on her auto loan. Not to mention, she just basically stop speaking after Christmas. She didnt have any words for my daughter.

Divorce advice...? Ok this is my 3rd and last posting... My wife and I have been having problems off and on for the last couple of years... Alot of it has been mine and my inability to grow up and our failure to communicate. I moved out about 6 weeks ago... We started to date others and we were at a mediation/counseling session yesterday. One hour turned into 3 and it was amazing... We told each other things that neither of us ever heard. We continued this for another hour after the session and finally decided that we are going to end up stop dating the other people and date each other. Not moving back in and not forcing anything... Baby steps only for now... We are going to see how it goes and be open... no seperate lives and get to know each other. Just want to know your thoughts if this will work.

Divorce advice? Wife and I have been apart for 6 weeks... Both started dating. Today at counseling we decided to date each other but be open to dating others as well. So we are taking baby steps. Great girl but we never communicated. What are the chances of this working?

Divorce Lawyers Advice UK ? Help Quick Please? I need a divorce lawyers advice please please please. There is an ongoing battle between my dad and stepmum as to what each person should get out of the divorce. My stepmum claims she should get half of the value of the properties in my dad's name since they were married because she helped my dad get into it and claimed she helped him and done paperwork (she hasn't done any). My dad has 30 properties excluding his own home in his name and 10 properties joint with her. However i have just realised that my dad said on his wedding video that he appreciated how much she has helped him and how she got him started in properties. Is he now screwed if this case goes to court ? Is there anything he can do about it ? If he has to pay her half of the 30 properties he is going to have to pay well over £1M

Divorce advice in California? My husband and I have decided to divorce. Should I sign papers and go about my way like he wants me to? I agree we should divorce but he had a business prior to our marriage and he asked me to quit my job and work for him.I quit my job and have worked with him Now when we divorce I'm left with the house (it's my parents we rent it) and he says I get everything in the house. Should I just agree? He said the business was his PRIOR to our marriage and everything else is mine. Well, I have a daughter and NO job and tons of bills?? I'm really scared to be left without any income coming in at all... Do I have the right to ask for support until I get a REAL job? I'm not sure how to go about this. I feel like I quit my job and put everything into the business and now it's just over...any advise?

UK - Divorce - Advice on splitting personal items please? My wife's mother and step father are getting divorced after 35+ years of marriage. One thing causing stress is who is entitled to what personal items. They have quite a lot of reasonably valuable items. Most of the most valuable items have been bought by 'him' while they've been together, but 'she' has bought most of the other items. Some of the items 'he' inherited from his parents. A few 'she' inherited from hers. Assuming that the general 'theme' of the divorce will be a 50:50 split: 1 Do the items he has inherited come under the personal items to be split or are they treated differently? 2 If they are treated differently, how are they treated? Are they totally ignored? Or are they treated as part of his assets when deciding the financial split? Or does 'he' get first right of refusal of them? Or what? 3 Are there any 'on line' UK based resources that set out how personal items should be dealt with that 'he' can be pointed towards to see that he is not being cheated? Can they agree between themselves? Hopefully - BUT to do so - they want to know where they stand legally. 'He' thinks that anything that has been left to him or given to him or maybe even been bought by him is therefore 'his' and shouldn't even be considered in any way. In other words, he should get it and it should just be ignored so far as agreeing the split is concerned. 'She' thinks this can't be right, but can't find firm advice. If it is right, she'll accept it. But if it isn't, she want something to show 'him' so he will have to accept the it isn't! Once they know what needs to be split - then they can decide how to split it! They really don't want to take this to court - but seem to be getting conflicting advice from their respective solicitors!

Divorce ADVICE PLEASE!!!? I am going throu a divorce. my husband came to my work and a random guy handed me the petition of divorce while her watch from afar. should a court official have done this or what? and i wasn't asked to sign anything. so its like i never got the papers.

