War on Divorce - Christian Divorce Advice Knowledge Base

Christian Divorce Advice Knowledge Base

After the divorce? Christian advice...? What do I do? I am currently going through a divorce and finding it difficult to move on and ahead with my life. My husband and I were only married a little over a year and I never wanted the divorce. It is hard trying to make a new life without him and it's so weird. Did anyone ever feel like this? I am going to start christian counseling soon but any christian advice or thoughts would help. I am just having mixed feelings about the divorce. Also, I feel I never got any closure..he hasn't spoken with me since june 2008 and he actually had his parents tell me he didn't want to be with me. I am 20 , he is 22. Any christian advice or thoughts on what to do? I've been growing closer to God and my relationship with Him is strong, but I still find it difficult to accept this divorce. Note: Anyone who leaves crude or offensive comments will be deleted! Please help... You don't have to be a christian to answer this, I just don't want crude or offensive answers. I prefer christian advice because I know the only way I will ever get through something, is with the help of Jesus Christ.

Did you know you can make someone mad by asking for christian advice in the marriage/divorce section? Wow! I apologize for doing so. I am a Christian and proud of the fact. I didn't intend for my question to come across rude but I guess that it did. I just want to know the right thing to do based from the stand point of CHRIST. If it offended anyone, I apologize but you didn't have to reply.

I need some advice from Christian divorced men/women, serious answers only please? I've been divorced about 7 years, my daughter is 9 now. when she was 6 months and my life was crashing down I finally turned everything to the Lord, asked for forgiveness and accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. I started dating about 3 years ago and quickly met a nice Christian man. at about 10 months he was having committment issues I guess, so that ended. We remained celibate(although no one believed that) through our relationship. Since that ended 1 1/2 yr. ago, I've been trying to meet Christian men to no avail. My church is small so no luck there. I have dated other men but the talk about the Lord is missing. I recently met a man and I'm embarrased to say that my libido is in high gear. I enjoy his company and the physical component I foresee as a problem. I'm having a very hard time resisting. I miss the companionship and physical aspect of a marriage. I know it would be wrong, but I'm wavering. I'm very attracted to him and I've only seen him three times. My former husband left me, after 15 years of marriage and our 9 month old daughter for another woman and got her pregnant. So as far as divorced and not being Christian I cover the Bible's release by infidelity and abandonment.

christian advice on scripture please? romans 5;20 basically says grace abounds all sin whats your interpritation on this predicament a born again christian has an affair to a non christian divorces his wife and marries in to sin by marrying the women he was having an affair with is he on set free from sin by divorce or does grace abound all sin? because true repentance is turning away from sin and never doing it again whats the correct answer?

help. My husband filed divorce papers and I have nobody to give me advice. I need advice.? forty y.o. together 20y, married 9y. No kids. Own a house equal share I am in it. California. I have some of my own income enough basically to feed myself but this is CA. He has a secret (he's making it secret) woman encouraged him to file the papers. I'm Christian (he's nonbeliever) so nobody gives me any divorce advice, just marriage advice but clearly this isn't helpful. Help What do I do?? Len -- right, I became Christian 4 y ago; he didn't like it.

Spiritual/Christian advice for wife of cheating husband? I think my husband is interested in another woman. They text & call each other & I've found her name doodled on the side of his college notes. He says they're just friends, but I can't get over it. Even if he's not cheating, he must have some kind of feelings for her & I don't know how to deal w/it. I love my husband & I want to make this work! I'm looking for some Christian encouragement / advice from someone who has been in a similar situation. He understands that what he's done hurts me & he's willing to stop talking to her. I don't need anyone to tell me what I already know is obvious! I posted a similar question last week & got some really negative feedback, like..."he's cheating", "get a divorce", "hire a detective". This isn't the kind of advice i'm looking for! Thanks. I feel like all I can do is believe what he tells me & accept his apology. What more can I ask of him? I'm having a REALLY difficult time trusting him & I've been asking for all his passwords to voicemail, cell phone account, credit cards, email. He has agreed to give me access to all these, but I feel like it's wrong to make him feel like I'll never trust him. I want to trust him, but it's so hard when I've found so much.

I am a christian and looking for christian advice/support. My husband and I are in our first year of marriage? I am a christian and looking for christian advice/support. My husband and I are in our first year of marriage? and it has came to his attention that he does not want to spend his life with me. We are not meant to be nor will we make eachother truely happy so he says. He has been depressed and struggling spiritually for as far as I can remember. He has been physical and verbally rough with me, but it was months ago. He has had suspicious relationships but I have no evidence of an affair. By his choice I have moved out, back to my mom and dad's, and he filed for divorce. There is no reason for it and I in no way want it. I know I have to stand back and just pray, as all things are in Gods hands anyway. I just am having a hard time trusting seeing how I have no idea what really caused this other than "not having much in common" schpeel. I am only 21 and I know what the bible says about re-marrying. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life while he is off re-marrying and never considering God's will in this. Any advice? What should I do? Can people pray for me? Any scriptures come to mind?

advice for a divorce(please answer ASAP)? What would be some good advice from a christian point of veiw to someone who isn't a christian who is planning on getting a divorce for the wrong reasons? (please help!)

need christian advice on marriage please? I've been married for a little over a year now. My husband was not a christian before dating, and tried to do all that he could to "win me over" which included lying about himself and "pretended" to be so interested in God. I had many signs that show that God did not want me to marry him, but for some reason I overlooked those signs perhaps because I didn't want to see them and I was so afraid of being alone. I was also going through a very traumatic, emotional time in my life. Well, we married and shortly after I realized that my husband had an addiction to video games. I believe it's great to have your own interests and hobbies, but he would do it for hours every day. It was all he thought about and he would even forget to eat and sometimes wouldn't sleep. He wouldn't take any responsibility to do what needed to be done. He very rarely would go to bed with me or even make love to me and we were newlyweds!!! Once in a great while, if I got angry enough, he would then decide he should have "sex" with me and after wards would sometimes say, "there, see i love u" or "there, u should be good now" and off he'd go to the games again. He would also ignore me and only talk to me if he was telling me about his games or football. If I ever had anything to say, he would never show interest...even when he was away from the game. Also, he all of a sudden, after marriage, showed no interest in God or going to church with me and later admitted that he wasn't into it like I was. Before marriage, he acted like he would like to have children with me, but I found out after marriage, that he doesn't want to have children. This all went on for, well 12 months of my marriage... a whole year!!! I tried many times to talk with him about it all and he would either say nothing at all and go back to the games or say "yea" or shrug and say, "sorry" and walk off. He would do this even when I kept telling him that if things stayed the way they were, then I wanted out of the marriage. I felt like I was just a piece of furniture to him or a "prize" that he won and forgot about. Just within the last 2 months, he has decided to try because I was extremely close to getting divorce papers. He now tries to listen and pay attention to me once in awhile, but the problem is that's it's a little late. I feel that God has helped me to forgive my husband, though it still hurts a lot, but I feel I have grown so far away from him and I don't trust him. I don't like him touching me at all.The biggest thing that haunts me is that I was not in God's will when I married. I've been praying a lot about all of this and I keep feeling like God want's me to get out of the marriage because it was not something that He brought together. I would really appreciate advice on whether or not it's ok to divorce if the marriage was outside of God's will and if the husband lied about who he was. Thanks so much.

