War on Divorce

Divorced MEN!!! What advice do you have for both men and women that are looking to get married?

Advice from divorced men please? My BF has been divorced now for 2 years. Last year around November he told me that he will always have love for the mother of his child but he's not inlove with her anymore. How do i get this guy to open up to me emotionally...cause frankly i'm getting tired of not knowing where i stand. He also said that he cares for me a lot but he's not inlove with me. Any insight on the matter?? He doesn't want me to stop seeing him but he also keeps telling me he need time and he's not ready and he doesn't know what he wants. Not to be conceited but i think i'm a great catch so why can't he make up his mind.

Divorce Advice??? I was recently married last month. I found out that she was secretly emailing another man with plans on filing for an anullment. She was going to do this secretly and suprise me with it . I also found that she was looking for an apartment. Also she has been having extra activities, what they are I dont know. Mysterious phone calls. Leaving in the middle of the night. We have a home, I pay the mortgage but she is on the deed. How will the affect the home. Could she take it? What is the easiest way out of this? Thanks No, at this point I don't trust her. I could never do that again. I am the elder, we are three years apart. It does seem like some sort of plan. I left out the details like she wanted me to cosign on her auto loan. Not to mention, she just basically stop speaking after Christmas. She didnt have any words for my daughter.

I need some advice from Christian divorced men/women, serious answers only please? I've been divorced about 7 years, my daughter is 9 now. when she was 6 months and my life was crashing down I finally turned everything to the Lord, asked for forgiveness and accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. I started dating about 3 years ago and quickly met a nice Christian man. at about 10 months he was having committment issues I guess, so that ended. We remained celibate(although no one believed that) through our relationship. Since that ended 1 1/2 yr. ago, I've been trying to meet Christian men to no avail. My church is small so no luck there. I have dated other men but the talk about the Lord is missing. I recently met a man and I'm embarrased to say that my libido is in high gear. I enjoy his company and the physical component I foresee as a problem. I'm having a very hard time resisting. I miss the companionship and physical aspect of a marriage. I know it would be wrong, but I'm wavering. I'm very attracted to him and I've only seen him three times. My former husband left me, after 15 years of marriage and our 9 month old daughter for another woman and got her pregnant. So as far as divorced and not being Christian I cover the Bible's release by infidelity and abandonment.

Men who have been divorced, separated, or are still married. NEED ADVICE, does he want a divorce or not? Please, I need some constructive criticism and advice that is sincere. It's been 1.5 years now, does he want a divorce or not? I haven't talked to my estranged husband for almost a year and I we haven't seen each other and he hasn't seen our son in the same amount of time and has never seen our daughter. I was able to find out his number (previously changed it b/c he tried to get a divorce behind my back) i was mainly wanting to inquire about any divorce papers to be filed and where to send them. I didn't even get to finish my entire message. Why did he sound like he was getting irritated and annoyed? And tells me to stop calling his phone but when I call again to finish my message he answers? So if I am giving him what he wants...which may be what I want and finally see it's for the best and tell him that, why is he getting defensive, being mean, and hostile? I'm moving on in life in a very positive direction and am finally living and being the woman I know I was created to be. I'm also doing really well with BOTH our young children which he hasn't seen in almost 2 years and hasn't even given me a penny to help take care of. He hasn't file as of late. Yes, we had problems like any other married couple, but he's the one who made the choice to leave his family to be single again and basically free himself of what it takes to be responsible for a family. There have been so many cruel things he has done not only to me, but while I was pregnant with both children. Before I met him, I was so goal-oriented and made sure I did what I needed to do to get a job done. Then when we got married, it seemed like he never wanted me to do anything, he always wanted me in the house, etc...I'm sure a lot of you know how THAT goes. Now, I have gone back to school and basically have the freedom that you need on a daily basis like drive myself somewhere and leave places when I'm ready to leave. BTW, he has had a history of domestic violence, but was never physically violent towards me. He is 17 years my senior. I'm still in my mid 20s. Maybe the saying "things fall apart so better things can fall together" is true. I still have my whole life ahead of me and 2 beautiful kids to raise. From a male's perspective...what is going on and why is he acting that way? He filed for divorce last Feb. but the case was dismissed. He didn't even amend anything...just let it go. The judge gave him a total of 50 days to amend and make changes to the grounds he claimed and he didn't make any changes. So the judge dismissed it. And why hasn't he filed for a divorce again if that's what he really wants? BTW, I've already filed child support last year, and he recently has been to court...no word yet regarding the outcome. I don't want a divorce...but also am not comfortable with filing for one right now. So does he want a divorce or not? I feel like calling him or texting him to ask what the deal is...but then again people are telling me to leave him alone, do not call or text him. I have been calling the circuit clerk every week to find out what the judge ordered regarding the child support but haven't heard anything yet. I'm thinking about visiting the state he lives in June not necessarily see him, but my good friends and people from my church who have supported me and continue to support me through all of this. Is he in a way trying to "punish" me by not wanting to do anything with his own flesh and blood? You sure bet I will do what I need to do to get that child support. But does he want a divorce or not?