I need Divorce Advice Please!? My husband of 7 1/2 years and I have a 3 year old son. Our marriage has been rocky from the very start. Things have gotten pretty unbearable and he's emotionally abusive as well as loses his temper in front of our son alot. We have talked about divorce a million times and he's tried to kick me out (which he can't do according to a lawyer I talked to) or leave and take the kid. He has said that we should go to a mediator to resolve things should we decide to get divorced. Is it better to do this, or get my own lawyer? I feel that if I get my own lawyer and serve him with divorce papers, he'll be shocked and may even react badly, but with my own attorney, I can be assured that he'll have only my best interest at heart. Should I get my own laywer or try to go to a mediator with my husband? We have seen 4 marriage therapists throughout the course of our marriage and every one has told that we don't belong together. I've left him twice before, one for 3 months, the second time for a few weeks. In my heart, I know this relationship is toxic. I am 33, he's 46. I am on meds a week ago b/c all this was getting to depress me really badly. I feel like I need to be strong and have clarity to be able to go through the divorce. I want full custody but in reality, I know he's a good dad and wouldn't want to keep my son from having a relationship with his dad. HOWEVER, my husband is very well connected to attorneys and for this reason as well, I feel I would need to have my own lawyer in case my husband were to try to pull any fast ones. My husband has a business and I could care less about the money, I am soley concerned about not getting screwed with the custody issues.

Divorce Advice Needed? I am wondering if someone could help me with some answers ? I have been married for less than a year and want a Divorce. The only thing I am afraid of is my truck. We bought it from Sam Swope less than a year ago both of our names are on the title. He sold my grandfathers truck for 1500 which went toward the down payment on the expedition. The payments are behind a little , but what has been paid was all paid by my grandmother and grfather. She keeps all of that info. in her check book where she wrote out every payment and amount. Will I be able to get the truck for me and my children beens he never made payments and is he legally aloud to drive off with the truck anytime?

Divorce advice needed? Here is the situation. My wife is going to file for divorce soon. We have been married almost 2 years (Dec 30,2007 is 2 years).. She says that she doesn't want to even try to rebuild our marriage because she doesn't think she can ever be happy with our marriage. She still cares about me and wants to remain close friends. We are here because of some lies by me last month about paying bills and also because of a small (4-5 times a month) drug problem of mine (i'm in full rehab now under my own choice)... My question is Do you think she is not wiling to try fix our marriage because she is in shock? everything happened all at once in a 2 month timeframe. Do you think that with time (the day i proposed is Dec 24 and our anniversary is Dec 30) she will realize how important being in each other's lives is and become ready and willing to give me a chance to rebuild our marriage?

need some post divorce advice.? I just went out for movies with friends and they brought up my ex husband in a conversation......sigh : It's been a month seen I saw or spoke to him. There was no msg or e-mails cuz he went back to another province to stay with his family. He tried to avoid me cuz the divorce was 99% my fault. Hey, I learned my lessons and paid for the price. The problem is, we still have legal issues to resolve but we just refuse to have anything to do with each other. When we were married, we were so close that we did everything together...like the closest buddy that you share life's essence with. I am hurt too and this pain of separation between us is unbearable. I want to know how I should deal with this and after all the paper work is processed, should I completely cut ties with him? Can I pretend he is dead? Can couples that was once beyond close and familiar with each other just turn face like that? it does hurt, i try not to show emotions because he is heart broken and the last thing he want is me to say anything that will give him second thoughts. I thought me being cold is for the best of the situation.

Need divorce advice please? I have been separated from my husband for 10 + years and am engaged to a good man.I need a quick divorce and he is no where to be found.I live in Tennessee Can anyone help.....?

Quick divorce advice for VA.? I’ve been married going on 8 long years. It just isn’t gonna work. The army has me gone most of the time. We’ve been separated 3 times (not counting numerous deployments) & dragging this thing on for years. We have no kids I bought everything we own. No house, investments, ect, ect. Like stated before I am in the army but doesn’t mean I have it made. In fact it just the opposite. My wife is vindictive b/c she suspects me of cheating but I haven’t. She said if I try to leave her she’ll ruin my career & in the army a allegation is all you need. She wants to work it out. I really don’t know where to begin. I want a quick & painless divorce (yea right). I want everything b/c I bought everything but would give all that up for my freedom. I really want to keep the car. We for the most part are bill free so I can pay for a decent attorney. My plan right now is to let her latest temper tantrum settle. Kiss her butt & since I’m deployed again for another 6 mo. Hit her up with some papers.