Any advice to give about abortion from a christian standpoint? I have a relative that is 30 years old, her career is finally going in the right direction, she has two young boys and has recently divorced. The problem is, she had a one night stand with someone that was a casual friend and now she's pregnant. She is talking about an abortion and wants my advice. Now she knows that I am a christian and Pro Life. I don't want to come across like I'm judging her. I love her and really feel for her situation. She realizes she made a huge mistake even before she found out she was pregnant. There is absolutely no possibility that she and the father would be together. (Two wrongs don't make a right.) What do I tell her that would help her but also keep my convictions?

can a christian remarry after divorce? ive heard that i will go to hell if i do. the bible says not to remarry and that im an adulteress. i got married and divorced twice in the past before i started living a christian life i didnt file either of the divorces i tried to work things out. me and my boyeriend have a child have a child and want to get married but n6t if it means going to hell. thanks for any advice and god bless

Christian advice needed.? I just asked my gf of 2.5 years to marry me. She said yes, and we are so happy!! Her unsaved father has never supported our relationship, and is not giving his blessing. We have tried to honor him and respect him all this time, but he is just divorced and hates marriage. We are strong Christians, and have asked our pastors for advice, I just fig'd I'd come on here and see others perspectives. My ?? is, how do i address this? What is the most Godly way to answer him? If you are not ging to give advice in the spirit of sincerity, please don't leave any answers at all. Thank you. Jesus Loves you all.

Needing good Christian advice...? I know divorce is a sin, but I can't stand my husband anymore. We have been married 3 years. We have a 2-1/2 year old daughter. My husband is not involved in our lives. He plays his video games all the time instead of interacting with us. He doesn't have any paitience for our toddler(yells at her over the smallest stuff), and sometimes even pushes her away. He blames me for everything bad that happens to him. He has even told me that I need to give up all my friends for him. I feel like his maid most days than his wife. He has even started yelling at some of my family when I'm not around. He has become rude and disrespectful. He was never like this when we were dating. I don't want to be around him anymore. And every time I try to tell him how I feel, he somehow manages to throw a big guilt trip on me for feeling the way I do. Please help me! when I say he wants me to give up my friends, it means he wants me to give them up completely. It's been a few years since I've seen most of my friends because we moved. He just doesn't want me to have any friends at all.

Christian advice for struggling marriage.? My wife and I have been married for a little over 2 years, together for almost 7. About 6 months after we got married, she started having an affair. I found out about it a few months after it started, confronted her, and once she knew she was caught, admitted to it. I told her I could forgive her and let's make us work. The affair continued for about 2 months, and when it ended I was willing to take her back. It has been about a year and a half since it ended. We have not had sex since January 2006, it is not even an option for her. She refuses to even kiss me. I know that every couple has fights, but we disagree constantly, about almost everthing. I think the no sex thing is a big deal, she does not. We both make good money, but we are both in our mid 20s and have college debt. We have a nice house, and she's able to get anything she wants. I'm trying everything I can, when does divorce become an option? Also, she says that if I quit smoking, she will want to have sex.

I need Christian advice, do I stay or do I leave? My husband and I have been married for a year and a half, together for four. We have a six month old son who is the joy of our lives. My husband is a good man with a good heart but he has a violent temper and he continues to display this in front of our son. I have a lot of resentment already towards him for this because I grew up wathcing my parents fight violently and of course it affected my childhood and because of it I have extremely low tolerance for that kind of behavior. My mother stayed with my father for 20 years and blames herself for not leaving sooner. She thinks staying did more harm to me and my brother. My parents weren't Christians though, my husband and I are and so divorce is just not something to be taken lightly. I find myself feeling very passionate about not allowing my son to witness violence in the home and I don't want him to grow up watching his father, who will be his example of how a man should be, using vulgarity and screaming at his mother.

Does anyone have biblical advice on divorce after infidelity.?.....What about if you have kids? I'm a Christian man with a wive who has had several affairs (more that 4). After separating for about 2 months, she says that she misses me and our child and she says that she has changed and wants to start going to church. In the process of our separation, I met a really nice young lady (who is a Christian). I stopped talking to my friend when she said that she was willing to work things out. I really need advice. I have probably lost a good friend in all of this, but I had to do what was best for the child..............HELP

Christian young man with a mean wife threatening divorce. What to do? My wife and I have been married a little more than a year, but have been sleeping in seperate rooms since April (per her request for space). I have never cheated, lied, abused her or lacked in responsibilities and yet she treats me horribly. Her reason is that "she has no feelings for me". We are both Christians and went through Christian counseling prior to being married. Once we had problems we went back to the counselor who encouraged us to increase our relationship with God. I did so, she did not. In fact she refuses to go to church with me and spends every weekend with her family. I consider divorcing her almost everyday. I have not had sex, a home cooked meal, a hug, a kiss or a kind word since April. I work long hours and this marriage is taking its toll. Any advice from a Christian perspective as to how I can better deal with this situation. I do not believe divorce is an option, but some days I wish she would give me the papers and I would definately sign. thanks

Friend thinking of divorce. how do I advice knowing what the Bible says about marriage? Rita has been married for 12 years, straight out of college. problem is they have not had sex in 7 years and he is verbally abusive and does not want to go for councelling. She wants a divorce and he does not. but she is a christian and they have a child together. she is really unhappy and does not think she can go on with the marriage anymore. Her family wants her to carry her cross gracefully .Did I mention she is only 35.

Christian relationship Advice!!? My recent boyfriend and I decided to call it quits after a recent conversation. I asked where he thought we stood and he said he did not know. He's divorced and has been for about 2 years now. He claims he would not go back to his ex-wife but I asked him if she were saved would he go back to her and he said yes. I asked him if he was over his divorce and he said no. I did not have a problem with this per se. I just wish he would have considered these things before he asked me out. Because he said he would go back to her if she were saved this would mean I'd be out of the picture. So I asked him if he was filling a void and he said he didn't know how to answer this question. His ex is engaged to marry someone else. Also when we met I asked him if he was over her and he said he did not want to go back to her but this came out recently. Anyway any insight --anyone been through this. I've been crying over this. It hurt more than I thought it would

me a christian girl married to a christian. i want to get annulment /divorce.. how long it will take to get? i am not satisfied with my marriage. i want to cancel my marriage legally. could any one advice me on annulment/divorce. i want to get separated from my husband as soon as possible. is there any possibility to end the marriage within a short span (one or two months) we are indians .... i am taking this decision on my own after considering various things.

Any advice for dealing with Christians during a messy divorce ? My friend from school who I have known for years and years is an ultra Christian ( I am not - but a pagan married to a witch) His wife --- also is/was an ultra I love Jesus christian --- had an affair while he was sick with cancer and announced it while he was in hospital after life saving surgery I took over his farm for him for a while --- as he with cancer and in need of treatment wasn't able to do any work --- I was unfortunately there (on his property ) when she chose to have the affair with the neighbor - This christian turned into everything I personally associate with the religion -- mean classicist judgmental and in active denial I warned him ( cleaning up my language as best as possible) of course he didn't believe it at all because "she was born again" The ever present pastor -- came around to the farm and I told him she doesn't need a friggin pastor she needs medication My friend seems to think the sun shines out of this guy's buttocks and continued to give bad advice and show poor judgment -- straight from the bible --- ----------------- The obvious truths came out -- and now he is upset because he is forced into a position where he has to get a divorce She is going to lose the farm they had and the divorce seems to be getting my friend down I have made several mistakes in dealing with him I suspect --- But --- we are still friends -- I should not have pointed out the Pastor was wrong and short sighted and not able to see what was in front of him I should not have insisted that she was clearly having mental health issues from the stress and so on But ---- that is now all done and nothing I can do about it at all -------------------- So how should I be dealing with this guy - who I do want to be of some service to ? It almost seems like he is from another world (Christian) at times and I have no idea what to do with him at all What should I not do might be a better question shawn m I am not trying to give him advice or sell him my religion -- he has never tried to sell me his religion All I was to do was work --- for free which I offered to do --- and would do again I ended up in the middle of something no one saw comming -- When I did see it I spoke against a lot of resistance -- me being right -- is not really a good thing - it might have been better if I had have been wrong The religon he seems to love is all his -- but it seems to cause him a lot of guilt at the same time -- and all I am asking is how NOT to further "step in it "

A have question:HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend and abaut divorce? I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.

