War on Divorce

what are the ways to avoid divorce???

My previous question (future of marriages) prompted me to ask this question. Everyone knows that no matter what the divorce rate is today successful marriages rate has always been much much higher that divorce rate...Doesnt that tell us that there are ways to avoid divorce?? what do u think a couple should do before and after marriage to avoid divorce?

Public Comments

1. dont get married at least not to American women
2. Don't rush into marriage, don't get married at a young age, and communicate to one another for a long lasting marriage
3. The only way to avoid divorce is to not file for one. Life isn't perfect. No 2 people are gonna agree on absolutely everything. Know going into a marriage that there are gonna be ups and downs and COMMUNICATION is how you get thru it. One won't always like or agree with what the other thinks or feels but everyone is entitled to their opinion and that's where COMPRIMISE comes in. There has to be give and take from both sides. Don't avoid issues...TALK em thru.
4. For some don't get married in the first place, for others stop and really get to know each other before marriage instead of after
5. Don't get married! No just joking.. Get to know the person well...1 year is not enough time to tell whether or not you could spend the rest of your life with this person. Compromise and communicate.. Two wise women once told me 'arry someone whos faults you can deal with, because they will never change and nobodys perfect.' and 'never go to bed angry at one another.'
6. Have sex whenever he wants to so that he doesn't go to a hooker.
7. Don't get married and you'll solve that question
8. well both have to love each other and want to try and work it out, otherwise the one still inlove should try and rekindle something..to try win the other one over,, sociteys attitudes are to blame for a lot of divorce i think.compulsary pre marriage counselling woudl be a good idea i think .
9. Do not marry an American woman...it WILL end in divorce.
10. Just keep dating and never get married to each other. Marriage is just dating with legal clause just so you can screw each other over in the end.
11. try to talk with her and understand what she want you to do and at the same time try to show her your love and you still want her try to show interesting by her feeling and by her dreams and explain for her what you need and you love her thats all dont try to fight and control on your self if she is angry
12. Respect each other and create a space that only belongs to the two of you! Not a physical space... but a space where you can share your thoughts and feelings. There is no way others can come between you if you have a well maintained private space. Of course it also requires some maturity and a lot of committment!!!
13. First and foremost is to love one another before you marry. Then respect each other enough to want to spend time together to share thoughts, ideas, and just talk and communicate. Listen to what the other has to say, always. Give them the time to tell you what they need from you. Open your mind & heart to new ideas, thoughts, suggestions to better your relationship. Take time to be romantic and "date" once a week. Have a special day to devote to one another........Either go out to dine or make a special dinner and relax..talk, listen to music, and make love......So critical to the marriage to keep all lines of communication open. Honesty, fidelity and faith in one another to trust one another enough to make a committment to trust each other in every aspect, each day of your life.................
14. Best way not to divorce is to not get married lol.. But actually, you shouldn't even have divorce on your mind when you are getting married. Work at your marriage..simple really, communication is very important..doing things for each other, understanding, loving, tenderness, kindess..read the Bible on what Love is...