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Why do so many women ask for advice on divorce? What the hell is up with that? Can't you make up your own mind? Does begging for non-direct sympathy gain wisdom and power in order to kick your man to the curb? It seems most men don't reach out for advice and women get it from everywhere (all for free.) Constantly men are helping out hoards of wailing women all over the world when they need to know how to screw over their husbands in a divorce, and in return most of them wouldn't help you out if your life depended on it. What gives?? The ratio of women asking advice on divorce (here at Yahoo) is about four women to every man asking for advice. It may seem like a burning question in a way, but honestly... I'm curious. After hearing women discuss an issue like this... They'll listen to gay men, hateful women who've had terrible marriages, etc. They don't always seem to get advice from quality people (in my opinion) and instead take the advice from the worst and go with it. Ummm.... Ann (and others) Me hurt? Yes, 8 years ago but that's not why I'm asking this qiestion. Every day I see people ask for divorce advice and what a downer it is to see people constantly asking the same questions before browsing the million other already asked questions on divorce. lol
Advice from divorced or separated women with kids? I need some advice from women that went through leaving a husband. How hard was it to leave? What to do when it's hard for you to move on? What do you do when everytime you feel like you have enout courage to walk out of the door, you turn around and go back because you feel like it's too much to bear (feels like the death of a loved one)? Does marriage technically mean til death do you part no matter what kind of lying and decieving your mate is doing or how much you are in pain? Thanks.
Seeking advice from divorced women in a similar situation? This question is for women who have been divorced. . I am 27, been married 5 years.Have no kids. My problem is that have never been independent. I got married young, during medical school. I was at home with my parents and then moved in with my husband. My husband and I argue all the time, there is really no saving our marriage. I dont have any support system or relatives here. And I have no clue how to live on my own.For instance how to pay bills, do banking work or other basic stuff. Do you think it is possible to learn how to be independent if I take the big step. Has anyone been in a similar situation. Thanks for you answers
Need advice from divorced women, when did you know? Hi, Im 28 , been married to my husband for about 5 yrs, have no kids. I really want your insight on this. Has any one been in a situation where you still love your husband but know your marriage is at the point of no return. Me and my husband have known each other many years but since the last one year we have been increasingly arguing. Now he is even verbally abusive at times. I admit I have a temper issue as wel but lately he just doesnt seem to care. And then there are times wen he cares a lot. Im really confused. His behaviour is not consistent. When did you know that you need to go ahead and call a divorce lawyer. I believe there is still love beween us but the marriage can never work. We justseem to be growing apart every day. Thanks n advance for all your answers.
what red flags are important to look for when dating women after divorce? for instance, are they a vicitm, why has every relationship failed, what's their relationship with their own parents, if children why they didn't work out their problems, etc... seems i've been divorced twice and i always pick the ones with a lot of baggage or are prone to cheat even though they come across as the sweetest women. Any advice on red flags to look for in women? I'd like to hear from the ladies. they know better than anyone.
UK woman married in US wants divorce and needs advice? A female citizen and resident of the UK came to the USA and married a male (California resident, US citizen) she barely knew, one week ago. He moved back with her to the UK (at the end of last week) and she is now considering ending the marriage. Can she somehow divorce him in the UK, or must she file for divorce in California where she was married? We would also be grateful for any other further advice for the woman in this situation. Serious answers, please. She's legally married now and wants to be legally single again. Sending him home and "forgetting it happened" won't change the fact that she is legally married.
What advice would you give to a woman about to start a divorce? This is for everyone who has been through a divorce. I am going to court to file for divorce this week.I need all the help and advice i can get.Thanks. no i do not have a lawyer. I can't afford it since he spent all the money we had.
For any woman who has been through a divorce... Advice needed!!? My husband and I were high school sweethearts; we got married young even though everyone told us not to. To no one’s surprise here we are, three years later, getting a divorce. We both want it, it’s for the best. My mom came and took all of our pictures down and I cried my eyes out. But the worst was yesterday when I got officially served with the papers and I cried the whole afternoon because it became so real. Ok, so here is where I need the advice. I know the divorce is for the best, he was emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive, and he admits to this. I think that is why this is so hard for me, he destroyed who I was inside, and I feel like I need him. But how do I move on from this? How do I pick myself up from this? How do I not dwell on it? I just need some advice on how you maybe picked yourself up and moved on and didn’t feel so bad about it.
I need some advice from Christian divorced men/women, serious answers only please? I've been divorced about 7 years, my daughter is 9 now. when she was 6 months and my life was crashing down I finally turned everything to the Lord, asked for forgiveness and accepted Jesus as my Lord and Saviour. I started dating about 3 years ago and quickly met a nice Christian man. at about 10 months he was having committment issues I guess, so that ended. We remained celibate(although no one believed that) through our relationship. Since that ended 1 1/2 yr. ago, I've been trying to meet Christian men to no avail. My church is small so no luck there. I have dated other men but the talk about the Lord is missing. I recently met a man and I'm embarrased to say that my libido is in high gear. I enjoy his company and the physical component I foresee as a problem. I'm having a very hard time resisting. I miss the companionship and physical aspect of a marriage. I know it would be wrong, but I'm wavering. I'm very attracted to him and I've only seen him three times. My former husband left me, after 15 years of marriage and our 9 month old daughter for another woman and got her pregnant. So as far as divorced and not being Christian I cover the Bible's release by infidelity and abandonment.
help. My husband filed divorce papers and I have nobody to give me advice. I need advice.? forty y.o. together 20y, married 9y. No kids. Own a house equal share I am in it. California. I have some of my own income enough basically to feed myself but this is CA. He has a secret (he's making it secret) woman encouraged him to file the papers. I'm Christian (he's nonbeliever) so nobody gives me any divorce advice, just marriage advice but clearly this isn't helpful. Help What do I do?? Len -- right, I became Christian 4 y ago; he didn't like it.