I need advice from a Christian (Serious answers please)? Would you divorce your husband if he cheated on you and now is serving time in jail for 7 years for selling drugs? Christians what would you do? Also would I be wrong if I were to do the same thing back out of hurt? Thanks Who would like the worst in God's eyes? The one who committed the adultrey first or the one who did it back out of revenge? Who would look the worst in God's eyes? The one who committed the adultrey first or the one who did it back out of revenge?

As a Christian, how do you view divorce? My marriage is struggling and I still love my husband very much. He is participating in some extreme self sabotage that is seriously hurting me and my children emotionally and financially. As a couple we have been struggling with this issue for quite some time and I am becoming very frustrated with his decisions. I believe that marriages are meant to stay together, but sometimes I don't even feel as if I am part of a couple. Its more like I compromise and give and he sets the 'rules of the game' and takes. Some of our problems are on their way to being more serious than I can fix and I need loving advice. The hurting: he suffers from a drug addiction and it has taken him over. Sometimes he doesn't come home for days. During this time we are without a car and he frequently spends every dollar available. He has no problems borrowing money from anyone who will hand it to him and he will take things from home to trade. The longest he has held a job in the last few years is about three months. If I try to keep money from him, he threatens me until I give in. I have always believed adultery to be the only grounds for divorce, but I don't think I can keep this up especially with school. I am feeling quite down and divided. When he is not here I miss him, but when he comes home he is impossible to be around because he can only think of ways to get more drugs. I don't know how to handle this. I supported him through three rehab stays and a month stay in jail. He says he will go to counseling until it is actually available and then he has excuse after excuse. I know he is depressed with his life and has talked about death as the only option left for him to escape. He is a believer but is frequently angry with God because the addiction won't go away. I had him committed at one point because of a suicide attempt and his anger at me was enormous; he would not continue the outpatient therapy. I feel sure that if he is alone, he may kill himself either on purpose or by OD.

am muslim married a christian wife without knowing coz she faked muslim faith.i feel cheated. plz advice me.? i love her in person but i want her to convert into muslim something she is strongly opposed to. i want to divorce her. should i?

Married Christian Women -- I need your advice please.? I know for a fact that my husband has had an affair in the past. He admitted this to me, we went to counseling and worked things out. Today, I found text messages from the same woman's number on his cell phone, saying things like "I miss you" and "When can you come over?" I called her and she told me that she was under the impression that we were getting divorced and that my husband was making plans to move in with her. He, of course, says that its not true ... that she started texting him and he had not responded. I want to believe my husband and to uphold my marriage vows, but I don't want to be a doormat either. We just lost a child a little over a month ago and he has pulled away alot since then. I just don't know if I can believe what he says. Do you have any advice for me? And if you can't offer advice, will you at least offer prayers?

Christian parents, I need your advice? I have a daughter who is twelve years old. My husband and I recently are separated and going through a divorce, due to his repeated unfaithfulness. The whole thing kind of got out, and everyone at my church knows about what happened, and because of that, my husband has opted not to attend church there anymore. I think that my daughter is also embarrassed. She has been attending church with a friend for the last three weeks. She says that they have more youth and alot of people from her school attend there, but I feel that part of it is she's ashamed by what her dad did. I keep trying to talk about it with her, but she gets frustrated and says, "I just want to go to church with (friend's name), okay?!" I don't want her to hold these feelings in, but I don't want to push her. Should I just let her keep attending church with her friend's family until she's ready to confront her feelings? For two weeks before that, she claimed to be sick and didn't want to go to church. My husband I have only been separated about two months. My husband chose to leave. He has cheated several times in the past and I have stood by him. I have upheld my wedding vows. I cannot force him to do the same. Real Christians would not judge their brothers and sisters in such a manner.

Christians! My Christian friend is getting a divorce! :-(? Her husband was using cocaine behind her back! Both have their masters degrees both attend church etc.. She feels like if he lied about this he can and will lie about anything. I think she should work through it because she vowed before God.. what is the best advice i can give her thru this difficult time? Boris she is my best friend and made it my business so you stay out of it! i didn't ask you! she also told me she didn't love him anymore.. :-( Old guy he hid this from her from the beginning ... one of his friends even told her that they had been doing it for awhile and she asked and again he lied, he won't take responsibility for his actions or still even admitt he has a problem.. I love my friend a lot and i feel for her she wasn't the one out doing cocaine! Boris i addressed this to Christians clearly you aren't so you butt out! tiki I understand Job not Jobe is a book in the Bible thanks, not catholic neither is she and her relationship with Jesus is good so she can take communion thanks 6ofus I'm not trying to force her to stay in something that is going to hurt her. I can be bossy! but most people find that endearing because they know i mean well! I asked for the best advice not how to make her life more stressful! I am tolerant but when people post an answer stating it's none of your business they don't know what they are talking about and i hate that! No i haven't dealt with a man with drug problems but with drinking with two supposed Chrisitan men...one kept it hidden one was very open about it but hated it... so i am no longer with either because i don't drink at all, so i have some experience in this matter! thanks for your concern. lol i would never run anyone's life ....that is crazy!

i am a christian, dating a mormon.. i need some advice about a few things.? Ok well first off i am a single mom who has already been divorced.. and now raising my 11 month old son.. i am christian, and was raised that way. i do believe it's good to raise your children in your religon.. but i don't want him to think any other religon is wrong, that's for him to decide when he grows up.. ok so that's a little about me.. now i am dating a guy who is mormon.. and he has no problem dating me, or kissing me, any of those things.. even eventually getting romantically involved. but my question is.. is this all ok, i mean if i ever got married to a mormon, i would never become mormon, and i wouldn't raise my son that way. how would all of that work.. i have asked him about the way things work about marrying someone who isn't mormon, and he told me, it doesn't matter what the person is, mormon or not, if you love them, then people will except that you are both different. if we ever had kids. what religon would they be. i am not against his beliefs. also, his family is really into there religon, and i am afraid that they arn't going to except me for being christian. i have nothing against what they believe. i just want to make sure everything is going to be ok, if we were to get serious.. especially because i already have a child of my own, and if i ever get remarried i would love to have more children, and not sure how it would work if whoever i marry is a different religon then me.

I am Christian and dating a mormon... i need some advice about kids.. just read my details? Ok well first off i am a single mom who has already been divorced.. and now raising my 11 month old son.. i am christian, and was raised that way. i do believe it's good to raise your children in your religon.. but i don't want him to think any other religon is wrong, that's for him to decide when he grows up.. ok so that's a little about me.. now i am dating a guy who is mormon.. and he has no problem dating me, or kissing me, any of those things.. even eventually getting romantically involved. but my question is.. is this all ok, i mean if i ever got married to a mormon, i would never become mormon, and i wouldn't raise my son that way. how would all of that work.. i have asked him about the way things work about marrying someone who isn't mormon, and he told me, it doesn't matter what the person is, mormon or not, if you love them, then people will except that you are both different. if we ever had kids. what religon would they be. i am not against his beliefs. also, his family is really into there religon, and i am afraid that they arn't going to except me for being christian. i have nothing against what they believe. i just want to make sure everything is going to be ok, if we were to get serious.. especially because i already have a child of my own, and if i ever get remarried i would love to have more children, and not sure how it would work if whoever i marry is a different religon then me.