Newly divorced mom needs advice from divorced couples men and women here my background? Been divorced 1 yr married for 8 yrs with 6 yr old son.Bitter divorce found out ex was cheating with old gf and left me for her.Things are better now i'm still resentful but try to be nice for my son and ex does the same. here's my question what do you and your ex do as far as parent/teacher conferences go? Go together or at different times? What about birthday parties or halloween do you and your ex do joint parties or does he do his own thing?My ex lives in the same town as us and i would say we have an "average divorce" meaning we don't want to kill each other but i'm still resentful for what he did to me and he wants as little contact with me as possible.I think we should do some of these things together but i know my ex will not.He is a great dad and i know he will do all this things on his own.So please just let me know how you all handle this issues. Oh yes he is no longer with the gf he left me for but a new one who i do not get along with so this is half the problem.

I need legal advice about divorce? I obtained retirement money from a previous marriage. I opened an account and put the money into it. I have since remarried. If I divorce this man to I have to share that money with him?

Why do so many women ask for advice on divorce? What the hell is up with that? Can't you make up your own mind? Does begging for non-direct sympathy gain wisdom and power in order to kick your man to the curb? It seems most men don't reach out for advice and women get it from everywhere (all for free.) Constantly men are helping out hoards of wailing women all over the world when they need to know how to screw over their husbands in a divorce, and in return most of them wouldn't help you out if your life depended on it. What gives?? The ratio of women asking advice on divorce (here at Yahoo) is about four women to every man asking for advice. It may seem like a burning question in a way, but honestly... I'm curious. After hearing women discuss an issue like this... They'll listen to gay men, hateful women who've had terrible marriages, etc. They don't always seem to get advice from quality people (in my opinion) and instead take the advice from the worst and go with it. Ummm.... Ann (and others) Me hurt? Yes, 8 years ago but that's not why I'm asking this qiestion. Every day I see people ask for divorce advice and what a downer it is to see people constantly asking the same questions before browsing the million other already asked questions on divorce. lol

advice on dating a man with two girls? Hi thanks for the responses to my previous question re this...I just genuinely want some advice about divorced men and their daughters..aged 11 and 15. I do not have kids and have never dated a man with children, but I've always gotten along great with them....I guess I just want to do this right and respect everyone involved because I care about this man...I guess sometimes I'm just a bit confused, because this is all new to me and I want to understand...

divorce advice?? i am trying to break ties with a very abusive man. but i need to do it without him knowing? i have heard of a way to post a notice of divorce at the court house but i cant get anyone to tell me which form i need. i was with him for 22 yrs. and have had a lot of bones broken, i was in a wheel chair for 6 yrs because of him, but i finally got away, had corrective surgery and can walk again. it took a lot but i am finally doing good for myself. BUT he keeps finding me and pulling the "your still my wife" card... i dont want to have to face him in court.. i'm still very afraid of him... but i do want a divorce.. i had a friend once who did a divorce this way but i've lost contact with her.. i had to cut ties to most everyone. he is really crazy and restraining orders dont work, police never show up on time,... i just need this for myself, please???

Need advice!! Dating a divorced man with a son? I have a friend who is going through a messy divorce. Given our friendship, I fell into dating him, which I have realized is probably not the best idea. I am going to put a hold on our relationship until the divorce is final...however, I am now apprehensive about the relationship period. I love his son, he's 6mths old. But the wife is crazy, as crazy as it comes and I feel that she will make our lives unbearable if she can. There is a possibility that she will get deported as she doesn't have stay in the US. This man is at least 85% of the things I want in a man. If he didn't have this baggage, I'd be deliriously happy. I have very little dating history so I really donno what to do. I have issues being with a man who would be with such a lunatic for so long...why I keep asking. Advice please!

Need divorce advice please? I have been separated from my husband for 10 + years and am engaged to a good man.I need a quick divorce and he is no where to be found.I live in Tennessee Can anyone help.....?

Advice for a man to get custody after divorce? His wife is verbally abusive to their kid.? He has started writing down instances when her outbursts occur (she'll curse at their 8-year-old for nothing) and he wants the kid to live with him and for her to just get visitation after the divorce. What other steps should he take to make a better case for this? He feels it would be damaging for the child to live with her most of the time (plus, he's very close to this child-- it's the only reason he's stayed married this long). Any help, especially from a lawyer, would be appreciated.

Advice on dating a divorced man? I have been dating a divorced man for about a year now. He has been divorced 4 years but I think he is still in love with his ex. He talks about her all the time, the past and the present. They have 2 girls together so I understand she will always be around but I sometimes think they should try and work it out. Any advice? I am at a point where I feel she is always going to be 1st and he cannot love me b/c he still loves her

married/pregnant and getting a divorce---some advice please? I'm currently married but in the process of getting a divorce. Since me becoming pregnant, everything in my world has been turned upside down. My husband is divorcing me because he wanted me to abort our baby and I couldn't go through with it. I know that we can't technically afford to have a child right now, but to kill the child to make life more convenient for us just didn't feel right and to me isn't right, that's why I chose my baby's life. My husband was my high school sweetheart and everything to me, so this whole thing has been devastating. Since this incident I've been forced to move in with friends, I have no job right now and I have been looking for one, also, I'm the one responsible with all the bills right now we have. I can't even afford to get legal counsel for our divorce papers and don't even know where to begin. This whole thing has been hard being forced to be a single mom---How can a man just a abandon his family? Any advice or encouraging words please? Thanks to all of you for the helpful and supportive words so far. I didn't get to type much in my first message, but my husband has said that he's done with me. He said if I choose to have this baby and "ruin it's life and make it suffer" due to our financial situation, then he says he has no respect for a person like me and won't have a thing to do with me or the child. The thing is, we both have decent job trades, but I was just taking some time off from work because I was a full-time student pursuing another career (nursing), that if I had been able to finish would have been lucrative. The sad thing is, his parents are completely behind him and think that by us having a baby it's going to ruin our chances at decent educations, ect. They too have told me that they don't ever want to see the child and my husband is currently living with his parents again....like a little boy. It's a really sad situation and it's sad that parents condone this behavior..keep me in your thoughts.

