War on Divorce - What do you think are the main reasons for divorce?

What do you think are the main reasons for divorce?

Do you divorce should only be allowed for adultery? What do you think about remarriage?

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people fall out of love. do you want everyone to be shackled to someone they hate for the rest of their lives???
Marriage, if people did not get married in the first place, then they would not get divorced! ***** Why TD? How many unmarried people get divorced? Well? How many?? You need to be married to get a divorce! Marriage is the FIRST cause of divorce!!
In the US in 2009, I think a lot of people split up because the relationship stops being fun and starts requiring work. Our society teaches that if something stops being fun, especially if it requires any amount of effort, toss it out. Songs on the radio, plots of movies, books with 6th grade reading levels, all feed into that popular myth that love is easy and never demanding. So when a couple gets over the honeymoon period, and starts having to work, they assume something is wrong and chuck it all to move on to the next relationship.
I divorced for religious reasons
disagreement
Selfishness pure and simple
Matthew 19:9 say to YOU that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.” Edit: I wonder how many people who answered call themselves Christian, I hope none because that would be abusrd if they are Christians. The scriptures are clear on divorce. Not getting along is not a reason.
Moving too quickly. Not knowing the definition of "I need my space". And often times one partner not catering to the emotional needs of the other, but still expecting that very thing from their partner for naught. I think divorce should be available for any reason. And I think remarriage is perfectly fine. ╔═══════════════════════════════════ ║In the end, all actions are justified. ║No matter how heinous, there is always a reason ║for all that happens. And to feel anger over such things ║is as logical as being mad that apples fall to earth. ║I sought to understand everything... ║and even still, I've got a long way to go. ╚═══════════════════════════════════
Incompatibility. The initial "in love" feeling fades away and you're left with someone you really can't stand.
Divorce should be allowed at all times especially when the married couple discuss the matter within themselves and take the opinions of their families . Divorce is a respectful way of saying "We couldn't live together , sorry we didn't make it" . Marriage can survive adultery committed by one side if it was strong enough , its a grave sin but it shouldn't be a main reason for divorce or else , forgiveness is meaningless in marriage rituals . Re-marriage , well , its ok , people overcome their past and re-build their lives again and that is normal . Peace
Divorce is a growing problem in America. The casual attitude of divorce in the secular world is spilling over into the church where the statistics are only slightly lower. Consider the following statistics from the US Census Bureau: In 1920, there was 1 divorce for every 7 marriages. That is 14%. In 1940, there was 1 divorce for every 6 marriages. That is 17%. In 1960, there was 1 divorce for every 4 marriages. That is 25%. In 1972, there was 1 divorce for every 3 marriages. That is 33%. In 1977, there was 1 divorce for every 2 marriages. That is 50%.1 Of course, the divorce rate has stayed around 50% since the 70's, but has recently exceeded that. Marriage was first instituted by God in the Garden of Eden. It is a monogamous, physical and spiritual union between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:21-24), where adultery was forbidden (Exodus 20:14), and dissolution was not allowed. But it didn't take long for the monogamous arrangement to become corrupted. Polygamy became an accepted social custom (Gen. 16:1-2; Deut. 21:15). In fact, many of the Kings of Israel were polygamists. The norm, however, was, and still is, monogamy. People Got Divorced in the Bible. As is evident in the statistics above, people get divorced. Even in the Bible there was divorce. In the OT, only men were able to divorce their wives (Deut. 24:1-4). In the NT, women were also apparently able to initiate divorce (Mark 10:12; 1 Cor. 7:13). But, what is a Christian to do if he or she has been divorced? Can he remarry? Should he stay single? Is the Christian guilty of a perpetual sin if he or she divorces? God wants the Christian to take marriage very seriously. Jesus said, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate," (Mark 10:9 -- see also 1 Cor. 7:10-11; Heb. 13:4.).2 But, because we live in an imperfect world, the Bible speaks about the circumstance of divorce. Let's take a look. The Biblical Reasons For Divorce Adultery: Jesus said, "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery," (Matt. 