War on Divorce

I love my husband who hates me and wanted divorce,how to make him happy with me and also avoid divorce?

Iam an Indian living in Singapore with myhusband.We are married since 5 yrs.Iam basically shy and reserved person ,dont talk much (which my husband knows b4 marriage)and during the inital stage of marriage we were injoint family with all his family members and he was working for night shifts.so we didnot have much time to spend and talk.immed after marriage i became pregnant,after 2 months of marriage i went to my moms place as i was pregnant,wherein my husband started loving my sister who impressed him a lot.both of them loved each other.i was jealous and also questioned both of them but they said its just we are friends.but now my sister is married and now he tells me that they both loved each other.all these 5 yrs he was good to me too.but now he hates me ,says iam not like her in any way etc.and also wanted divorce.but all these 5 yrs i loved him very much and now i canot forget him and live without him.how to make my husband love me,and forget her.i dont know what he thinks.

Public Comments

1. Did you have a good talk wtih your sister? and does she also have that kind of love feeling towards her sister-in-law?? Now, your sis has her own marriage and since she has chosen her own husband, why are you worried that she will falls for your husband? If she really does, she would not have married with else man, am i right? Reasons why both your sis and husband are getting closely because your sis is a friendly and easy-going person and is so coincidently your husband likes this kind of characters. I suggest you have a change in yourself such as starting to grooming yourself by changing your image, dressing, and possible do some new hairdo which will totally reflect you to a new person. Not to forget please start joining some social classes or even dance classes so that you could mix new circle of friends. You have to pretend that you can live without your husband and since he said he hates you and he loves your sister, why aren't you show your anger to him? If I were you, I will give him a stern & cool shoulder attitudes to him while starting to impress myself to everyone. If he really wants a divorce, pls do not upset but play a mind game with him. Remain silent, pack your stuff and walk out from the house. Stay with your parent or close friends for a few days. During these days, do not GIVE any calls or sms or go back to him because if he does care & value your marriage with him, he will comes back or even he makes initiative to look for you. Trust me on that. However, if he takes this opportunity to insist of divorce, it provens that he has already lose interest and love with you and I strongly urge you to let go of him which He will definately be regreted on his decision one day. Prove yourself and tell to your heart that you will not be lose out from any women out there and whatever other woman can do, you can do too. If you are a big size of body, please take initiative to slim down and by all means, please make yourself an attractive lady - just like a new born Ashwarya Rai. I do sympathy you but I hope you can pull yourself and hope that you could really make efforts on your own. We can only give you some advices but afterall you need to carry out yourself. If you want to save your marriage, please give a try on my suggestions and you will see the differences. Good luck.
2. You are in a dilema. You say you love him but he hates you, try spending more time with him and getting to know what things he likes. Seek support from his family if possible and maybe try to open up and be less shy.