Can a divorce be obtained in Kansas without a lawyer ? I have a friend whos wife beat him up in front of witness.The police have record of it.His wife left with another man and has not called him back fo 25 days now.She also left him with the three small children to take care of by himself.They have no money for an Attorney and he is affraid she will come back and try to cause problems.He wants the children and a divorce.Any advice would be appreciated very much. He has went to the courts and got a temporary restraining order but she can't be found to serve it.

Advice about divorcing a man in the military? My husband cheated on me multiple times while we were together & although we tried to work things out for a year he continued cheating on me regardless. I left him & moved back home with family a year ago but we still aren't divorced. He kept telling me he would take care of it but he's never been one to keep his word. He went into the Navy shortly after I left him & he is now stationed in California. I have very little money right now because I had to leave my car behind when I moved & it's been hard getting a job with no transportation. I should also mention my husband wants me back & that's probably why he won't handle the divorce himself & I have a feeling he'll give me problems signing the papers if I come up with the money & file myself. He also has a girlfriend I should mention. Getting back with him is not an option. My question is, how would you recommend I go about getting a divorce? Should I contact his commanding officer and explain the situation? What should I do?

I am married for 10 years to a man who is Narcissitic Personality. I want to Divorce, please advice...?

A have question:HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend and abaut divorce? I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.

I need some Advice (((A DIVORCE LAWYER WOULD BE NICE)))? I need some Advice from a divorce lawyer... My husband of 11 years, but I have been with him for 17 is coming into some money in a law suite from Work men's Compensation Aug 25Th he should know how much he will get... I want to get a divorce from him because he JUST cheated on me and over the 17 yrs has cheated many times... He said if I go file now he will not give me anything, but if I stay he will give me what he feels he should... He said he got hurt not me and I should be lucky to get what he gives me... My question I guess is how do I go about getting some of it? I THINK I should get half of it (right) when he gets the check it's in his name... I will not even no when he gets it... So what can I do?? I know I'm saying this all wrong I have not slept in 4 day's and this is driving me insane... ~~~I need HELP~~~ "Try getting a job and support yourself" I have a JOB thank you... I supported him!

What am I entitled to when I divorce a Turkish man? I have been married to my Turkish husband for five and a half years and live in Turkey. He now wants to divorce me but I would like some advice on what I am financially entitled to. His parents died last year and left him houses and land. Am I entitled to half of everything he owns including the land and houses? We were married in 2003. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.

Advice on a divorced man? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. When I met him he was going through a divorce. He did not tell his now ex-wife about me until the divorce was 100% final which was recently. I just met his children for the first time last month. I still have not met his ex wife. Am I crazy for thinking she should have known about me a long time ago? We practically live together and are very serious. I do not think she knows the seriousness of our relationship. They get along well and speak everyday. Was it wrong for him to wait so long to tell her? He says he wanted to wait until the divorce was final because he did not want to hurt her and there was a chance she could still take his retirement money (once he retires) if she was angry with him.

Help! Need advice on dating DIVORCED man!! men & women!? I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months. we've known each other for over 10 years & reconnected last summer He divorced his ex-wife a year ago I know the whole story from his point of view & we also have the same circle of friends that we've kept in touch with from HS so I've heard from them a little over a year ago the same story Everything was going great until about a month ago He started acting weird towards me a little distant we talked about it and its gotten betterWe don't see each other as much as we would like because we're both so busy me with my job & business&himwith his business and 4yr old son who is adorable. I expect his son to come 1st. However something so stupid like on myspace he is classified as single. 5 months ago he didnt want anyone to know he was in a serious relationship, that has changed. Hes still single on myspace. His business team knows hes with me but 1 person is obsessed with him and I think she doesnt realize how serious we r b/c of that. I'm getting so jealous. i know he would never date her b/c shes totally not his type, im not worried about that. i just dont understand why he's still "single" on myspace. he explained to me why 5 months ago and he brought it up. now, its different. we're serious with each other. she knows we're dating but i dont think she, or other people for that matter, know. does he not want to feel like he's taken? i wish i could get the whole situation on here, but its too complicated to get into. any advice dating divorced people? im not the first woman he's dated since he left his ex wife. but he loves how i make him feel and we have a blast together, and he says he loves me. i just dont want to feel jealous.

Need advice on dating a seperated man that still needs a divorce? I have been dating a married but seperated man for about a year and a half. He also has 2 kids, 5 and 2. I've had nothing but stress in this relationship and he is extremely lazy. he lets everything in his life go including his car, has a crappy job and can barely afford to take care of his kids. He has had to move back in with his mother. Can this relationship really work or am i wasting my time?

Men: I need your advice? If your a 28 year old man, recently divorced and you meet a girl that you like alot. From the get go you tell her that you dont want either of you to set any expectations, to let this be casual and put it in fates hands. What are you basically saying???? thanks xoxo

Question for the Divorce Women and Men Out there? How soon is too soon to date? Does anyone have any storys on when they got divorce and started dating again? What not to do? what to do? Any Advice?