Please help! need advice on a friend? I really need some advice. One of my friends is going downhill. I mean REALLY gowing downhill. ever since her parents got divorced she has been doing bad things. She used to be a good girl, really nice, dressed nice, hung out with good friends and I really really liked it. but lately she has been dating guys that are bad for her, running around with the type of crowd that runs around town, dresses and jeans and a sweatshirt, doing things with guys that she shouldn't be, and smoking. we are only freshman in high school. although I am 14 and she is 15. I have no idea what to do. she told me not to tell anybody, esp her parents. I have told someone though which was one of my best friends whom I always go to for help and advice. She's a really big Christian. she told me that I should tell this girl's parents. I know I should, but I'm afraid of losing my friend. plus, at the same time, it's her life and I wouldn't want someone telling me what to do. But I just really want my old friend back

Involved with married woman, unable to divorce????Help PLZ.? Okay, I got involved with a married woman that I work with. We were first together right before her wedding, and continued after it. She says that she loves me more than she loves her husband, and I feel just as strongly towards her. The problem is, her family (very christian) has disowned her before for wanting to marry an atheist (he converted to christianity, they took her back). They would disown her again if she were to get a divorce, and absolutely disown her if she were to do it for me, as I am an atheist. I really don't know what to do, and am very torn up by this. any advice would help!

Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde personality type in a spouse how to deal in a Christian way????? A person whom is well known to me is a Christian and her spouse comes from another religion.The marriage has been turbulant from the start but her beliefs are against divorce.Since leaving is not an option,what are some things a spouse can do if they are with an unequally yoked spouse with an explosive personality that is up and down all the time.DO NOT LIST SEPERATION AS AN OPTION.She feels like she is walking on egg shells on the time.Sometimes hes incredibly nice to her and then he can change and become quite angry and harsh.He also does not take her advice seriously.

how do i get my kids back legally in a christian manner? i droped my children off for a planed visit with there father for the first time two weeks later find out he forged my name to divorce papers an got custody of my children i dont even know where to start any advice or resources or even just support would be much apprieciated from me and my husband.

Help with my parents divorce.? Hi. When I was 2 my parents got a divorce. Growing up,it kinda embarrased me. I went to a Christian school so none of the other kids parents had ever gotten a divorce. My mom remarried when I was about 6. My mom and Stepdad had another child. I had to explain to everyone that we were brothers and why we had different last names. Some people thought I was adopted because I had a different last name than my mother. Even though im in college I still get kinda embarrased when I have to explain everything to people. What advice do you guys have for me to cope with my parents divorce and how to not get embarrassed about it.

Divorce Question? If you ask someone or more than one person for advice and they tell you to divorce your husband, do you have to divorce your husband? If anyone tells someone for any reason to divorce their husband do they have to divorce their husband? Christian view... The same goes for if it was the wife they were telling the husband to divorce.

No matter what I do, My husband refuses to have sex with me when I want it. What the f***? Give me some advice I am a very beautiful blk woman. I have a very high sex drive.(which my husband never complained about before) We have been together for 5yrs. We have two children together- 19 month old and a 8 week old baby. Even when the children are sleep-or away-even when Im fresh out of the shower with Victoria's Secret on-even when I strut around like a sex-godess-he never wants me. I need to have sex everyday or I am highly stressed and depressed. We only have sex when he is ready-which is maybe every 3 days. Im sick and tired of this shit. Someone please give me some advice. Im not going to divorce him nor cheat. We are a Christian couple and I have prayed that he'll desire me the same way I desire him, but it has yet to come. Maybe I need to get help for my over-sexual mind. I dont know. He has no ED problems nor is he cheating. He does have a high workload and is stressd from work most nights. Thanks a bunch!!!!

I would like only Christians to answer this. Qhat should I do because my husband is committing adultery online I found out last week that my husband is cheating online!! I have been a FAITHFUL WIFE. I DO NOT BELIEVE IN CHEATING FOR ANY REASON AT ALL!! I didn't think my hubby would ever do this. I was SHOCKED!!! Also, he's supposed to be a Preacher, too. Anyway, Preacher or not, he is supposed to cheat!! So, now I ask, what should I do? I want to do what God would want me to do. But, I CAN NOT & WILL NOT PUT UP WITH CHEATING. I would ALWAYS wonder if he's cheating on me if I stay & we try to work things out. It would be hard to trust him!!! I am confused & hurt by this!!!! I am a good wife, too!!!! I have a Biblical right to divorce him. It is adultery. So, I need Christian advice. I know it's up to me as to what to do. But, a little Christian advice wouldn't hurt.

How did you get over your divorce? My "loving, christian" husband of 10+ years left me for his whore of 2+ years after the birth of our 3rd child. I am so angry and hurt. We have been seperated for 1 year and I am filing for divorce next week. I need REAL PEOPLE advice on how to move on?

Can a man apply for a divorce from his wife after wilful dissertion and cruelty towards him after 10 years? Ours is a Christian Marriage. After Marriage our people have not performed our first night. Anyway we both performed the third day. And my wife have not cooperated in sex even a single day and she willfully left the matrimonial home ten years back. When i approached our relations they are not helping us to seperate. I could notice that she is not having sexual potency to participate with me. Will you please advice me to get automatic/ divorce from her under law?

Need Your Opinions and Advice Please? I'm 35. I got married 6 years ago to a much older man. Things were okay for awhile. We have 2 children together. I gained a lot of weight because of tyroid cancer. My husband turned very emotionally abusive ...said i was ugly and unattractive ...he ended up getting a mistress. I met a wonderful man who became a close friend. Supportive, caring, always there if i needed to talk. He helped me through my divorce, helped me deal with not getting custody of my kids. I fell in love with him. He says he's in love with me to. But, he's married. He says he can't leave his wife (they've been married for 40 years) because of his religious beliefs (he's an assistant pastor in his church) and what his church will think. I can't imagine my life without him. How do I convince him to get a divorce without seeming to be clingy and needy? We've been in this relationship forever and we both think we are soulmates. Any advice from a Christian standpoint would be welcome. Help please. They were married just out of highschool sort of had to get married. After the baby, she refused to have sex with him ever again and treated him like crap. But, he stayed around supporting her & his son because that was just the way he was raised. He actually hadn't planned on cheating ....it just sort of happened after we fell in love with each other. It may sound strange, but I pretty much know he is telling the truth about the way his wife treats him. I see how she acts around him a lot. He says he feels guilty about our relationship, he says he wishes he could be with me all the time, he says he feels guilty about hurting me because he cant give me everything i need, but then he says i complete him and make him whole that he needs me, etc etc...btw, we haven't had sex...yet.. It's not gone beyond a few kisses and foreplay..he says he respects me and wants to wait for that until we can be together His wife is not in good health and he swears that when she does pass away that we'll be together...but she could be alive for years yet...I dont know what to do...I need him so....

A have question: Women Divorce yesterday her husband,the day is Sunday,SHE tell to I live with her at her Home I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.

Need DESPERATE advice and Prayer!!!? I am a Christian whos husband left and divorced her. My beliefs have ALWAYS been that scripture says that God allowed divorce because our hearts were all messed up but it was never suppose to be that way. Secondly, I have found that my heart has fallen out of love for my ex husband and I would love nothing more then to be released from him however, I TRUELY believe, in the depths of my spirit that God has NOT said this is ok. Now I am feeling some strong feelings for a guy at my church who I hang out with a bit, but who only sees me as a friend. But I STILL don't feel like I have been released from my ex.. What would you do in my case? Aside from pray because I am already doing that... Can you also pray for me too?

