War on Divorce

Best way to avoid divorce details?

I'm in the middle of a divorce and live in a small town. I also happen to own my own business so I am in constant communication with customers. My question is how do I avoid being asked nosy questions about my divorce?

Public Comments

1. let them know that it's none of their business
2. Move. Sorry. Actually you can't control what others ask you...so control the response. Say, "everythings great thanks!"
3. you cannot change what others will say so people who are going to ask are going to ask. In a nice way you can answer each question by telling them that it is a subject you would rather not discuss. Simple and once you do that a few times no one is gonna ask.
4. I would just give short answers - you have to be nice b/c you don't want people to think your snotty or you could lose business. If they ask how is everything - you could say - good. How are the kids - their fine. How's Bob? good. I hear yall are selling the house - you could say - yes, we are do you know anyone looking? Be nice but I wouldn't lend any information. If they totally keep prying you could say - I truly appreciate your concern, but I just don't want to talk about it and smile. good luck
5. My parents were divorced a couple years ago, and at first they were pretty quiet about it (except my mom. *cough cough*), but they told me that I shouldn't blurt to the world 'my parents are divorced!'; only if they asked me. If someone asks you just tell tell them and look them straight in the eye and say, "I don't really want to talk about it" or "Is that ok if we change the subject?" or "It's kinda personal..sorry", and just express that you don't want to talk about it and it's personal and it doesn't really matter to them..you know, they'll understand, and if they don't, clarify politely :]
6. people dint think before the speak not realizing they can hurt someone.. when they ask just tell him you might be getting a divorce but your starting a new life.. good luck
7. turn a question asked to you into a question asked to them, for example: "i heard you were getting a divorce, is it true"? "yes, but never mind about me, how is your husband/wife/children/family doing"? most people love talking about themselves and their own problems more than they like talking about you. if you can successfully change the topic, you will do fine!
8. Miss Manners would probably advise something like: "That's an awfully personal question. But thank you for your concern. If there is anything I need, I'll be sure let you know."
9. Tell them the truth " I am sorry but I do not discuss personal affasirs with others" is there a reason that you are asking that question.
10. You can't avoid nosy people asking rude questions. However, you can say, "I appreciate your concern but I don't discuss personal things with my customers. "
11. Tell them that is YOUR personal life and has nothing to do with your business. If they continue simply tell them it's none of their business.
12. If people are rude enough to ask tell them that you really don't want to talk about it and change the subject.
13. You can use it in your favor, collecting your customers empathy and making more rapport, more connection/bond. Say something like 'Right now, my relationship with my husband is going through a really tough time and everytime i think about it, I get sad and feels butterflies in my stomach...etc'. Say it in the right manner and you'll be A-OK. Good Luck.