In Need of your advice? Mature Anwsers Men and Women Please? So now almost single status myself and my divorce almost final. ( have been seperated for a year) I am dating a man who as well has been seperated for a long time too ( about a year as well). He and his ex have talked about getting the ball rolling for offical divorce yet are not very active in doing so due to finaces. My question is even though it is over with in you heart and eyes and only a paper issue would it bother you as a woman to be single dating a man who says he will eventually get around to it when the funds are availbe? And for you men is it ok with you if you were in this possition knowing your girlfriend was bothered by it and he knows you are? They will not ever get back together neither will my ex and I but we both have good relationships due to children involved. Am I wrong to think of this as odd? I dont want to get married again for a while and my BF and I have discussed the issue yet I would like to know we are by law "single" if that makes sense. Your advice ty. So I talked more w/ my BF and he and his ex are very much for getting the divorce rolling and are going to do it. They both are activly trying to save up the funds to do so to split it evenly and to make sure they have enough to do so. He is so over with her and they only talk in regards to the children. I know this is true as I am around when this happens, we are very honest with each other and that is a wonderful aspect of our relationship. Thank you for all your input, I was able to use what you all had said in some way or another to talk to him more about it and he knows how I feel and is considerate of my feelings, he loves me very much and I see that in all his actions not just his words.

Need advice on dating divorced man?? He has trust issues b/c he thinks ex wife cheated on him with the guy shes with now. He left her a year ago. How should I deal with this trust issue that I'm going through with him???

I need advice on dating after divorce...? Okay, here's the deal. This advice is not for me, it is for my mom. My parents were married 19 years and then divorced. My dad has had no trouble dating and moving on, but my mom can not seem to pull herself into the whole dating scene. She has no self-confidence after the divorce and she does not realize all of the things she has to offer; great personality, sense of humor, looks, etc. The thing is, being her oldest daughter, I have always been like her rock. Now she is coming to me asking what she should do and where she should go to meet men, besides bars. I am only 20 and I have no idea how older people (she is 40) meet and date. Any advice for her?

I need advice from men re: flirting? Seems like a crazy question, but I'm getting divorced and I've been out of the "scene" for about 12 years. I have no clue about flirting now! There's a man I'm interested in, but I don't know what to do about it. (He's a few years older than me.) Men? Help?

I need legal advice about divorce? I need legal advice about divorce? I obtained retirement money from a previous marriage. I opened an account and put the money into it. I have since remarried. If I divorce this man to I have to share that money with him?

Can I get some advice on a family dispute over land and divorce agreements from 23 years ago? I'll give this to you in 3rd person form so as not to lead anyone in any direction: In 1983 a couple w/ 3 grown sons was divorced. The man had a small farm that had been in his family for several generations. To keep things more civil the woman didn't try to take the farm on the VERBAL agreement that it was given to the sons & the man agreed. They both remarried and now the man is sick, maybe dying. He says he is going to sell the farm and pay his debts and planned funeral expenses so he can die debt free and 2nd wife won't have to spend the insurance on him. If any money is left over he will divide it among the 3 sons. The sons say it is not his to sell, but theirs due to agreement of 23 years ago. Legally, the deed has the man's name on it. Should the proceeds be split w/1st wife because of the agreement (everything else was divided equally at the time of the divorce). Should all money go to sons? Should 2nd wife get any of it? The man wants to be fair and just, but WHO'S FARM IS IT I am not either wife. One of the sons is my friend and he asked my opinion on the matter. He is concerned that 2nd wife is out to take the farm and any or all proceeds from it. She had already spent all of the man's money on new cars, cruises to the Bahamas and fancy clothes. Now she is pushing him to sell the farm to pay all the debts she has accumulated b4 he dies from this illness and she is left having to pay the bills which are rightfully hers. He is a simple man with down-to earth tastes. I have known them all for 15 years. He would have never bought a new Cadillac (he drives a pickup) or taken a cruise. I fear my friend is right in that 2nd wife is draining his dad and now trying to take the last thing he has- the farm.

wife wants a divorce, need advice........? My 24 yr old wife of 2 1/2 yrs wants a divorce. she says shes sure, and she is already going to clubs and trying to meet another man. we have a 4 yr old and 2 yr old together. she has refused marriage counseling, mediation, and even counseling to help us both be civil through this. How can I appeal to her better sense and ask her to at least have a civil divorce where we can remain friends, as it will be less stressful and best for our kids? I dont know what to believe, as i have found out she has told me countless lies on various subjects since before even giving me the news. im a very level headed person who doesnt see why we cant go through this as adults. i hold no ill will towards her, even after coming home to a her and a guy in our childrens bed together. what is the best approach? im lost... if u would like, feel free to contact me at capecodboy at gmail com. thanks guys!! also, i am working with a psychologist and priests to make sure im doing whats best 4 the kids also, i have left the house already, about 5 weeks ago. im in MA, which is unfortunately a no fault state, and as of yet child services and my attorney said her actions arent enough for me to have sole custody, although i believe she is not on the right track and is putting the kids 2nd to herself. as one of the answers suggested, she absolutely got mad @ me for always being calm and not an argumentative person. i believe in talking things out, not yelling, and she hates that. not sure what that says about her as a person.....

Does anyone have biblical advice on divorce after infidelity.?.....What about if you have kids? I'm a Christian man with a wive who has had several affairs (more that 4). After separating for about 2 months, she says that she misses me and our child and she says that she has changed and wants to start going to church. In the process of our separation, I met a really nice young lady (who is a Christian). I stopped talking to my friend when she said that she was willing to work things out. I really need advice. I have probably lost a good friend in all of this, but I had to do what was best for the child..............HELP

A have question:HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend and abaut divorce? I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.