Why are divorced women bitter and always wants to get back on their ex-husband? And if the ex-husband marries a younger woman they get angrier. That's why i don't listen to any advice from "bitter divorced women" you can always tell which one is. now let's see how many bitter divorced women who's going to retaliate on their answer her. I am not saying all divorced women are bitter but majority are. And that is the truth and i'm sure most of you can't handle the truth. it doesn't matter if the wife cheated or the husband did. all i'm saying women should learn to moved on and forgive instead of saying,yeah my x husband did this to me, my x is this and that.
Looking for advice from women who are divorced and in another relationship? I have been divorced for 2 years. I have been living with my boyfriend for 8 months. He is also recently divorced (3 years). It seems that every time we have an argument or he disapproves of something I have done he implies that he is going to leave. What I find difficult is that he seems to be in this relationship with one foot already out the door. Is this characteristically normal for people who have been divorced? Are we less tolerent of others shortcommings? Are we willing to throw away a relationship at the first sign of trouble? ............or have I just chosen a man who doesn't really know what he wants so threatens to leave when he's not getting what he wants.
Newly divorced mom needs advice from divorced couples men and women here my background? Been divorced 1 yr married for 8 yrs with 6 yr old son.Bitter divorce found out ex was cheating with old gf and left me for her.Things are better now i'm still resentful but try to be nice for my son and ex does the same. here's my question what do you and your ex do as far as parent/teacher conferences go? Go together or at different times? What about birthday parties or halloween do you and your ex do joint parties or does he do his own thing?My ex lives in the same town as us and i would say we have an "average divorce" meaning we don't want to kill each other but i'm still resentful for what he did to me and he wants as little contact with me as possible.I think we should do some of these things together but i know my ex will not.He is a great dad and i know he will do all this things on his own.So please just let me know how you all handle this issues. Oh yes he is no longer with the gf he left me for but a new one who i do not get along with so this is half the problem.
I am going through Divorce Any Advice? I am a 24 year's old woman who is going through divorce and i need advice from anyone to make it as civilized as possible. Husband is 34 and is not to be trusted in any financial issues.... Any advices on what to do , what to ask for, what no to do, what to be careful about?>Thank you all
Where is the best website to get experienced advice on marriage and divorce ? I'm going through a complicated divorce (married 17yrs, & still love him) need experienced advice/blog support from those (30+) who've been there-done that. I'm an emotional and financial wreck (in Michigan). He has parkinsons and says he still loves me and the kids but lost his job, caused me to loose mine, he has moved into another residence with an 80 yr old woman and her 55 yr old daughter. He has filed, we are getting a divorce.
A have question: Women Divorce yesterday her husband,the day is Sunday,SHE tell to I live with her at her Home I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.
A have question:HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend and abaut divorce? I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.
Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M&D? Do you ever shudder (or laugh) at some of the advice that people are given on this board...these are my favorites: NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS Advice: Go on strike NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS Advice: Withhold sex ABUSIVE: Advice: Talk to him about your feelings LOW LIBIDO, CHEATING ON YOU, IGNORES YOU Advice: Cheat on him NEED TO SPICE UP THE BEDROOM Advice: Have a threesome VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION Advice: Throw out the computer VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION Advice: Join him ABUSED NO MONEY FOR DIVORCE LAWYER Advice: Stay and get a job to save for a lawyer HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE Advice: Stop complaining and enjoy it HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE Advice: Tell him to go pleasure himself Other good ones you see?
Question for the Divorce Women and Men Out there? How soon is too soon to date? Does anyone have any storys on when they got divorce and started dating again? What not to do? what to do? Any Advice?
How can a canadian woman best protect themselves during divorce? I'm looking for 'advice' from women who have been in this situation, how they achieved allimony, custody, etc.
A question about moving on?? I want to hear from men who are divorced. Divorce women tell me your experience I have been separated for 11 months and know now that divorce is pending. This is after 14 years of marriage and 20 years of being together. Now I have had two or three dates during the separation and all have come during the last month. My question is what is the best advice you can give during a period of time when everything seems stacked against me financially and emotionally being that I am the one who did not want the divorce? My next question is did you date during this period of time and how did that work for you trying to start over?? Finally, how many of you have remarried and what is different from your first marriage???
Can you give me advice on buying my house? I am a divorced woman who will be moving hours away.....Im looking to buy a NEWLY constructed house. Can anyone offer advice for getting the price dropped? Also, does anyone know when the "off season" is? In other words, when the market is slow?