Co-Parenting through Separation and Divorce. Professional Advice!!!!!!!!? Firs of all, I’m sorry about my English (it is my second language) I hope you understand my question: I have a friend who just got divorced, she has a 4-year-old daughter. She is already going out with several guys and since she does not have a babysitter she takes her kid with her to her dates. In my opinion that absolutely traumatic for the little girl, making her a very confuse child. The girl rather to be with her dad, who has 33% of her custody. Please…. I need the professional opinion of a psychologist. I have said to my friend that I don’t agree with that and that she is harming her child. But she thinks that she is not doing something wrong. Could you give me your opinion, and how can I help her to understand that what she is doing is not acceptable. Thank you so much!… I really appreciate your professional advice. She live far away from me, I work and I have my family… I babysat a lot for her… but she goes out all the time, and invites the guys at her home. She doesn’t want to hire a babysitter.

Need advice on divorce? In a bad marrage,I was talking to my daughter who is 9 about "What if's"My daughter asked if we were getting a divorce.I didnt answer her.She told me straight out that if we did she wanted to live with me. The advice I'm asking for is should I get a seperation first and then try for a divorce and take my daughter?I dont want her to turnout like her Mother. My wife quit working about 7 yrs ago.The deal was that she would get a job when the kids started school.When they started school she would spend everyday at school with them.The school asked that she not come back because she would dissrupt the classes.My wife decided to take them out and homeschool without my permission. They are now being homeschooled for 3years.I dont see any improvement.My wife also quit having sex about 7 years ago.I have my own bedroom.I have been faitful this hole time.I work a full time job,cut lawns,work at my church,and do charity work.I'm at my wits end with her.We are barly surviving. We dont fight anymore.I refuse to.We dont talk either. I'm sorry did I come on here to get bashed?I thought it was to get advice.Hum it seems to me that the more I read ,the more its the women virsus the men.I'm really sorry that you feel the need to hurt someone that you dont even know,but thank you for your input. I've tried everything,She doesnt seem to think we have a problem.I've spoken to three ministers,I go to church.I've talked to friends and family.My Mother-in law cant believe that I've stayed this long,my Father-in law is a retired minister and friend.I havent told my wife yet,thats why I'm on here.

advice on divorce, selling old house, buying a new one? I am looking in to a divorce with my husband of 13 years. we never had kids together, he has two from a previous marriage and I have one. All of our kids have children. I live with him now and we have not yet started the conversation on what we will do. So far all we have come to say is that we both will try to make this as best for each other as possible. What I need to know is how easy is it to still live with your intended ex until you both can save enough money for a down payment on other homes. We will be selling our house and will probably stay there together until it is sold, to save money. Because we have refinanced last year we won't have much equity to walk away from. Anyone got any advice from personal experience? thanks ☺

Advice on Divorce? I have been thinking about getting a divorce. My husband has not physically cheated on me that I know of but he has done some things on the phone as in taking pictures of himself and getting pictures of girls including my best friend. He cannot save money and is in so much debt. I am just emotionally tired of it. He doesn't help out around the house but he is a very good dad to out little boy. I have asked him many times to save money b/c we need to get bills paid off but he continues to do the opposite. I need advice on how to handle this situation

I need legal advice about divorce? I need legal advice about divorce? I obtained retirement money from a previous marriage. I opened an account and put the money into it. I have since remarried. If I divorce this man to I have to share that money with him?

Legal advice for divorce.. He is too nice!! Help? A friend of mine is the sweetest guy and going through a divorce, good since she cheated on him 7 times! The are done and somewhat get along. 3 kids in the middle and she has all the control gets 2600 a month from him, barley works, and then asks for more money when has none. He takes care of his kids very well ages 10,7 and 5 all want to live with him she says no. He has asked many lawyers and legal services advice since she cant be proven to be un-fit he has no chance in taking legal and psychical custody. He asks her all the time let me take them they want to live with me and there about 3 hours apart so when he isn't at work he's with the kids. Dont know what I can say or do to help him out and hope there is something of legality he can do to have his kids happy and let her figure herself out. She has anxiety and takes medication more than needed and don't know if that could help his case, but I do know he is getting walked on bad and in attempt to do anything for his kids.