Advice from men and married women??? My bfd is 33 and divorced, we live together and have a great relationship, I am 25 and he is the 2nd man in my life. I dont have much experience about sexlife. he thinks of me as a shy not very adventurous woman so I need some advices of crazy, wild things to do with him. I am open to it. I know he likes tghis things but he doesnt try them because he is afraid of scaring me away. I have asked him to try but still he is a little conservative about showing what he really knows. So tell me I want to surprise him, show him how good and wild I can be. I have done all the classic stuff, dancing. sexy lingerie, outdoors, etc. But I want to know if there is something more, something great and extreme that men really like. Please give honest opinion, go wild suggest fantasies, Tell me anything form your deep wild instinct. Women tell me what have you done to your men that they like. Thank you!!!

For women only please, need advice on men? I am in my late 30's. I was married once but have been divorced for about 7 years now. I've been relationshipless for over a year now. Guys hit on me a lot at work but they only want sex, they are married and I always say no. At first the attention was flattering but it has gotten old and to the point that I don't believe anyone could want me for anything else. I dress nice but not slutty. I'd say I'm a little on the shy side so I'm not used to going up to men and telling them that I think they are cute or anything. I have lots of activities outside work such as school and dance class. Everyone I meet seems to be married wether I meet them at work or somewhere else. I don't want to get involved with a married man but sometimes I think that is all that is left. How can I meet a guy that is not just after a "piece"?

Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married? Today's society has very relaxed rules as it pertains to the what is proper etiquette between men and women, and because of it infidelity, divorce, and STDs are at an all time high. It is my view that once men and women are in committed relationships or married they need to be a damper on seeking advice, insight, and conversation from members of the opposite sex. Far too often "male" and "female" friends have ulterior motives and hidden agendas when dishing out relationship advice. After all is said and done when one decides upon a companion of the opposite sex it should be a person intelligent enough to resolve the issues that will arise or at least sensible enough to seek out a solution and bring it back home.

Divorce/ Lawyer advice needed...ASAP? Here's the situation.....I have a lawyer because I recently got divorced. The divorce is now finalized. My husband (ex i guess) of 15 years was military...but has retired, well he was ordered by the judge to pay me half of what he earned meanwhile all the years which we were together. Now what my husband did was transferred the money into his different accounts, I know this because I once saw a couple statements - but that resulted in me getting hit very badly and having to go to the emergency room. The divorce is over with, and I do get some compensation but not much. I mean I went through a lot with this man. I want to know if I should pay my lawyer - or another lawyer...to do further research? Are there private detectives that research records, because my lawyer did a horrible job a obtaining more information. She didnt even conttact the Military Legal department which would have furnished more information to her. Any advise would greatly be appreciated!!!!

Divorce Advice? What the !@#$ can I do???? My husband and I live AND work together- we both commute to NJ from PA. We have a 5 yr old daughter(who is visiting grandparents til july 16th.) Our lease doesn't end until March - we are living as roomates (with me on the couch), my 10 yr old son (from another marriage) is staying w/ us for the summer...I feel so completely trapped. I couldn't possibly afford to have a place on my own AND support our daughter when she gets back, so I can't move out. He WON'T move out - not that I could afford the house on my own anyway. I cannot get away from this man, he is making me insane. Hostility is high, I can't sleep at night, I keep having to "run away" on the weekends (when my son is with his dad) just to get away from the house for a day. I'm at a loss here. I can't quit my job OR move out and we are NOT going to reconcile. I'm trapped like a rat, and he is loving it. I wouldn't post such personal issues, but I need some serious advise-my counselor doesn't even have any solutions to offer My son is staying with us during the week - coming to work w/ me. I can't go to a shelter anyway, I'm not in danger - except maybe from going nuts. Unfortunately, as low-paying as it is, I have yet to find a better job and, sorry, but NO I CANNOT afford a place. Where I live, its easily 800 and month for a 1 bedroon apt. I only get paid 2x that a month. My husband makes 3x's what I do, so HE can afford to live where he wants and support our daughter. So how do I explain that to a judge. Maybe I should just go w/o her until I can get on my own two feet?

My brother is going to get a divorce. Need SERIOUS advice only.? My brother and his wife are deciding to get a divorce in January. They have had problems for a long time now. This is no big surprise to anyone. Friday morning he caught her buck naked in bed with another man. They were hungover. Nothing happened b/c he couldn't activate his one eyed snake. Neither of them has much money for lawyer. They want custody to go smoothly so they have 50/50. Jen will have during week and Lou to have them on weekends b/c he goes to work 5 am. Any advice on how to work out some peace, what about lawyer, and what about summer vacations? Any help will be appreciated on this topic. Thanks for advice on shared parenting, neither of them paying support, the financial aide affice, no fault divorce, court appointed mediators. Got another problem... What to tell the kids? I'm the aunt and they look to me for all answers. Also, so does the rest of this crazy family I happen to be in. I am the only sane one I swear!