I am a Divorced 43 yr old Christian Lady? I divorced my husband 9 years ago after 15 years of abuse and had to live in a refuge for a year with my kids. Anyway I have a friend (male also a Christian) who has made me feel really guilty by saying I did wrong and I SHOULD go back!! After what he did to me (he beat me and my kids) does my friend have the right to say that? Advice please!

Husband and Video Games (Christian Wife)? My husband plays video games all day long when he is not at work. He has the 360 online so he is always yelling and cursing at others extremley loud. I am going to school online, and it is very hard to concentrate when he is screaming at people. I have two problems. First, all he does is play video games and if I approach him about it he screams at me and tells me I am bothering him. I have tried everything from trying to talk to him about how he spends no time with me to hiding his games and leaving and he yells no matter what I try. The second problem is that I cannot concentrate on my school work which is done completley on my computer in my home. He really doesnt care and I dont know how to handle it. I cannot leave or divorce him because it is against my religion (I am a Christian) I have asked him to go to counseling with me and of course that is out of the question. I do everything- going to work, attending school full time, cleaning the whole house, and all cooking. Any Advice?

I need some advice. My husband abandonded me. What should I do? My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He is a Malayalee and I am white. His parents are Pentacostal Christians as am I but we had issues with is family from the beginning. They never supported our marriage. About a month ago we were dealing with somethings his parents said about me. I was offended and he took their side. He told me he was going to speak with them in person (we live in Oklahoma and they live in Michigan) and he would be back in a few days. He never returned, he changed his address, and quit his job by e-mail. He will not speak to me or answer my phone calls, text messages or e-mails. I know that many people will say I should divorce him but as a Christian I feel that is the wrong thing to do. Also I have heard from some people he worked with that he may have been on singles websites at work and that he may have gone to New York to see someone. I really need some advice about what to do. Anyone who is a Malayalee Christian might have some insight about this.

She divorce the husband at the day sunday? WHen this what I send many time abaut divorce women,then she stop writeing to me ,She no write to me by email,I will do anything to she write to me by email:I will live with her,this to she write to me,,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,I will know the true,when I will meet her,alone me and her,PLEASe help me,why I like to by her friend and I will do one thing to her,when she write to me,that how I thank her,because she write to me and I know she will Really want to I live with her,HOW to help her,I will give her email to all born again christian and christian,to they talk to her tell her to she talk to me every day by email,her email,it is sarah.tinkerbell@hotmail.co.uk,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian,I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,A have question: Women Divorce yesterday her husband,the day is Sunday,SHE tell to I live with her at her Home? that is other email,if every people remember, I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think he should do.

Where can I find a husband? I am divorced and have a child. Christian UK.? I am a Christian lady in the UK aged 26. I am divorced and have a little girl. I want advice on where to find a husband (if possible). A good decent christian man who will accept me and my circumstances. My church is really small with only a handful of people and the only single man is a guy in his 70s... I do not want to look at a party or something and I would prefer to find someone financially stable. Someone suggested going to a private members club, but how do you do this. I mean you cant just pay your membership then walk in and say I am looking for a husband... Advice please.

Can any Christians offer me advice or a scripture to read?? My friend "Tim" and I just had a huge fight...just because I swear and my parents are divorced and I have questions about the Bible, he thinks he's a better Christian than I am. I told him that it's not wrong to have questions for God, but he sees it a sign as atheism. Also, my parents divorced when I was about 4 years old (14 years before I met Tim!!) and I have had no contact with my father since. According to Tim, my mother made a mistake in divorcing my dad because divorce is a sin and they should've "worked it out." Basically, I just got tired of him telling me that he's a better person and a better Christian than he is. Although I pray to God for strength, wisdom, courage, health, to watch over my family, all that jazz, he thinks he's "better" than me because I don't go to church and because I listen to R&B and rap music. I'm sick of him looking down on me. Anybody have any advice on how to handle this? Any scriptures I should read???

Are you ready for real Christian love? Rev. Hollinshead T. Knight: "It isn’t Scripture that creates hostility to homosexuality, but rather hostility to homosexuality that leads certain Christians to retain a few passages from an otherwise discarded law code. We don’t follow biblical teaching on divorce, polygamy, nudity, Paul’s advice not to marry, slavery, or the stoning of adulterers! Biblical scholar Walter Wink has said that there is no biblical sex ethic. The Bible knows only a love ethic, which is constantly being brought to bear on whatever sexual mores are dominant in any given culture or period." "The problem is not reconciling homosexuality with scriptural passages that seem to condemn it; the problem is how do you reconcile the rejection and mistreatment of homosexuals with the love of Christ for all people, particularly the oppressed and the rejected? I don’t think it can be done. If the law of love is more important than the laws... http://members.aol.com/DrSwiney/knight.html for the rest. try this link http://members.aol.com/DrSwiney/knight.html

i am dealing with my parents divorce? my parents have been married for 16 years and recently with in the last month my mom has decided she is done and she wants to move on with her life with out my father in it...needless to say they are going through a divorce and me being 15 it is really hard to deal with, i am a strong Christian and I have turned to God for help i was wondering 1st of all if anyone could offer me advice on what is going on and 2nd of all if anyone knows of passages in the Bible that might help me... thanks so much Liz

Divorce in ISlame?? Salam, I wanted an advice about my marriage. I'm a 19 year old guy, and i got married to a 34 year old lady. She was previously divorce and she has 2 childrens, plus she was a christian and she was converted at the time of marriage. But she never learned any prayers nor she believed on the tarika of islam. She was working at that time when we got married, and i told her that i'm not settled yet, so she told me that i will take of things myself and i will earn. I thought that would be ok, she is mature and more experienced she will handle things herself, as for me it might take some time to grow up. But suddenly she left her job after she got preganant, and all the responsibility was thrown on my shoulders, now i dont have enough qualification nor m i earning that much...so i can't pay her house rent and one more thing I never brought her to my house nor my parents or her parents were involved in our marriage. So i cant pay her rent nor m i able to take care of her food and medicines at this time. This is her 6th month. Sometimes I feel she used me...because she changed after getting pregnant, She was alone and she wanted a child, and when she lost interest in my she was changed. Now she is demanding money from me. I dont how to pay that much amount of money every month..I very tensed, She changed after getting pregnant, I feel she is very clever. Well, I need a solution. Please help me out.I'm stuck. Because neither i have any property. This 4 months of marriage has been a hell for me.....I thought something else and things turned out to be really different. now she acts like very cruel woman. She has went out of limits and she also told me that do watever..sell your mom or your brother..but i want money. do you think any respectable or good woman will ever use such a word ? I think she is heartless human being..Who is self centered and doesn't care about my problems at all. Please help me out. EAch day of my life has been like hell.I want divorce.....

I need advice! My sister is pregnant out of wedlock (again)!? My family is a very strict Christian family. There are five of us kids and we all came out great, knowing what is wrong and what is right. Except for one of my sisters. When she was 19, she got pregnant out of wedlock. It completely tore my parents apart and she had a shotgun wedding with she was 5 months pregnant--married an absolute moron. When she was pregnant with her second child, her husband left her for a little high school girl. Later, they divorced. Now, my sister who is not even 24 yet, is pregnant again (and it's not her ex-husband's baby). I found all this out from her ex-husband's little high school girlfriend, who has a Myspace. I read all her comments to her friends. That was how I found out my sister is pregnant. She's 20 weeks pregnant and she has not told ANY of us! We didn't even know she had a boyfriend! (She lives about an hour away from all of us). WHAT CAN I DO?!?! HELP! Any advice? Has your family gone through this?? Thanks.