19:9). The word in Greek for immorality is porneia from which we get the word pornography. Sexual immorality, i.e., adultery, is a grounds for divorce according to Jesus. Abandonment: In addressing the issue of husband and wife, Paul said, "Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace," (1 Cor. 7:15). Some Questions Answered I would like to say up front that the following answers are my opinions. Also, part of the answers to questions on divorce must include grace. God is not a Law Master who wants to forcefully bring His people into broken submission. God is very forgiving and loving. He wants His people to experience joy and fulfillment in their lives and this can only be done in the grace of forgiveness. Jesus bore all your sins, even the sins of divorce. They have been paid for. He will not bring them up again on the Day of Judgment. You are free in Christ. However, there are some biblical guidelines that we need to be aware of regarding divorce. I offer the following outline as a suggestion of options. What if a person was an unbeliever when he got divorced and it was for an unbiblical reason and later became a Christian? What should he do? If reconciliation is an option, seek it. However, If the ex-spouse is not a Christian, he should not remarry the spouse because a believer is not to marry an unbeliever (2 Cor. 6:14). If either spouse has gotten married, remarriage is not an option either (Deut. 24:3-4; Mark 10:11-12). If the ex spouse will have nothing to do with any reconciliation or you are not able to contact this person, you are free to remarry. If the spouse has died, you are free to remarry. What if a person was a believer when he got divorced, but the reason was not adultery or abandonment, and wants to remarry someone different now what should he do? If you initiated the divorce, then you should not remarry (Matt. 5:31), However.... Reconciliation with the initial spouse should be sought with confession of sin and the request for forgiveness. If it was the spouse that left without a biblical reason, then you are free to remarry. Reconciliation should be sought with a confession of sin. What if a couple was divorced, married others, got divorced, and wants to become remarried to again? The Bible says that you cannot return to your first spouse after you remarried (Deut. 24:3-4; Jer. 3:1). If you have, nevertheless, already gotten married, continue in your marriage and seek the Lord's forgiveness. He will give it. What if a person was a believer when he got divorced, but the reason was not adultery or abandonment, and has already gotten married. Is he in sin? Depending on the circumstances, he may be. But he should confess his sin to the lord and spouse and seek forgiveness from the original spouse and then he should stay married and be the best husband (or wife) he can be. I hope these brief answers help you understand some aspects of divorce and remarriage. But, brothers and sisters in Christ, please seek the advice of your pastor in this area if you have further questions.
Leading cause of divorce? Marriage. I think divorce should be allowed for whatever reasons the parties involved see fit. ^^^^ I sure hope that wall is reinforced.
It should be allowed when the man is a wife beater Edit: Oh wait I forgot, you purposely put "only for adultery" because you support men who beat and rape their wives. It's NEVER a woman's fault if he hurts her. NO MATTER WHAT before you start the "she should have been submissive" No matter what, no man should ever lay a finger on a woman. Especially just because she wouldnt give in to his sexist demands
Divorce has become acceptable in society...people don't view it as a big thing. People just fall out of love, argue, and are less likely to try to work their marriage out. I think people should be able to divorce if they're truly not happy. Remarriage is fine too, people should be able to be happy with who they love.
There are many reasons for divorce. Remarriage is fine. There should be no restrictions for divorce.
People growing apart over time.. No... To each their own, who am I to stand in the way of someone seeking happiness with the individual of their choice....
there are many reasons in general
There are many reasons for divorce. They vary from unfaithfulness to incompatibility. There are no set rules for when a couple should divorce. Different people have different tolerances and expectations. Each couple will need to evaluate and assess their tolerance levels and expectations to see if divorce is the best solution. Divorce should be allowed for any situation when either partner no longer wants to be married for whatever reason. I have no problems with people getting remarried.
People fall out of love and need to be happy!
The first reason is being married; you can't divorce if you're not married...