I need advice from men (LOL)? Story 2 long 2 tell. Separated over 6months. We said we'll go 2 da courthouse 2gather to file for divorce. However everytime I say lets go. He say he can't take off work? Do he really want a Divorce?Please try to just answer the question, really its a long story. I know we still love each other, just can't live togather any more. It may sound crazy to some. Other may understand. Please Help

In need of men advice? Well, here i am 27 and divorced single for 5 years which is great by all means, but I really haven't dated much because of what i have been through and my outlook on men has become tainted. i am very picky in whom i chose to date which isn't all that bad, right? When it comes down to men, I seem to find the older men and the freakyish men are attracted to me and I can't figure out for the life of me why that is. I'm 5'5 with dishwated blonde hair and blue eyes, fit too. When i find a guy that i enjoy being with they seem to find excuses to putting me off or seem to not be into me. i am a professional artist working in a big city, i can be intimidating at most times and very shy. I guess i need to nkow where i'm going wrong in dating? Is it my attitude because of what i have been through? Oh and i'm not very affectionate either and i could care less about sex because i have cists that keep coming back and are very painful. Is it the sex factor or affectionate part too?

MEN WHO CHEAT: I need some advice from you guys. How do I know when he means it? My husband left me for someone else. Anyway, I have two kids. An old boyfriend contacted me and has visited town to see me three times. He says that he is separated from his wife. He lives out of town. How can I tell whether this is true or not? I HAVE NOT slept with him and I know how men can be. What advice can you give? I asked him why they split and he said that she wouldn't listen to him or do anything to make it better. He aked her to not let the kids sleep in the bed. He asked her to join a gym with him. He asked her to go away without the kids at least four weekends a year. He asked her to go out to dinner with him once a week. He asked her to kiss him hello and goodbye. She refused to do any of it. OK. May be true or not. That doesn't mean that he will divorce her, right? Part of me says to just not date until someone shows me the divorce papers signed by the judge. But there are a lot of separated people out there. How do I tell when it is ringing true?

I need some advice from men that have possibly felt this way or done this, and women can help too!? I told my husband i wanted a divorce, but we've been together 8 years and 1 year married, things were just going wrong, well after i told him i wanted a divorce i realized i made a mistake and i wanted my husband back b/c i wanted to work on things, we have a 3 year old daughter and we've been together for a while like i said, well after i told him i wanted a divorce and he ended up contacting me after 3 weeks, and we got back together, i found out that for the 3 weeks he had slept with someone else not once but 3 times, and all kinds of other stuff, i need to know why a man would do this?? is it b/c he doesn't love you, is it a rebound relationship?? He tells me he made a mistake and that im his world, and he is truly sorry he wishes he could take it back, but im just curious to why a man would do it?? and to women if you have ever been in a situation like this, tell me how to deal with it, I mean i told him i wanted a divorce, but why would he do this??? please help!!!

desperatly need advice on, "do i divorce him"? I HAVE BEEN WITH THE SAME MAN FOR OVER 7 YEARS AND WE DECIDED TO MARRY..MAYBE A MISTAKE NOT SURE..HE DOES NOT SEEM TO BE IN LOVE WITH ME ANYMORE HE IS ALWAYS PUTTING ME DOWN,CALLING ME NAMES AND JUST PLAIN AND SIMPLE BEING NOTHING BUT RUDE TO ME..I AM STILL IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN BUT,I AM SERIOUSLY CONSIDERING DIVORCE.I AM AT THE END OF THIS ROCKY ROAD..HE HAS NOW TAKEN OVER SLEEPING ON THE COUCH AND IS SHOWING NO INTEREST IN ME..WE HAVE A SON WHO IS NOW SEEING US ARGUE ALL THE TIME AND IT IS NOW STARTING TO AFFECT HIS WELL BEING..I WILL NOT HAVE OUR CHILD RAISED IN THIS ENVIROMENT.BUT MY HUSBAND WILL NOT BUDGE ON ANYTHING THAT I ASK OF HIM.HE SEEMS TO THINK THAT HE DOES NOTHING WRONG AND CURSES AT MYSELF AND OUR SON CALLING HIM NAMES AS WELL.WHEN WE ARGUE OUR SON TELLS ME HE LOVES ME BECAUSE HIS FATHER IS BEING MEAN..I FEEL SO BAD BECAUSE OF WHAT WE ARE DOING TO HIM EMOTIONALLY.. I REALLY NEED ADVICE ON WHAT I SHOULD DO FROM HERE..HE IS HUMILIATING ME INFRONT OF OUR NEIGHBORS.

im dating someone who is going to get a divorce soon.I love her.I need advice.? She is married to a bad man and about to get a divorce . I have been dating her for a pretty long time. I love her and we are planning to live are life together. I can't stand having her go through what she goes through. How can i help her when she lives so far away? and how can i keep dealing with it. I"m not leaving her because there is nothing that can change my mind about it. This is the person i want to be with. I need advice. someone tell me.

MEN WHO CHEAT: I need some advice from you guys. How do I know when he means it? My husband left me for someone else. Anyway, I have two kids. An old boyfriend contacted me and has visited town to see me three times. He says that he is separated from his wife. He lives out of town. How can I tell whether this is true or not? I HAVE NOT slept with him and I know how men can be. What advice can you give? I asked him why they split and he said that she wouldn't listen to him or do anything to make it better. He aked her to not let the kids sleep in the bed. He asked her to join a gym with him. He asked her to go away without the kids at least four weekends a year. He asked her to go out to dinner with him once a week. He asked her to kiss him hello and goodbye. She refused to do any of it. OK. May be true or not. That doesn't mean that he will divorce her, right? Part of me says to just not date until someone shows me the divorce papers signed by the judge. But there are a lot of separated people out there. How do I tell when it is ringing true?