A have question: this is new why because:I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men ,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standar

Calling all christians: My husband has been impotent for about of seven and a half years. What do I do? I need Christian advice please: We were unable to consummate our marriage on our wedding night. I didn’t say much about it then, realizing my husband must be as embarrassed, frustrated and angry as I was. Since then, I’ve tried every method I can think of to inspire my husband to do something about the problem: talking about it, NOT talking about it, being understanding, getting angry, giving ultimatums, spending time away, proposing divorce, staying together but living separate lives. As our EIGHTH anniversary nears, I become even less able to handle the situation. Nothing really worked for a long time. I tried initiating sexual encounters with him. But he’d turn me away. My husband eventually consulted several doctors. But they couldn’t find physical reasons for the problem. He didn't seem to try for a long time. But over the years we've tried therapy and Viagra. Am I wrong for wanting out? Having children (our own biological ones), although a concern, is not the main issue. I didn't know about the problem before we got married.

I am a christian and looking for christian advice/support. My husband and I are in our first year of marriage? and it has came to his attention that he does not want to spend his life with me. We are not meant to be nor will we make eachother truely happy so he says. He has been depressed and struggling spiritually for as far as I can remember. He has been physical and verbally rough with me, but it was months ago. He has had suspicious relationships but I have no evidence of an affair. By his choice I have moved out, back to my mom and dad's, and he filed for divorce. There is no reason for it and I in no way want it. I know I have to stand back and just pray, as all things are in Gods hands anyway. I just am having a hard time trusting seeing how I have no idea what really caused this other than "not having much in common" schpeel. I am only 21 and I know what the bible says about re-marrying. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life while he is off re-marrying and never considering God's will in this. Any advice? What should I do? Can people pray for me? Any scriptures come to mind?

I need some advice. My husband abandonded me. What should I do? My ahusband and I have been married for 3 years. He is a Malayalee and I am white. His parents are Pentacostal Christians as am I but we had issues with is family from the beginning. They never supported our marriage. Almost two months ago we were dealing with some things his parents said about me. I was offended and he took their side. He told me he was going to speak with them in person (we live in Oklahoma and they live in Michigan) and he would be back in a few days. He never returned, he changed his address, and quit his job by e-mail. He will not speak to me but I have received a few general e-mails. I know that many Americans will say I should divorce him but as a Christian I feel that is the wrong thing to do. Also I have heard from some people he worked with that he may have been on singles websites at work and that he may have gone meet someone. I really need some advice about what to do. Anyone who is a Malayalee Christian might have some insight about this situation.

HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend,HElp? She no write to me by email,I will do anything to she write to me by email:I will live with her,this to she write to me,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,I will no the true,when I will meet her,alone me and her,PLEASe help me,why I like to by her friend and I will do one thing to her,when she write to me,that how I thank her,because she write to me and I know she will Really want to I live with her,but I will check her to know,HOW to help her,I will give her email to all born again christian and christian,to they talk to her tell her to she talk to me every day by email,her email,it is sarah.tinkerbell@hotmail.co.uk,please no tell no people on-line,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian

Advice needed - confused about my marriage? I've been married for 3 yrs; for past 18 mo DH screams and nitpicks almost daily. He was never a happy person but I guess it's gotten worse. I've begged and cried that he stop, but he won't. Finally 2 mo ago, we decided to divorce. He filed the papers. Foolishly, I started sleeping w/ another man 1 mo ago. DH went away for 1 wk, came back this weekend and swears he's changed. He seems like he's willing to be nicer, not so angry. I am afraid to trust him, but I love him. Part of me wants to give the marriage a 2nd chance, it's the Christian thing to do plus I love DH w/ all my heart, but part of me says I've sinned and ruined the marriage, and I shouldn't trust him anyway because eventually he'll start screaming at me again, so I should move on before I am too old to have children. What should I do? I really want a baby but not with a man who screams all the time...but maybe he has changed. I am so confused.