My first husband was Catholic. And when I wanted a divorce, his priest gave me some comforting words. He said that the vows of marriage are "until death do us part," and there is no greater death than the death of love. The death of a person, you can still love them and their memory, so they are still alive to you. When love has died, the person is dead to you. My third husband..... For only adultery? Good heavens no! Any woman who stays with a man who beats her, or her children should be filing divorce papers. Any woman whose husband is a chronic gambler or drug user should be looking at divorce. As for the main reason, I think it is just people marry too young and they grow in different directions.
Sex. Money. Abuse. Falling out of love. Adultery should NOT be the only reason allowed - if there is to be only one reason, it should be abuse. But most jurisdictions allow a variety of valid grounds for divorce, and I think this is correct.
There is ONLY, 1 main reason and the only reason for divorce when you look at it. S_I_N. Check out the middle letter; I which means: me, myself, and I. It says pride goes before destruction.
Falling out of love..
There are so many reasons, and it's often a combination of reasons (the straw that broke the camel's back, I guess). A few common reasons seem to be: -power struggles -ongoing communication problems & a general lack of understanding/ failure to empathize -getting married too young or simply not knowing one's lover well enough before marriage And remarriage is totally fine. But hopefully those who are getting married know for certain that it's a go this time.
well if you read the papers about the celebrity couples its ridiculous why people divorce: * not enough sex * adultery * money * love
1. Selfishness. Marriage is meant as an unselfish commitment of caring for each other´s welfare before your own, and not after. 2. The word adultery is to say unfaithfulness, or immoral behavior; and an unfaithful spouse is unfaithful and immoral not only in the cause of infidelity, but also abuse. 3. The Lord knows those that need companionship, and the Spirit of God speaking through Paul indicates to us, that it is better to marry than to lust for. Marriage sanctifies coming together, that we may avoid fornication.
Whatever reason you have is good enough. Bottom line is, if you don't want to be married anymore, you don't have to be. I'm talking from an American stand point, living in a free society. Getting remarried is fine too. Only fundamentalist nut jobs would try to tell you different. You weren't put on this world to follow useless arbitrary rules. So we should not stand for other people making up rules for us to live our lives by. That would be a crime against freedom and reason.
"What do you think are the main reasons for divorce?" - - - Not getting on with the person you married, various things can cause this. "Do you divorce should only be allowed for adultery?" - - - No, are you seriously suggesting that women should be trapped in mentally or physically abusive relationships? If the couple no longer want to remain together then nobody has the right to force them to remain so. What do you think about remarriage? - - - Everyone has the right to a happy life if this includes remarrying then that's fine with me.
Abuse, drugs and adultery. Glad I got out.
For me, it was pride. Also, I got saved while separated and my ex was very worldly and unsaved. I didn't think I was strong enough spiritually (new-born Christian at the time) and did not want to remain with him because he would drag me back into the world. A third party didn't help matters. But I forgave him and later he asked my forgiveness because his fourth wife cheated on him and he knew how I felt when it happened to me. I thought that was so sweet as we remained cordial. I think I could get married again but I just haven't because I was not sure. If he should pass before me, then I could.
People get divorced when rationalisation replaces romance. Divorce should be encouraged for any minor infringement. Or better yet, it should be compulsory. Remarriage is for those with the worst kind of learning difficulties; if they are stupid enough to make the same mistake twice there is no hope for them. I would make marriage illegal tomorrow, if I get promoted to dark overlord of the universe.
I know a group of people that have a very low divorce rate because they believe three cords are stronger than two, the third one being our Creator. (Ecclesiastes 4:12) 12 And if somebody could overpower one alone, two together could make a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two. The meaning of this scripture is that God is in the marriage and His guidelines are being used with His Bible being the source of guide. In the Bible you learn things like real love and understanding, giving is better than receiving, you know, unselfish things that make you want to be around a person that is exercising these qualities. Jesus is the head of man and look what he did for us! He was a servant! And after he taught us all that he laid down his life in a very harsh way for us! How do you think a wife would treat her husband if she was treated the same? She would willingly submit to the headship that was her servant! Today's world thinks that headship is a "lord it over" position that no body would want to be under and that is not what that third cord teaches. Rather it teaches; (1 Corinthians 13:4-8) 4 Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. . . . With a person like this in a marriage how can it fail? So the answer to your question is that the reason why marriages end is because they do not have three cords or God in them.