Advice with divorced woman with a child? There is this woman who is 5 years older than me and I had asked her out, but she thinks we were going as friends she said that. She told me she is divorced and has a 3 year old kid, and for some odd reason everytime I call her she does not answer at all, and only one time I called her she called me back and that was the first time we were going to hang out or something. She told me she could not make it because of a car accident she got in, but she was alright. She told me that we could set-up for another time. Next I told her next saturday good, but before that I asked her if I was pressuring her, and she said no, but on top of that though she said we were going as friends. She told me that those two times they were good chances she could go, but she said she would call me, and some odd reason she never does when she says she will. After that this Saturday she never called and I called to she whats going on, but some odd reason she does not pick up or return my calls? Though today was supposed to be the date, and I left her two messages. So should I ask her what had happened during work because she works at the same place as me, or should I just back off. The funny thing is though I asked her if she is interested and she told me that she was and she wanted to go to this one place with her daughter, but she does not seem to want to contact me over the phone. Also before all this happened she told me she was recently dating and it did not work out, but she made it sound like she was busy because of taking of her daughter. Even though I included her daughter into the plans too.
A have question: Women Divorce yesterday her husband,the day is Sunday,SHE tell to I live with her at her Home I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.
Marriages To A Foreigner Women And Divorce? I know someone that married a foreign women over in cyprus, He brought her back to uk to live with him. When she was over in uk she got a job working all the hours going as a care assistant in a nursing home making about £900 a month. She hid alot of her paperwork like bank statements and pay slips. she admitted was sending money back to her family in the philipines £500 a month! She didnt help out alot, causing problems between the family, never wanting to do anything with the mans family, About 5 months on in the marriage she just disappeared! (went out one morning said she had a hosital appointment and never returned) he later found out she went back to the philipines to her family, she left all her clothes but took all of her paper work? (bit weird i know) but this is the bit he needs some advice on. hes still married to her and doesnt know how to go about gettin a divorce, whats involved and if she can take half of his belonging, she didnt notify any immagration team about her departure. can she get back into the country with her visa she got to marry this man? even though she isnt living with him? whats the law on marriages in cyrpus? who do you contact? embassy in london? if someone could help that would be great.
Help! Need advice on dating DIVORCED man!! men & women!? I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months. we've known each other for over 10 years & reconnected last summer He divorced his ex-wife a year ago I know the whole story from his point of view & we also have the same circle of friends that we've kept in touch with from HS so I've heard from them a little over a year ago the same story Everything was going great until about a month ago He started acting weird towards me a little distant we talked about it and its gotten betterWe don't see each other as much as we would like because we're both so busy me with my job & business&himwith his business and 4yr old son who is adorable. I expect his son to come 1st. However something so stupid like on myspace he is classified as single. 5 months ago he didnt want anyone to know he was in a serious relationship, that has changed. Hes still single on myspace. His business team knows hes with me but 1 person is obsessed with him and I think she doesnt realize how serious we r b/c of that. I'm getting so jealous. i know he would never date her b/c shes totally not his type, im not worried about that. i just dont understand why he's still "single" on myspace. he explained to me why 5 months ago and he brought it up. now, its different. we're serious with each other. she knows we're dating but i dont think she, or other people for that matter, know. does he not want to feel like he's taken? i wish i could get the whole situation on here, but its too complicated to get into. any advice dating divorced people? im not the first woman he's dated since he left his ex wife. but he loves how i make him feel and we have a blast together, and he says he loves me. i just dont want to feel jealous.
I need some divorce advice! Thanks? serious answers only!!! Ok I have been with my husband 6 years married 4. We have a 4 year old daughter. He is in the military and we are stationed in Georgia. We got in a fight and I left. The next day I went home to see what was gonna happen and he had shoved all my stuff, even pictures of me and my christmas stocking in the closet. He told me that he was happy and didn't want me to come home and wanted a divorce, but I could keep my car and cell phone and he would pay for it until I get a job. He even let me keep the debit card for whatever me and my daughter need. He let me get what I wanted from our house. We are not fighting about anything and are being very civil and mutual on everything. He said I could keep our child and I will let him see her every weekend when he is off and he has offered to pay child support and alimony. Well that all sounds great, but I am concerned about some things. He is already paying for websites where you meet woman and today when I took him our daughter he didn't even have anything to do with her. He only said like 3 words to her and just continued playing his video game and he didn't want to keep her because he had plans to drink with his co-worker. This is crappy to me. We were only there 2 hours and he wanted us to leave. I don't know what to do. He said he was going to file the divorce and we would just be mutual on everything which is what I want but he don't act like he even wants his daughter. I think he just wants us out of his life so he can party and have fun. Just extra info, I am 23 he is 22. We got pregnant when i was 18. If you have been thru this help me. What do you think I should do? Thanks
I need advice with my first divorce in regards to my 2 year old son? We recently seperated and we are going to file for divorce. This is her 3rd marriage and my first. Of course things have been tense as expected. But she has yet to leave him with me over the weekend until we have a parenting plan. Do women always get the advantage in the parenting plans ? I feel like im always on edge and have to kiss up to her or else she will threanten to make things worse for me.