Why so much hate in the christian bible? Some say that the bible was for slavery killing and brutality because thats how mankind was at that time and that was the only way to deal with it. Buddhism on the other hand is a much older religion that never speaks of anything other than peace love and compassion Can you tell me one spiritually enlightened person who has ever promoted violence? Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi, sri ramana maharshi never spoke of such nonsense. Here are some quotes from the old testament to give a better understanding of what im talking about 1) Murder, rape, and pillage at Jabesh-gilead (Judges 21:10-24 NLT) So they sent twelve thousand warriors to Jabesh-gilead with orders to kill everyone there, including women and children. "This is what you are to do," they said. "Completely destroy all the males and every woman who is not a virgin." Among the residents of Jabesh-gilead they found four hundred young virgins who had never slept with a man, and they brought them to the camp at Shiloh in the land of Canaan. The Israelite assembly sent a peace delegation to the little remnant of Benjamin who were living at the rock of Rimmon. Then the men of Benjamin returned to their homes, and the four hundred women of Jabesh-gilead who were spared were given to them as wives. But there were not enough women for all of them. The people felt sorry for Benjamin because the LORD had left this gap in the tribes of Israel. So the Israelite leaders asked, "How can we find wives for the few who remain, since all the women of the tribe of Benjamin are dead? There must be heirs for the survivors so that an entire tribe of Israel will not be lost forever. But we cannot give them our own daughters in marriage because we have sworn with a solemn oath that anyone who does this will fall under God's curse." Then they thought of the annual festival of the LORD held in Shiloh, between Lebonah and Bethel, along the east side of the road that goes from Bethel to Shechem. They told the men of Benjamin who still needed wives, "Go and hide in the vineyards. When the women of Shiloh come out for their dances, rush out from the vineyards, and each of you can take one of them home to be your wife! And when their fathers and brothers come to us in protest, we will tell them, 'Please be understanding. Let them have your daughters, for we didn't find enough wives for them when we destroyed Jabesh-gilead. And you are not guilty of breaking the vow since you did not give your daughters in marriage to them.'" So the men of Benjamin did as they were told. They kidnapped the women who took part in the celebration and carried them off to the land of their own inheritance. Then they rebuilt their towns and lived in them. So the assembly of Israel departed by tribes and families, and they returned to their own homes. Obviously these women were repeatedly raped. These sick bastards killed and raped an entire town and then wanted more virgins, so they hid beside the road to kidnap and rape some more. How can anyone see this as anything but evil? 2) Murder, rape and pillage of the Midianites (Numbers 31:7-18 NLT) They attacked Midian just as the LORD had commanded Moses, and they killed all the men. All five of the Midianite kings – Evi, Rekem, Zur, Hur, and Reba – died in the battle. They also killed Balaam son of Beor with the sword. Then the Israelite army captured the Midianite women and children and seized their cattle and flocks and all their wealth as plunder. They burned all the towns and villages where the Midianites had lived. After they had gathered the plunder and captives, both people and animals, they brought them all to Moses and Eleazar the priest, and to the whole community of Israel, which was camped on the plains of Moab beside the Jordan River, across from Jericho. Moses, Eleazar the priest, and all the leaders of the people went to meet them outside the camp. But Moses was furious with all the military commanders who had returned from the battle. "Why have you let all the women live?" he demanded. "These are the very ones who followed Balaam's advice and caused the people of Israel to rebel against the LORD at Mount Peor. They are the ones who caused the plague to strike the LORD's people. Now kill all the boys and all the women who have slept with a man. Only the young girls who are virgins may live; you may keep them for yourselves. Clearly Moses and God approves of rape of virgins. 3) More Murder Rape and Pillage (Deuteronomy 20:10-14) As you approach a town to attack it, first offer its people terms for peace. If they accept your terms and open the gates to you, then all the people inside will serve you in forced labor. But if they refuse to make peace and prepare to fight, you must attack the town. When the LORD your God hands it over to you, kill every man in the town. But you may keep for yourselves all the women, children, livestock, and other plunder. You may enjoy the spoils of your enemies that the LORD your God has given you. What kind of God approves of murder, rape, and slavery? 4) Laws of Rape (Deuteronomy 22:28-29 NAB) If a man is caught in the act of raping a young woman who is not engaged, he must pay fifty pieces of silver to her father. Then he must marry the young woman because he violated her, and he will never be allowed to divorce her. What kind of lunatic would make a rape victim marry her attacker? Answer: God. 5) Death to the Rape Victim (Deuteronomy 22:23-24 NAB) If within the city a man comes upon a maiden who is betrothed, and has relations with her, you shall bring them both out of the gate of the city and there stone them to death: the girl because she did not cry out for help though she was in the city, and the man because he violated his neighbors wife. It is clear that God doesn't give a damn about the rape victim. He is only concerned about the violation of another mans "property". 6) David's Punishment - Polygamy, Rape, Baby Killing, and God's "Forgiveness" (2 Samuel 12:11-14 NAB) Thus says the Lord: 'I will bring evil upon you out of your own house. I will take your wives [plural] while you live to see it, and will give them to your neighbor. He shall lie with your wives in broad daylight. You have done this deed in secret, but I will bring it about in the presence of all Israel, and with the sun looking down.' Then David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the Lord." Nathan answered David: "The Lord on his part has forgiven your sin: you shall not die. But since you have utterly spurned the Lord by this deed, the child born to you must surely die." [The child dies seven days later.] This has got to be one of the sickest quotes of the Bible. God himself brings the completely innocent rape victims to the rapist. What kind of pathetic loser would do something so evil? And then he kills a child! This is sick, really sick! 7) Rape of Female Captives (Deuteronomy 21:10-14 NAB) "When you go out to war against your enemies and the LORD, your God, delivers them into your hand, so that you take captives, if you see a comely woman among the captives and become so enamored of her that you wish to have her as wife, you may take her home to your house. But before she may live there, she must shave her head and pare her nails and lay aside her captive's garb. After she has mourned her father and mother for a full month, you may have relations with her, and you shall be her husband and she shall be your wife. However, if later on you lose your liking for her, you shall give her her freedom, if she wishes it; but you shall not sell her or enslave her, since she was married to you under compulsion." Once again God approves of forcible rape. 8) Rape and the Spoils of War (Judges 5:30 NAB) They must be dividing the spoils they took: there must be a damsel or two for each man, Spoils of dyed cloth as Sisera's spoil, an ornate shawl or two for me in the spoil. (Judges 5:30 NAB) 9) Sex Slaves (Exodus 21:7-11 NLT) When a man sells his daughter as a slave, she will not be freed at the end of six years as the men are. If she does not please the man who bought her, he may allow her to be bought back again. But he is not allowed to sell her to foreigners, since he is the one who broke the contract with her. And if the slave girl's owner arranges for her to marry his son, he may no longer treat her as a slave girl, but he must treat her as his daughter. If he himself marries her and then takes another wife, he may not reduce her food or clothing or fail to sleep with her as his wife. If he fails in any of these three ways, she may leave as a free woman without making any payment. (Exodus 21:7-11 NLT) 10) God Assists Rape and Plunder (Zechariah 14:1-2 NAB) Lo, a day shall come for the Lord when the spoils shall be divided in your midst. And I will gather all the nations against Jerusalem for battle: the city shall be taken, houses plundered, women ravished; half of the city shall go into exile, but the rest of the people shall not be removed from the city. (Zechariah 14:1-2 NAB) Are you reading the bible? Its not talking about love. its telling to kill. Those words are right out of the old testament! Try to stick to what we are talking about please.

Need Advice!!? I am trying to find my true self and live a Christian lifestyle. My problem is letting go of anger. I was abused growing up and had a father who's only way of communicating was yelling, throwing something across the room, hitting, punching, and calling myself, my sister, and I horrible names. My parents divorced three years ago and since then my Mom has become very ill mentally. She has always struggled, throughout my childhood, with bipolar disorder, neediness, and obsessive compulsive disorder; however, when she tried living alone, after my Dad left it just didn't work out so human services removed her from her home into a group home two years ago. I have so much anger and hate in me and blame my Dad for what my Mother has been going through; however, to truly live a Christian lifestyle I must forgive my Dad and move on. How can I do this? I have lifted up the phone several times to call him, but I can't bring myself to do it. My sister and I aren't real close...we talk on occassion. I don't really trust her as she is still living in the past...married an abusive husband, etc. She did tell me; however, that our Dad asks about me and my daughter, whom he has never met, all the time. I don't know what to do. sent my Dad a letter about two years ago...a hate letter full of anger about how I feel towards him and how my Mom was slowly going downhill and that her condo would probably have to be sold. Since then, I have only seen him once. That was at my sisters' children's birthday party two years ago. If I do get up the courage to call him, I plan on letting him do most of the talking...or try to.

Need Advice!!? I am trying to find my true self and live a Christian lifestyle. My problem is letting go of anger. I was abused growing up and had a father who's only way of communicating was yelling, throwing something across the room, hitting, punching, and calling myself, my sister, and I horrible names. My parents divorced three years ago and since then my Mom has become very ill mentally. She has always struggled, throughout my childhood, with bipolar disorder, neediness, and obsessive compulsive disorder; however, when she tried living alone, after my Dad left it just didn't work out so human services removed her from her home into a group home two years ago. I have so much anger and hate in me and blame my Dad for what my Mother has been going through; however, to truly live a Christian lifestyle I must forgive my Dad and move on. How can I do this? I have lifted up the phone several times to call him, but I can't bring myself to do it. My sister and I aren't real close...we talk on occassion. She does tell me that our Dad sounds down/depressed and that he asks about me and my daughter, whom he has never met, all the time. I sent my Dad a letter about two years ago...a hate letter full of anger about how I feel towards him and how my Mom was slowly going downhill and that her condo would probably have to be sold. Since then, I have only seen him once. That was at my sisters' children's birthday party two years ago. If I do get up the courage to call him, I plan on letting him do most of the talking...or try to.