Money problems. An unwillingness to compromise. Adultery. One not loving the other. Any number of reasons. Marriage Should Be a Permanent Bond ~ http://www.watchtower.org/e/20020208/article_03.htm The only Scriptural grounds for divorce is fornication. ~ Matt 19:8,9 If the other cannot forgive, it is permitted, but, not required. Here are 10 articles providing a veritable wealth of information: http://www.watchtower.org/e/19990422/article_01.htm concerning marriage and divorce. You are not supposed to re-marry. But, the Bible does say: "it is better to marry then to be inflamed with passion." ~1Cor 7:9
The true spiritual reason behind all relationships is that people act as mirrors back to others and thus, if their attitude is loving and positive and both are open to change and grow, the two people involved can help each other to evolve spiritually, the whole reason behind life, but it is never easy and takes work and self honesty.. Most people still dont realize that what they think and believe about themselves magnetically attracts the same from life, in other words if a person has low self esteem, believing they are not good enough and subconsciously feeling they dont deserve good things, then they will attract negative happenings and often also negative partners into the physical lives, however careful they are when making those choices.. Likewise, the more we learn to respect and Love ourselves, so our life will also begin to change towards more positive situations!..How we think and believe have a powerful influence on every aspect of our lives..That*s why positive people tend to succeed and negative people tend not to! So we and life act as mirrors back to us as we live our lives..If life is constantly challenging and apparently negative, then we need to look in OUR mirror and ask ourselves *why am I creating this and how can I change it*, because WE are the creators of our life circumstances!..Generally, the more we can Love and respect our Selves, the happier and more positive our lives will be.. People on similar spiritual levels tend to attract each other!..Like attracts like..It is never one person*s *fault*, in fact in the higher spiritual understanding of life, *fault* and *blame* are futile and pointless, for what we see in the other is often a reflection of what is already within us but, perhaps, what we are not yet ready to accept and work to let go..Then we *project* it onto the other person and get irritated at what we apparently perceive in them! Likewise, of course, when we see qualities in the other that we admire (non-physical) then that means that we already have that quality within us to some degree or we couldnt recognize it in the other person!.. Yes, we are all mirrors of each other!..Not a lot of people know that!!! That*s basic psychology!
I think the main reasons for divorce is that people no longer want to be married. Adultery, abuse, incompatibility are all good reasons for divorce. A Marriage should be an agreement to work as a team but why people want to join together is a personal one and why they separate is as well. Marriage should be a social contract not one that the government is involved in at all. When a Marriage ends it should end as was outlined in the contract and the courts should only get involved to resolve contract disputes.
Divorce is up to the Innocent party regarding whether to go through with a divorce or not. But is is scriptural on that account.
i agree with jon m. i have known a few married couples become unstuck when one or the other feels like the spark has gone. i believe there is something wonderful to be gained by staying together (provided the love is still there, if not the butterflies) and moving through change and different phases together, i know it's not my place to judge anyone's decision to divorce, no one other than those involved, knows what goes or doesn't go on behind closed doors. mind you, successful monogamy strikes me as quite a challenge for our species, it doesn't seem to come as easily and naturally to all. no, i do not think divorce should only be allowed in case of adultery. i think there are a great many abusive relationships which are totally toxic (for anyone in close proximity) and where the only reasonable solution is for the people involved to get away as far away from each other as they can. i see no problem with remarriage. the main thing is that where there is a marriage there is also an atmosphere of love, understanding and trust, and that the dynamics of the relationship are healthy.
big arguments no i don't, not really, there could be some horrid reasons other than that remarriage is fine, to a limit
Adultry, kids and money are probably the main reasons.
If you are Christian, adultery by your spouse is the only approved reason for divorce. In that case remarriage is also allowed. Please see my blog for my experience: http://hubpages.com/hub/Journey-Through-Divorce
Not only for adultery. Actually, financial issues are cited as a leading cause of divorce.