In Need of your advice? Mature Anwsers Men and Women Please? So now almost single status myself and my divorce almost final. ( have been seperated for a year) I am dating a man who as well has been seperated for a long time too ( about a year as well). He and his ex have talked about getting the ball rolling for offical divorce yet are not very active in doing so due to finaces. My question is even though it is over with in you heart and eyes and only a paper issue would it bother you as a woman to be single dating a man who says he will eventually get around to it when the funds are availbe? And for you men is it ok with you if you were in this possition knowing your girlfriend was bothered by it and he knows you are? They will not ever get back together neither will my ex and I but we both have good relationships due to children involved. Am I wrong to think of this as odd? I dont want to get married again for a while and my BF and I have discussed the issue yet I would like to know we are by law "single" if that makes sense. Your advice ty. So I talked more w/ my BF and he and his ex are very much for getting the divorce rolling and are going to do it. They both are activly trying to save up the funds to do so to split it evenly and to make sure they have enough to do so. He is so over with her and they only talk in regards to the children. I know this is true as I am around when this happens, we are very honest with each other and that is a wonderful aspect of our relationship. Thank you for all your input, I was able to use what you all had said in some way or another to talk to him more about it and he knows how I feel and is considerate of my feelings, he loves me very much and I see that in all his actions not just his words.
Advice on getting on with life after my parents divorce? My parents divorced 8 years ago and I have been so unsettled in life ever since. I was very close to my dad and he is now living 3000kms away with his wife (the woman he had the affair with). My mother has changed a lot and now lives with my sister as she can't bear to be on her own. She has lost her enthusiasm for life. I have my own family but I feel like the extended family is lost. I feel like I am searching for something. We have moved towns and houses a lot since the divorce and I don't stay at a job any longer than 6 months whereas I used to have a very good job history prior. I feel like my own children are suffering and I really need to get on with my life but I am really hurting still. We have decided to stay put in the town we are in now because my children have started school so I think that I have had time to think and reflect on what has been really happening. Please help me get on with my life!!
Need advice for divorce in California? I was with my husband for 5 years. We just married this September '07. Well right away he decided to cheat on me. To top it off I found out im about 2 months and a half pregnant. He went back to this woman and supposably they are bf/gf. Today he went with me to dr's appointment and the dumb ass**** had a hickie on him. I asked if I was still able to anull my marriege they said no. I had to file divorce and as irreconcilable differences. Why not as adultery? I know I got no rights since we only been married so little.
Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married? Today's society has very relaxed rules as it pertains to the what is proper etiquette between men and women, and because of it infidelity, divorce, and STDs are at an all time high. It is my view that once men and women are in committed relationships or married they need to be a damper on seeking advice, insight, and conversation from members of the opposite sex. Far too often "male" and "female" friends have ulterior motives and hidden agendas when dishing out relationship advice. After all is said and done when one decides upon a companion of the opposite sex it should be a person intelligent enough to resolve the issues that will arise or at least sensible enough to seek out a solution and bring it back home.
Single women over 30 Please some advice? Where are do you all go? I recently got a divorce and I don't see women my age around. Are you all married or do you just not go out? Where can I find you?
Dad is 63 and going through a divorce. Any advice on dating? He has made it clear that he would like to date and be in a relationship with a woman. I think he's unsure about where to begin and how to establish a relationship.
Are there any women who have been through an overseas military divorce? I am leaving my husband of 6 years. He is military and we are stationed in Germany. I have an appt. with JAG this week and one with the Chaplain. Does anyone have any advice on what else to do or what to expect?
Need advice from women "please"? I have been dating this wonderful women for about 3 months (she is newly divorced since last May and she contacted me.... She is also a long time family friend). We have spent alot of time together and have even taken our children on a weekend get-aways. Our kids go to the same school. She recently started a new job and it seems like she does not have time for me. I tried talking to her about it, but she indicates that she is just stressed out since she has a new job and her daughter started school. Even some of my text messages go un answered that you think would get a response. My question is should I just back off and see what happens? What should I do? I would do anything for this girl... A little more.... usually we talk or text throughout the day. Since I posted this question I decided to lay off and not contact her today. Well she called just to see how my day was going and we talked for about 30 minutes. Maybe she is just busy and stressed. I know I sound like a idiot, but I have been out of the dating scene for 9 years. Any help from the females would be appreciated.
Advice on meeting women...? I'm 34 and I've been divorced for almost 7 years. Since then I've had one very short relationship and I haven't even been on a date in over 3 years. About 18 months ago I moved to a new town for work. I didn't know anyone here to start with. Unfortunately it's a smallish community and there is very little in the way of a public social scene and virtually no night life. Plus everyone knows everyone and it's hard for an outsider to make friends (I've heard this from others too). I know there are (presumably) single women my age because I see them at work, but I never see the outside of work. I manage a movie theatre and all my employees are teenagers so it's not really a possibility to meet people through them - although I'm nearly the same age as some of their parents. I also don't think it's right to hit on customers. I'm not really comfortable just approaching strangers. What can I do to develop some dating prospects?
Married Christian Women -- I need your advice please.? I know for a fact that my husband has had an affair in the past. He admitted this to me, we went to counseling and worked things out. Today, I found text messages from the same woman's number on his cell phone, saying things like "I miss you" and "When can you come over?" I called her and she told me that she was under the impression that we were getting divorced and that my husband was making plans to move in with her. He, of course, says that its not true ... that she started texting him and he had not responded. I want to believe my husband and to uphold my marriage vows, but I don't want to be a doormat either. We just lost a child a little over a month ago and he has pulled away alot since then. I just don't know if I can believe what he says. Do you have any advice for me? And if you can't offer advice, will you at least offer prayers?