To the men, what advice do I give my best friend about going forward again and where to go to meet great guys? I have a freind who when through a horrible divorce and custody battle. She was left with nothing after legal fee's and she has a young child. She suffers with keeping a job because corporate America does not understand the single mother problem. She is a worrying mess and has a right to be. However, she has totally forgotten about herself, she's still young, very attractive and can't catch a break. No one would wish her life on anyone. I believe if there was someone in her life and if she would learn to open her heart again she would be able to emotionally go forward and feel desirable. She is a wonderful person and she will continue to do others for peopl with all she juggles. I have spoken to her about interacting with men again and she just keeps telling me she doesn't have the time. How can I get her more excited about her life?

I would appreciate some advice on dating a divorced man with kids? I met a man a few months back who has two girls aged 11 and 15. He has then half time every Thursday til Saturday afternoon. When he's with them during this time or away with them, I do not hear from him and I have been respecting that.. I guess I'm just trying to figure out how I fit into all this...I guess I just feel a bit left out at times....like may-be I'm not that important. I know his kids will always be more important, but where is the line here in terms of us? For example, I had been mentioning that it would be great for the two of us to go on a trip or something in the fall/winter, but his response was that he wanted to take the girls on a trip somewhere...he didn't tell it was his birthday 'til after the fact and basically said that it was more important to him that his family remembered and such...it just made me feel like I was in a separate box from everything. I have not met the kids yet and he says his younger one is protective of him..I just don't know..advice

I need advice for men (LOL)? Story 2 long 2 tell. Separated over 6months. We said we'll go 2 da courthouse 2gather to file for divorce. However everytime I say lets go. He say he can't take off work? Do he really want a Divorce?Please try to just answer the question, really its a long story. I know we still love each other, just can't live togather any more. It may sound crazy to some. Other may understand. Please Help

hey guys this question is for my friend , her and her husband thinking about getting a divorce? need advice? They have been married for 4 years... she feels like she has fallin out f love with him.. she doesnt have the same connection with him as she did when they first got together, they both have unrealistic expectations of eachother , ( which they both knew how the other one was before they got married ) Most recently he has left out of town due to his job and wont return until May .. during this time she has been talking to a man that she met a couple of months ago ( he lives out of state) she has become quite fond of him but also feels bad because she is married and doesnt want to hurt her husband . Since her husband has been gone they talk on the phone everyday for about 3 mins , she ran out of things to say to him ... adn doesnt really care if she talks to him or not ... MY QUESTION IS CAN THIS BE FIXED ,,, HE REALLY WANTS TO BE MARRIED AND SO DOES SHE BUT SHES NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM ANY LONGER !!!!!!!!!! WHAT SHOULD SHE DO .. HELP !!!!!!!!!!!

Difficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice? I am going through a divorce and have reconnected with an old friend who definitely wants to date but doesn't want to do it officially until my divorce is final. She is reluctant to date a married man (even though I won't be in a few months). Is there any argument I can give her to see that my marriage is over (my spouse cheated on me) and all thats left is the legal wrangling

I am having problems trusting men after my divorce.? Can someone give me advice on how to move on and how can I not see men as just out to hurt me? I am the mother of a son, that needs a positive mother in his life. I don't want to warp his views on relationships.Thanks in advance!

Divorce question for men? How did your kids feel about divorce,I have a 6 year old and she's a daddy's girl all the way but I can't go on any longer with my marriage the fighting the arguing I just don't want to live like this anymore and I don;t think it's good for the kids neither,I usually just keep quiet if my wife starts griping at me about everything,usually money but I try to work as much as I can she's quit her job and don't want to go back to work. Anyway I'm to the point I just want to get out,but it makes me sick just thinking of leaving my little princess. Just want some advice from some guys who been thru this. Well I've been pretty much the caretaker of my daughter why do you think she's a daddy's girl,but I have a wife who has all her priorities screwed up staying out all night gambling for example and a few more issues,so don;t think for a second that I'm just giving up on my daughter I already heard it's almost impossible to take your child from her mother. Well I've been pretty much the caretaker of my daughter why do you think she's a daddy's girl,but I have a wife who has all her priorities screwed up staying out all night gambling for example and a few more issues,so don;t think for a second that I'm just giving up on my daughter I just heard it's almost impossible to take your child from her mother. Well I've been pretty much the caretaker of my daughter why do you think she's a daddy's girl,but I have a wife who has all her priorities screwed up staying out all night gambling for example and a few more issues,so don;t think for a second that I'm just giving up on my daughter I just heard it's almost impossible to take your child from her mother.

Men, i need your advice, please.? i've been together with a man in a long distance relationship for over a year. He's nice, sweet, caring (the quintessential nice guy) but has a tendency to take things too easy i'm afraid. I on the other side am an extremely hard working woman. We both are divorced, but he went to live with his mom after his divorce left him depressed and broke. It's been 2 years now and he hasn't moved a finger in order to find a place for himself. He doesn't have a car, and lives by a string of part-time jobs. When he has time on his hands, he takes naps. He doesn't care about hitting 40 this year. He just wants to take it easy. Now, is this guy depressed? Could he be on drugs? Isn't 2 years way over average time to get back on your feet? We decided to get together this summer, but i'm thinking it might not be worth it. i met him in peron and then we started chatting and emailing, but he was not like that when we met.

Tell me your tips & advice for dating a divorced man with kids...? Just want to see your opinions.....thanks!