Need advice on helping my kids? Ok, I just got divorced on March 2, 2007. I have 2 kids a daughter who will be 8 in may and a son who is 6. When they are with me they see good Christian values and morals, but when they are with their dad they seen none of this. He cheated and left us for another woman and now he is living with her and her child and the kids know they are not married but they live together. This is not the example I want for my kids, but I can't do a thing about it, so how do I explain this to them WITHOUT trashing their father and his girlfriend? First, I dont trash him, second, I did not decide to divorce him! HE cheated on me and left me or another woman, and it had nothing to do with me being a Christian.

help/advice from fellow christians? Okay, I was raised as a christian. But I lost my faith when I reached highschool and declared myself as agnostic until I was 18. During those years my parents got divorced and my mother remarried. When I became agnostic my mother and stepfather agreed with my beliefs and followed the faithless path. A year after graduation I re-dedicated my life to Christ. There is no question I havent had answered and my faith has returned. I have given myself completely to God. The only problem I have yet to face is my parents. They are very negative about religion and when someone says they are religous my family will call them "stupid", "brainwashed", or "misguided". The thing is I completely understand and can relate to this type of thinking although I no longer feel that way. I have to lie about where I am going when I go to church, and this whole thing is killing me. Ive prayed to God about it but I dont know when the right time is to tell them about my faith. I cant live in secrecy anymore

Christians--Biblical advice how to rebuke someone? I have something that is offending me, though it really has nothing to do with me personally. My s-i-l got married to a man who is divorced. My sil has a rather derogattory nickname for his ex-wife and was referring to her by that name, long before she'd even met the woman. My mother in law has never met her either, and uses the same nickname. My sister in law's husband is a former pastor, has several children with his ex wife and he allows them to refer to his ex wife in this way. I don't know the ex wife, either, but I still find it extremely offensive the way 2 "Christian" women talk about someone they've never met. Please tell me how to Biblically show them this is wrong.

homeschooling 16 yr.old-need advice? Hi everyone, my son has had problems in school since the 5th grade., he is now a sophmore in highschool. He was in the public school system, then the catholic school system, now a christian school system, we have ran out of systems!!! I have considered home schooling, but to be honest, Im not that smart! I dont know if I could do it, and is it also possible to help my son being that I work fulltime? I am also divorced, so it would be my sole responsibilty. I think he lacks the dedication and commitment to do a program of this type, but he has missed so much school. And when he is there, he is so nervous hes not learning anyway. How do I go about determining what homeschooling program is the right one for him??? Thanks !! Thanks to everyone that responded...some good ideas to follow up on.....my son has social phobia to the extremes....he has been in counseling for 4 years now and is also on meds,he has also been tested for learning disabilites and is supposably ok, but I feel like all of these Drs. have missed something...

Dating a Syrian man? My friend has just started dating a Syrian man who is 45 divorced, Muslim and he seems very nice and she is 44 divorced and christian (church of england). He asked her to go to a family gathering where there will be a party with his family and friends. She is wanting advice about how to behave with him and in social circles and wants to be aware of the rules, traditions and things not to do and do in the relationship as she is very interested in a long term relationship with this man and wants to respect his culture. He has lived in Australia for 10 years and is a citizen. Can anyone advise on what to expect. He is also very affectionate in public and has a very strong personality.

i am not mormon and dating a mormon, i need some advice.? Ok well first off i am a single mom who has already been divorced.. and now raising my 11 month old son.. i am christian, and was raised that way. i do believe it's good to raise your children in your religon.. but i don't want him to think any other religon is wrong, that's for him to decide when he grows up.. ok so that's a little about me.. now i am dating a guy who is mormon.. and he has no problem dating me, or kissing me, any of those things.. even eventually getting romantically involved. but my question is.. is this all ok, i mean if i ever got married to a mormon, i would never become mormon, and i wouldn't raise my son that way. how would all of that work.. i have asked him about the way things work about marrying someone who isn't mormon, and he told me, it doesn't matter what the person is, mormon or not, if you love them, then people will except that you are both different. if we ever had kids. what religon would they be. i am not against his beliefs. also.. his parents are really into there religon, and they live in utah, and i am afraid that they arn't going to accept that i am not mormon.. how do i deal w/ all of that. i guess i just can't worry about it right? because i have nothing against the religon, i just want to be excepted by everyone i guess. also. just if this matters.. i am 22 and he is 26.

Can a Pakistani man truly love an American woman? Hello all. I have met (online) the most amazing man. He and I clicked from our first conversation. He wanted me to come visit him in Pakistan. But I do not want to go without my children, and I cannot afford such a trip. He has offered to come here and says he is in love with me. My question is this...he is Muslim and from Pakistan, never married, no kids...11 years younger than I am. I am a twice divorced mother of two..christian. I am unsure why a man with so many differences from me, would be interested in me. I know it isn't to get a green card and come to the US, because he has never wanted to come here. Should I believe him when he says he loves me and wants to be with me? Doesn't his culture frown on such a relationship? Please give me advice here. Thanks!!

younger intelligent ambitious woman attracted to older man and inexperienced...help!? I am an intelligent 26 year old woman who is well on her way to medical school in a year....before that I was a musician, and have been training professionally for a year with a very well established musician of my own instrument...it gets complicated from here...he just got divorced, but the more I saw him, the more I became attracted...I am waiting for marriage to do ANYTHING...but I am afraid that if i start anything with him..that it will come to a point where our faiths collide...me being Christian..and he..Jewish...I need advice!....he has shown me that he is interested...but I'm not sure how to show it back..my curiosity is killing me..and I know this time in my life should be carpe diem...but I'm just not attracted to younger guys anymore...plus...this older man...is not one of those CREEPy older men looking for a**..he is truly smart...talented and sweet....someone help!..I'm dying of curiosity but I don't want to blow it! look..a couple other things I haven't mentioned are....1) he has a son in high school whom I've met 2) I have stopped taking instruction from him and haven't contacted him in months....3) don't know how to initiate the fact that I want to play a different role in his life now that I am not a musician like he is...and believe me..the music world is small..and if we date...there will be consequences...as to the knowledge of it...but now since I have decided a different career path..there is a lot of burden take off...still...am I reading him wrong?...how do I know?...all I know is that he is the type of older man that would never cross or overstep the student teacher relationship we had..because it would take away my intergrity... one more request...could everyone give me a lil' on themselves...so i know what kind of person the advice is coming from?....it would put me at ease..thanks..:-0)

I desperatly need Good advice! Help? I am freaking out. I have been employed at a Catholic School for 7 years as a 5th grade teacher and I love it. I have been engaged to my wonderful fiance for a year and a half. When I recently told my principal I was getting married she told me I would be fired. (My fiance has been divorced and cannot marry in a Catholic church until it is anulled, so we were just going to get married in a beautiful Christian church--which I prefer, actually) But she said if I am not married in the catholic church, I am "not modeling catholic beliefs" and would be fired. First of all, this is 2006 in AMERICA, for pete's sake, but all the dogma aside--I want to get married AND I want to keep my job.... What should I do? The anullment process for our situation would take about 2 years. I DO NOT want to put my life on hold that long. I am 32! i'm in California..I am Cathoilc, I am seriously the best teacher at that school, and they are using the broad phrase "modeling the cathoilc faith" to encompass anything they want... I don't know if i can sue... I don't think I can. Anyway the justice system sucks about as much as this stupid antiquated arbitrary rule does. There are teachers at my school that do not get in trouble for getting arrested!! Yet, I will be fired for GETTING MARRIED!?! Not fair.

Dating a divorced man, a sin? I am dating a man who is divorced. I can honestly see myself marrying him, but as I am trying to become a stronger Christian, I need some advice. I was brought up believing that divorce is a sin except for unfaithfulness, and if a woman marries a man that divorced for anything else, that is adultry. My boyfriend divorced his exwife for many reasons, but one of the main ones was because she became addicted to drugs. Also he is 99% positive that she DID cheat on him. He had a different perspective that I had never thought about. When a spouse is unfaithful, they chose someone else over them. Well, his ex wife chose drugs over him and his daughter and neglected their marriage. He believes this is also a form of unfaithfulness. I would like to hear your opinions. Don't just say "God said so"; if you want to give scriptures that is fine. DO you think all rules in the Bible are cut and dry, or do you think some thigns change over time or could be interpreted differently? Thanks for the answers so far! A few details that might help you answer... 1)please, if you are a non-Christian please do not answer. I want to strengthen my relationship with God, and I want a Christian perspective. 2)He is a strong Christian and we put Christ as the center of our relationship. We often pray together and talk about the Bible. So, he's not just a random divorced guy...he is a good man, a great father to his little girl, and puts God first in his life. Thank you everyone.