I recently found out my husband has an attraction to transgender women. I need help and advice. Is he gay? If anyone has been in this situation how did you deal? I don't want to get a divorce, but do I have to?
New manager wants me to change my hairstyle? This is a fitness club where I make smoothies and sell fitness merchandise. The first day the manager (another female) rudely suggested that I change my hairstyle (she thinks its too old-fashioned) and loose some weight (I'm a size 12, not fat). Then she started complaining about her bf (see my previous question). Now she's giving me unwanted advice about my divorce. The women is crazy, lol. What should I do? I don't to offend her but I don't want this unprofessional behavior around me and I don't want to be her friend. I dislike people who ask their employees for advice (she started asking me for advice withe bf problems) then because they are embarassed, try to ram advice down your throat, to feel equal to you. Ohhh, the avatar above is not what my hair looks like. My hair is medium brown and mid-length. Link to my picture: http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z103/sparklingH2O/?action=view¤t=Angela1.jpg
Need advice from women "please"? I have been dating this wonderful women for about 3 months (she is newly divorced since last May and she contacted me.... She is also a long time family friend). We have spent alot of time together and have even taken our children on a weekend get-aways. Our kids go to the same school. She recently started a new job and it seems like she does not have time for me. I tried talking to her about it, but she indicates that she is just stressed out since she has a new job and her daughter started school. Even some of my text messages go un answered that you think would get a response. My question is should I just back off and see what happens? What should I do? I would do anything for this girl... A little more.... usually we talk or text throughout the day. Since I posted this question I decided to lay off and not contact her today. Well she called just to see how my day was going and we talked for about 30 minutes. Maybe she is just busy and stressed. I know I sound like a idiot, but I have been out of the dating scene for 9 years. Any help from the females would be appreciated.
have a friend need women advice??? help my buddy is 49 and has low self esteem since his divorce help
Mature advice on divorce? I have been married for 30 years. Kids are grown up and no further responsibilities. Arranged marriage, but we did not get aling from day one. My wife's mother was always dominating and abusing her husband. That may have caused his early death. Her mother did the same to her husband. Three generations of women who tormented their husbands. I really do not know how to get out of this marriage. I have already transferred a large part of my properties in her name in the hope that this would give her security and reason enough to part with me amicably. I am looking for: (a) Advice from the group. (b) Any Legal remedies (c) Any sites on the web which could be of help.
divorce (pls advice)? I have a friend that is married and no longer with his partner. They have been married for approx. 3 years now, since then my friend has been paying the mortgage and all the household bills, while the other woman works but saves her money. He now wants a divorce and she is trying to take half of the equity of the house is she entitled to it. Her name is not on the deeds or anything. And she tried to lock him out of the house so he does not come round P.s they have one child and he has been keeping up with the child support payments.
Women I need advice......Please!!!!!? I was with my wife since I was 15.....I deployed at age 25 were she divorced me while I was deployed not because I was a bad husband but because she got lonely.........well to make a long story short I never did the teenage or college dating thing and now that I will be coming home soon I want to see what's out there.........where is a great spot to meet DECENT women and do you reccommend the online dating networks? Any advice passed my way is greatly appreciated ladies!!!!
I need advice on dating older women....will it work out in the long run? I am 24, college grad, living on my own, finally got my life and finances in order and a decent job. I have been seeing this older women, 42...she is divorced, no kids, is absolutely GORGEOUS and is very mature and fun to be around. She is working as well, so I know she doesn't want my money. We have a very healthy relationship, she's not too needy, we have our alone time and make time for each other.....I have never been in such a great relationship in my life. My friends think it is great. My family likes her but think I need to be with someone more my age. And her family completely adores me! I am happy and yet confused at the same time, because I feel great, but am wondering if its really healthy or if she is just using me to feel young and wanted......
I need advice on divorce.? I just left my husband of 3 1/2 years the other day. I found out he's been seeing another woman. He's now living with this woman. I know I'm going to get a divorce but I have no clue how to go about it. I've never had to go this before. Any suggestions would help. please. Also I live in Maryland.. If that makes much a difference.
How do you get thru a horribly painful divorce? How do I let go of the man I promised to love "till death do us part" even though he is cheating on me? We've been married 15 years, the last of which he has been involved with another woman. I'm an attractive woman, intelligent, we share 2 beautiful children and I never thought in a million years this would happen to us. He is seeing a recently divorced woman (yes, they were together even before SHE divorced) 4 children under 7 years old and she is a little more than lacking in the smarts dept. I guess I can see the logic as to WHY to let him go, but how do you tell your heart to follow suit? Any advice, suggestions would be greatly appreciated; nasty comments are NOT welcomed. I've seen a lot of posts here and even though I am opening myself up to rude comments, I would love to see some compassionate answers. :o) I am going thru counseling (with the kids too) started a different job after he left.. I think I'm doing all the right things, but it's this whole "heart" thing. HE filed for divorce, though it's not final yet -- this just isn't where I thought I'd be at 36 yrs old. *sigh*
i need advice from the women in here..please? Ok...here is the situation. Im divorced...have been so for about 2 years. I have three kids that i ADORE. They make me feel alive. They are great! I have a good job and i do love what i do for a living, and though my ex does take a large chunk out of my paycheck, id consider myself well off. My divorce had allot to do with one incident in my life that has shaped my destiny for the past few years. My ex told me that she would never have sex with me untill i had a vacectomy. And it came down to either doing it or saying goodbye. There were many fights over this and then i just said to myself, just do it. After i did, my ex told me she didnt want me sexualy and only wanted me to do that so that i wouldnt put our kids last once we divorced and i had kids with someone else. I was devistated and we split. My question....are there any women out there who would find a 39 year old guy, who has had a vacectomy, has three kids and is looking for..well..love?