Back to dating after divorce. Date tonight..Advice??? Man... I never wanted to be out there again! Back to the dating world. I am a 36 y/o female. 3 little ones at home. Casual date tonight with a recently widowed male, 42, 3 kids at home too. Any advice? VERY nervous. This is a blind date. Have talked by phone some for a few weeks. I am no longer 20 yrs old or a size 8...pretty nervous! Advice/encouragement , please!!!!!! Thanks, everyone!

Any advice for a best man? My best friend is getting married and recently his fiance told me she had no problem with divorce. She doesn't respect by friend and she continually puts him down. I want to say something, but I'm intelligent enough to know that if I do I'm risking my friendship. Are there any best men that have been in this situation?

A question about moving on?? I want to hear from men who are divorced. Divorce women tell me your experience I have been separated for 11 months and know now that divorce is pending. This is after 14 years of marriage and 20 years of being together. Now I have had two or three dates during the separation and all have come during the last month. My question is what is the best advice you can give during a period of time when everything seems stacked against me financially and emotionally being that I am the one who did not want the divorce? My next question is did you date during this period of time and how did that work for you trying to start over?? Finally, how many of you have remarried and what is different from your first marriage???

Need some advice please!! From men & women.. It would really help me.? My husband of 10 years cheated on me back in May. I found out only because he was so stupid and hid a letter he wrote to his tramp and a card. I confronted him with the letter, swears he did NOT sleep with her and it was just one date. Bullsh*t!!The letter was so descriptive and hurtful I can't get it out of my head. He came back home in June. Since January 07 he has been acting strange, picking fights with me, started smoking ect. In my heart I know he cared a great deal for this girl. He told her he was married and she wanted nothing to do w/ him. (So he says). Now he is very sincere and wants me to stop throwing this in his face& begs for my forgiveness. But I just can't, not just yet. I'm still very hurt. I feel like a fool! His gym pals know about this other woman. My heart is broken and my pain is unbearable. I'm a beautiful person inside and out. I deserve better! so do my kids. I can't bare this pain anymore. I think I actually hate him. Do I divorce him? we are both 32 yrsold

i need advice from both sexes my man just told me in one day i want a divorce from you!!?

children and divorce, I need some advice...please!!!? I have a 10 month old son, and I've been considering getting a divorce, he is our only child. our marriage is not going well lately, we don’t get along and he keeps things from me, he didn’t cheat but he just doesn’t treat me well and he does not appreciate any of the things that I do for him, we've only been together for 3 years and married for 2 I gave up my whole life for him mainly because he is very jealous of everything he is always thinking that other men are out to get me and I can’t even go out with my friends I even had to give up my life long hobby. he is not supportive of me in anyway and I support him in all that he does but it just doesn’t seem to be enough for him to treat me well, for even a day. I can't decide if I should leave him, I don’t know if that would be bad for my son would it be better if I just put up with my husband so that my son can have a better life? does divorce really mess kids minds?? even when they are this young? I do love him I just hate feeling like I am less and he knows how to make me feel like I'm worthless, he is not willing to do anything to help this work but he does not want a divorce, it's very frustrating.

In the Sikh religion are men allowed to divorce their wife and remarry in another religion if it was an arrang I have a friend who had an arranged marriage to a very religious Sikh woman. He is not so religious but his parents arranged the marriage and he agreed. The have a 2 year old daughter now and the child is going to suffer because it is bright and the Father wants it exposed to cultural things and to be a Doctor one day. Being that they are from a religious family, they do not like to child to be mixing with other children that are not Indian. The Father has mixed feelings about it all. If he leaves the wife he says "My family will kill me and put me in the ground and I will take my daughter with me". He fears the wife's family and comes and goes with anothe woman who is not Indian. I do not know what to advice him as he is home with his wife and everyone seems to think "what a lovely family they are etc etc." I think he is playing 2 sides of the coin. What do you think???

I want a divorce from my husband. Advice please? I can't take my husband anymore. I'm sick of having no sex life, or no life at all actually. I work two jobs, he works one. We have a 6 month old and when the two of us are actually home together (which is rare with my two jobs) he shuts me down for "love" and goes to bed tired. I'm so sick of having no life. I have developed a HUGE crush on another man and I almost feel I want to divorce my husband because he is so BORING! We don't go anywhere or do anything. He just wants to sit in front of TV for 3 hours and then go to bed. I feel so stuck. We have been together for 5 years now and married for 2 1/2 of those years. I can't live life like this forever. I am only 25 years old! What would you do? Also, my husband was not like this before. We acutally did things, so please don't tell me I knew what I was marrying into because I did not!

Matured people, already divorced, please do help me to face boldly the divorce. I rqst for practical advice? Im Indian wife is Chinese. Im 60 & she 40. We have 9 yr boy. She started chatting on Yahoo a year ago & knows many young men. Nw she wants divorse. We r together si 18 years. This has disturbed my mind too much. I love my kid too much. She also loves him but she gives more time to chating I give more time to kid. Kid loves both parents n feels that he needs both parents. If I divorce, I can take care of my emotions very well I do not know my kid's emotions whn he will be away from mum. Since two months, my wife is insisting for divorce but I am avoiding, telling that the kid needs both parents. Im away from India since 30 years though oftenly visit India. In India, I have social support but life is much more easy where I live presently. Im afraid kid can adopt a new atmosphere or not who is born and brought up here. If I take my kid to India, I have no confidence if I can take care of him very well or not. I need adv fm matured people faced similar problems.