War on Divorce

i love my husband very much but he wants divorce as he loves someone else,how to avoid him from divorcing me?

My husband loved someone after our marriage when i was pregnant.mine is early pregnancy and iam basically shy girl which he knows very well before marriage itself.we roamed about before marriage for 4 months during that time he was very good and i also said iam very shy and i dont talk much,for which he didnot say anything.later after marriage he started loving my own sister and she also loved him,now i have 5yrs old boy .they both have been loving for past few yrs and after her marriage she have told him that she didnot love my husband but acted for my sister's sake as i had few problems in my in_laws place.so she have said that she loved him only for my sake that i should be happy. but my husband was in deep love with her,he couldnot tolerate that she didnot love him, so now he have become vexed and he wanted to either divorce me or even he wants to sucide.but all these 5 yrs he was good to me.iam in cricitcal position i love my husband verymuch and i dont want to miss him pls help.

Public Comments

1. its enevadable you cant stop it you will be happier in the long run his loss
2. if he wants out let the man go why hold on to someone you know dont love you thats crazy life is to short and GOD didnt stop when he made him
3. girlfriend u should clearing kick your sister a** i wish i could do it for u she is a piece of s*** how the hell can she have been doing u a favorby sleeping with your man oh hell no and u did nothing babygirl he loves her to the point he wants to kill himself let him kill hisself there is no real love that he has for u yes he may have treated u good but he's not in love with u u have to let go give him the divorce walk away make sure he pays child support for the kid u will be alright love hurts but it hurts more when ulove someone and they dont love u
4. I am sorry to hear about this but you know he is in love with someone else and he does not love you at all so why do you still want him around where you know you will only have heartache. You have to wake up and look around you and tell yourself that you need to let him go. You need to start all over again even if it hurts but a least you will be a better person. What is the point if he is still you husband but he does not love you let alone going out with you. I know it's not easy saying than done but you have to pull yourself together and be a stronger person for your son. Let him be proud of his mother. I bet if you let him go later on he will realise what a good wife you have been all this while. Maybe if god is willing you might get him back but proof it to yourself and your son that you are stronger than what people think of you.
5. Okay.You have sriously lost it.You are letting your husband sleep with your sister and he says he loves her.And you want to keep him from divorcing you???You need to divorce him.I guess he is treating you good because he has you monday, wednesday, and friday and her the other days.Give me a break.Why would you want this marriage to keep going ?He not only is having sex with your sister, but he says he LOVES her.Thats a huge thing.He loves her, how can he love you too?????
6. if your husband wants a divorce let him do it. don't hurt yourself more by holding on to something that wasn't meant to be. after the initial pain of heartbreak things can only get better. you can not make someone love you. you may feel there is no one out there for you but believe me he's out there. staying together because of a child is only an excuse and not only hurts you,but your child as well.
7. I understand what it is like to be shy. I have learned that you are what you think you are. It is up to you to become more confident, no one can do that for you. I hate to say this but you need to think higher of yourself, if your husband really loved you he wouldn't have had sex with your sister or anyone else. And as for your sister saying she did that for you......that just isn't true. When I was shy people took advantage of me too. Your sister and husband are doing that to you. People treat you like you teach them too so stand up for yourself, it feels GREAT when you do. There is someone out there who will love you like you should be loved, like you deserve to be loved and who won't abuse you like that. I know you love him but he obviously doesn't love you. You can't make someone love you.........and think about, if it were you would YOU want to live with someone you don't love. Let him go. Yes, it will hurt for a time but things will get better and you will find someone else. (I know, I'm talking from experience).
8. Let him have the divorce. I mean do you really want to stay with someone who does not love you? You would be wasting your time. Let him go, your better off without him!
9. Honey- I'm so sorry to say that sometimes one can not "force" the other to love when there is no more love there to give. You can't force someone to love you. Everyone goes through that phase. If you say- You'll be miserable. Let him go. he's done you wrong too many times. As for your sister. If it was me- I would disown her on my behalf. Shame on her.
10. You can stall for time by avoiding the divorce issue with him. If he finds a lawyer and files then you take your time about everything. The best suggestion I can give you, is to mentally start preparing yourself to leave him. I know this is not what you want, and maybe when it gets right down to seeing a lawyer and he realizes what he is doing, maybe his eyes will open up. But just in case you need a safety net. Try to get out in the world and go and do things with friends or make new friends. Re-evaluate your priorities and keep in mind what he has done to you. Don't make him your main concern any more. Going on with your life, is the best eye opener for any married couple that is contemplating divorce. The one that generally files, can have a change of heart when their spouse is making an effort to start living with out them. If by chance things start to straighten out, between the two of you, consider some couple counciling. If he want go, then you do it by your self. I know how you feel, not wanting to let go, even though it hasn't been the best marriage in the world. As long as the two of you are still together, try to find happiness that you can depend on ouside your marriage in the world, so if this divorce is inevitable, you will have at least started over with out being so devastated about his leaving. Pray to God for strength and for his will to help you thru this terrible time you are having. I hope the very best for you!!!
11. its like this .. if he leaves you then let him be and if he comes back to you then accept him ... but if you want him not to leave you then stop getting angry to him , be good to him , show him what he will lose if he leaves you by doing great works for him , nice attitude towards him .. that is the only way to get him back //
12. If you stay it is possible that he will do this again. Just keep that in mind. If you know you could deal with that then stay.