For women only, I need advice!!? Why are married women attracted to me? I have been hit on 3 times this week at work by different married women. Where can I go to meet single women in a new town, I'm not looking for a girl in a bar on off of the streets, and I'm not a church goer with my busy work schedule. I would like to meet someone with some qualities and possible with some of the same interests as I have. I'm 40, divorced, no kids, managment job, and good looking from what the girls at work have said. Help me out here, any advice? Got any single friends you could hook me up with? Something please!!
i found out my husbandisusing dating agencies and recieving mail from other women got any advice for me? he used an msn account, in his friends name and registered on various dating sites had i read the messages with women they were saying stuff like it was fun when can i see you again do u think he met up with these women or just chatted on there, i cant trust him anymore i feel betrayed he confessed to me when i confronted him but insists that he never met any of these women,but they state in there emails why havent you foned me yet and wen can i c u again.Any suggestions or opinions?I have contacted a solicitor im going to see abouta divorce, do u think im over reacting or is this normal ? plz advice me quick
Advice from men and married women??? My bfd is 33 and divorced, we live together and have a great relationship, I am 25 and he is the 2nd man in my life. I dont have much experience about sexlife. he thinks of me as a shy not very adventurous woman so I need some advices of crazy, wild things to do with him. I am open to it. I know he likes tghis things but he doesnt try them because he is afraid of scaring me away. I have asked him to try but still he is a little conservative about showing what he really knows. So tell me I want to surprise him, show him how good and wild I can be. I have done all the classic stuff, dancing. sexy lingerie, outdoors, etc. But I want to know if there is something more, something great and extreme that men really like. Please give honest opinion, go wild suggest fantasies, Tell me anything form your deep wild instinct. Women tell me what have you done to your men that they like. Thank you!!!
A have question:HElp me PLEASE and PLEASE give me a advice,I really like to by her friend and abaut divorce? I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think I should do. I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,I talk,then she talk about pains put to move, I tell sex in marriage, I tell do she divorce the husband,SHE tell me in day Sunday she divorce the husband, SHE tell to me live with me,Please,I write the chapter of the bible,then she tell to me: live with me,Please,to all christian and born again christian.I be this your friend and I can have a GIRLFRIEND,then She no write to me by email or messege beta,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,PLEASe help me,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian ,I no want to have a wife,no want to have children with her,I can this PREY for her,but no do in action to she by happy,,I will let her sin,but I will bring her to JESUS[YAHSHUA], I can't marry her,why then I will sin[adultery], it in, Matthew 5:32 >>----------------------------------... New American Standard Bible (©1995) but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995) But I can guarantee that any man who divorces his wife for any reason other than unfaithfulness makes her look as though she has committed adultery. Whoever marries a woman divorced in this way makes himself look as though he has committed adultery.
Older Women: I need your advice once again.? I must admit that this is not a marriage & divorce question, but people in this pt. of the forum give better advice, so plz tell me what i should do? I decided 2 call my bf, well the phone rung abt. 6-7 times and then a female picked up. I was in awe and asked could i speak 2 my bf. I could hear people in the background and they were obviously in a car, and he was driving. When she put him on the phone, i just didn't know how 2 react, however i kept my cool. I made an inquiry as 2 who the girl was, and he told me her first and last name. Now I could tell that there was more than 1 person in the car, and they were not alone, but why would he allow her 2 pick up his phone. I am still upset and don't want 2 even talk 2 him. I want 2 be trusting, but at the same time this is something totally new 2 me. I don't want 2 jump 2 conclusions, but I know if a guy answered my cell, my bf would have dumped me right then and there. What's your advice? This just really bothering me, and i am seriously thinking abt. ending our relationship. My bf tells me that he does not feel comfortable with me hanging out with males, yet it seems 2 me that the rules don't apply 2 us both. I am just looking for equality in this relationship, and i am tired of his disapproval and mistrust for me.. yet it's as if he wants 2 do as he pleases. (which is not going 2 fly) i am sorry for rambling but i am just upset right now. however while on the phone with him i was calm and decided 2 just tell him i was going 2 sleep 2 night. I know one thing for sure is that i def. won't be the 1st 2 call him.
Advice on meeting women...? I'm 34 and I've been divorced for almost 7 years. Since then I've had one very short relationship and I haven't even been on a date in over 3 years. About 18 months ago I moved to a new town for work. I didn't know anyone here to start with. Unfortunately it's a smallish community and there is very little in the way of a public social scene and virtually no night life. Plus everyone knows everyone and it's hard for an outsider to make friends (I've heard this from others too). I know there are (presumably) single women my age because I see them at work, but I never see the outside of work. I manage a movie theatre and all my employees are teenagers so it's not really a possibility to meet people through them - although I'm nearly the same age as some of their parents. I also don't think it's right to hit on customers. I'm not really comfortable just approaching strangers. What can I do to develop some dating prospects?
Seperation/Divorce after 12 years and three children...hurting... confused...any advice...read THE problem...? My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have three preschool age children. THE problem.... while cleaning out our basement storage room I found two very graphic love letters from a so called FRIEND. Wish I had not read them, but I did. The letters were dated before we were married, but not much before....like a month (We won a radio contest and were married quickly after dating eleven months) One letter described how the other women didn't want to come between us but... blah blah blah...the second letter described how she wasn't sorry that last night happened and HOW it happend ( It pleased me seeing you gratified as you f***** my mouth). To date I have confronted HER by phone AND mailed the letters to her (she says she didn't remember what she wrote so I wanted us to be on the same page). I also confonted my husband and he just wanted to know why I went through his stuff. TRUE! My question is why did he keep the letters? Can I trust him? Should I trust my gut? Help!
Need Divorce Help!!!? My wife and I have been married for five years. After a couple years worth of ups and downs and an inability to communicate effectively through what I think are some pretty normal marital problems, my wife decided a couple of months ago that she wanted a divorce. The decision came on the heels of a seemingly insignificant argument. We have gone to counseling only a couple of times and we have briefly lived separately which really amounted to me being home all the time, but sleeping somewhere else; not a whole lot changed – this is the extent of our therapy. My wife is adamant that she wants this divorce and will seek no further therapy, advice, or anything that would suggest the contrary; she also refuses a stricter trial separation to really test the waters. We have a 3 year old son and I’m trying to avoid this from happening but believe its now out of my hands. I’ve tried to amicably hash out a separation agreement and she is trying to secure a refinance on our house but I think she’s sort of dragging her feet. She got really upset the other night when we were talking about how we would divide our belongings. Oddly, if the subject doesn’t come up, watching us you would never know we were seriously contemplating divorce. Except for there being no outward affection everything is normal and we get along fine. I’m really concerned about how well she has thought this through and if her feelings could change once the ink dries, which I think, is likely to happen. She recently turned 33 and I believe she is having a premature mini mid-life crisis which plays some role in this decision. She’s at the point where she does not want the daily responsibilities of being a wife, mother, etc. She would rather be shopping, dinning, or partying to the sun comes up with friends. I’ve been an outstanding husband and father and have really gone through a lot of grief standing idly by, taking care of my son, while she’s pursuing what makes her happy (above), but feel in my heart that if she thought this through she would see it’s not our only alternative, with help we could overcome this. Unfortunately I have not been able to rule out an emotional (maybe more) attachment elsewhere, can’t be sure. Talking to her has gotten me nowhere; she’s very proud (especially with me) and half the time she says A but really means B. She has expressed concerns to her friends that have gotten back to me and although it made me feel better knowing she still had some feelings, these concerns weren’t show stoppers. What would be the best course of action right now? Should I kill her with kindness and love and see if I can’t clear up some of her confusion in a good way? Should I make it easy for her to proceed with a divorce? Should I sit tight and I wait it out? Is she confused as to what she really wants or am I kidding myself? Anyone out there who regretted their decision to divorce? Do any women even identify? I need some advice! I've had two comments question my sincerity and that's completely cool. My wife will be the first to tell you the person I've been and she'd agree with what I've said - she's told me several times. That's what get's me so confused and makes me really rationalize this as best I can and really search out answers from those who have gone before me. I agree with one response that's there's more to the story, I know my wife - I just can't put the peices together. If I've done all I think I can do and it's just not doing for her, then it's not in the cards. Just looking for a little insight, that's all.
Need some advice please!! From men & women.. It would really help me.? My husband of 10 years cheated on me back in May. I found out only because he was so stupid and hid a letter he wrote to his tramp and a card. I confronted him with the letter, swears he did NOT sleep with her and it was just one date. Bullsh*t!!The letter was so descriptive and hurtful I can't get it out of my head. He came back home in June. Since January 07 he has been acting strange, picking fights with me, started smoking ect. In my heart I know he cared a great deal for this girl. He told her he was married and she wanted nothing to do w/ him. (So he says). Now he is very sincere and wants me to stop throwing this in his face& begs for my forgiveness. But I just can't, not just yet. I'm still very hurt. I feel like a fool! His gym pals know about this other woman. My heart is broken and my pain is unbearable. I'm a beautiful person inside and out. I deserve better! so do my kids. I can't bare this pain anymore. I think I actually hate him. Do I divorce him? we are both 32 yrsold
Women, May I have some advice please? I know that this is marriage and divorce, but in Laundry and cleaning no one answered my question, So I need some advice. I just got new bras last week and now they are ruined. I put my bras in with just undergarments and in the end, the wires get bent and the metal fasteners in the back get all twisted that I can never wear my bras again. How can I avoid this?
She divorce the husband at the day sunday? WHen this what I send many time abaut divorce women,then she stop writeing to me ,She no write to me by email,I will do anything to she write to me by email:I will live with her,this to she write to me,,how I can know why she divorce the husband and how it happen,I will know the true,when I will meet her,alone me and her,PLEASe help me,why I like to by her friend and I will do one thing to her,when she write to me,that how I thank her,because she write to me and I know she will Really want to I live with her,HOW to help her,I will give her email to all born again christian and christian,to they talk to her tell her to she talk to me every day by email,her email,it is sarah.tinkerbell@hotmail.co.uk,,it is imparting to me,and christian,born again christian,I am 20 years old,young men and I am a christian,A have question: Women Divorce yesterday her husband,the day is Sunday,SHE tell to I live with her at her Home? that is other email,if every people remember, I am asking for advice on what to do in this situation based on what the Bible says, not what you think he should do.
I need advice from a WOMAN!? I am older ok...33 . I moved next door to her when she was 16. I never had anything to do with her other than a friendly hello now and then. I made friends with her father just to keep things cool. Now she is 20 and is in the middle of a very certain divorce and I am sure she wants me. I know this because I do...understand. My debate is appearances, not the law. If I get with her now it looks as though I may have been getting with her while she was underage even though I wasn't...not that the advances where not made from her. Guys have you ever had to say "NO" to a beautiful girl that lived next door whom would wait until your workout time to get in her bedroom window and undress...I am talking torture. But I am the kind that does not fall in-Love...you know. Any other girl wouldn't have done that. I have kept this door closed for so long I am thinking I should just keep it shut...I am confused and looking for advice from women...I know what the guys will say Look I have never been anything nice to the family and have honored all aspects of my age to this situation. I made friends with the dad because he is nice. I am an ex-marine and words like respect and charector mean something to me. I am not transfixed I am confused. She married and moved away and now she came home and I have had mine own life since and in-between. I have no intention on doing anyone wrong here...esp. myself.
Advice needed from woman !!!!!? My wife said she dun love me anymore and she wanted to divorce. Please advice if its help to buy her an expensive present that she is hoping for a very time. Will it works???
Can I get some advice on a family dispute over land and divorce agreements from 23 years ago? I'll give this to you in 3rd person form so as not to lead anyone in any direction: In 1983 a couple w/ 3 grown sons was divorced. The man had a small farm that had been in his family for several generations. To keep things more civil the woman didn't try to take the farm on the VERBAL agreement that it was given to the sons & the man agreed. They both remarried and now the man is sick, maybe dying. He says he is going to sell the farm and pay his debts and planned funeral expenses so he can die debt free and 2nd wife won't have to spend the insurance on him. If any money is left over he will divide it among the 3 sons. The sons say it is not his to sell, but theirs due to agreement of 23 years ago. Legally, the deed has the man's name on it. Should the proceeds be split w/1st wife because of the agreement (everything else was divided equally at the time of the divorce). Should all money go to sons? Should 2nd wife get any of it? The man wants to be fair and just, but WHO'S FARM IS IT I am not either wife. One of the sons is my friend and he asked my opinion on the matter. He is concerned that 2nd wife is out to take the farm and any or all proceeds from it. She had already spent all of the man's money on new cars, cruises to the Bahamas and fancy clothes. Now she is pushing him to sell the farm to pay all the debts she has accumulated b4 he dies from this illness and she is left having to pay the bills which are rightfully hers. He is a simple man with down-to earth tastes. I have known them all for 15 years. He would have never bought a new Cadillac (he drives a pickup) or taken a cruise. I fear my friend is right in that 2nd wife is draining his dad and now trying to take the last thing he has- the farm.
Divorce? Any thought? I must say that i'm absolutelly amazed at how many people especially women who when they give advice about a marrieage that's going through rough times, the most common answer I come across is a divorce. Aren't women supposedly more sensitive about marriages and divorces? What happened to the advices about really sitting down with your better half and really get down to business on what's missing on a marriage. I see alot of hints abouts seeing a councelour, but who's got the money? What I haven't seen yet is anyone advising to talk to a minister. What's up with that? I went to a councelour once with my wife and I remember saying we each have to give 50% towards tha marriage. 50%!!!??? Shouldn't it be as my minister suggested to me to both give 100%? I mean give it all and you know that eventually you will get to the bottom of it all right? I would appreciate some thoughts on this one.
Looking for advice on how to get a date wtih 48 year old divorced woman? This lady is GORGEOUS great shape and Im attracted to her phsyique and she probably has the best glutes I have ever seen I want to talk to her and ask her out BUT dont know how to ask her I want to leave a good first impression any suggestions?
For women only please, need advice on men? I am in my late 30's. I was married once but have been divorced for about 7 years now. I've been relationshipless for over a year now. Guys hit on me a lot at work but they only want sex, they are married and I always say no. At first the attention was flattering but it has gotten old and to the point that I don't believe anyone could want me for anything else. I dress nice but not slutty. I'd say I'm a little on the shy side so I'm not used to going up to men and telling them that I think they are cute or anything. I have lots of activities outside work such as school and dance class. Everyone I meet seems to be married wether I meet them at work or somewhere else. I don't want to get involved with a married man but sometimes I think that is all that is left. How can I meet a guy that is not just after a "piece"?
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