War on Divorce

Should I quit side jobs to avoid over-inflated child support before divorce goes thru??

I teach at a public school and hold two other side jobs(after school job & a Sat.job). I've been separated since last July when my wife left me for another man. I refuse to serve her divorce papers (for moral reasons; the marriage vow I made), however, she is prolonging this divorce maybe until summer when her new fiancee gets his own divorce finalled. I decided my two kids will live with them, but I will want joint custody. I'm afraid I will always have to work these three jobs if the child support is based on my income since we were separated. Don't know. And haven't had the time to see a div. attorney. To be nice I have been paying them $800. a month for them to support my kids until the official amount is determined after the divorce. Oh yea, she already knows I have these other jobs. And I live in Nevada if that helps anyone knows Nevada law. (to rockinjellyfish) I'm a school teacher. Her fiancee is a pilot that makes more money than me. Whose not being a man??????????????

Public Comments

1. If the extra jobs don't pay you cash under the table, find ones that do.
2. just get them off the books, shell never know teachings agreat job, you must be very educated sorry for your loss.
3. Wouldn't the extra money go toowards helping your kids anyway? Maybe now that you are seperated, you won't have to work so hard to support your family, so you can give at least one of the jobs up?
4. hell i cant even get my ex to pay 131 in child support and you pay 800...wow
5. I don't know what state you live in because the laws and guidelines vary from state to state. Here in Georgia, child support is a percentage of your TOTAL income. For example, I have 2 kids and child support ranges anywhere from 23% - 28% and they usually go for the medium. If I were you and there were any way to quit the other two jobs, I would unless your children need the income and then the best thing would be to work that out amoungst yourselves. Hope this helps you. P.S. Check around, a lot of attorneys do a free consultation and they can answer all your questions for you.
6. She might be waiting so that your income amount is higher, so that she can get a higher child support award. However, keep in mind that if you are going to have joint custody then the kids will be at your house part of the time, so you should try and have the amount adjusted based on that...technically, when the kids are with you, she should have to pay child support to YOU.
7. Yes you should quit the jobs because the more money you make the more money she will get for child support. But if you cant afford to quit them then don't. She will get 20 something % of what you make before taxes. I think its about 26%.
8. i do agree men should pay 4 thier kids but women allways get more than thay deserve house,car,kids full time,dog,ect....make sure the kids get what thay need & extra but watch out 4 the wife sorry X-wife....good luck talk 2 a attorney !!!!
9. Don't quit the jobs that you want to work. Any amount that you pay, even under the table will go into consideration toward you payments. Also, when you are summoned for the support proceedings they will want all of that info and plus the amount that she makes. If in the future should you lose income you can modify your payments through the CSE at anytime.
10. Honestly, your best bet is probably to set up an appointment to meet with a divorce lawyer in your state if you want good advice. In AR, child support can be based on imputed income. In other words, it can be based on a parent's ability to earn rather than their actual earnings.
11. That's a lot in itself. Keep doing what you're doing because you are doing a wonderful job. Don't quit your jobs if that's what makes you happy but you do need to divorce her. I know you say its for moral reasons but she didn't hold true to those vows and walked out on you. She cheated and you have the right to divorce her for that. You've been separated for some time but if you're not ready to let her go then fight to get her and your family back. If she does come back then you bring up the past because you sought her out, not the other way around.
12. Hopefully you have your payments on record or none of it will count and she can make you pay it all back. The more you make the more she`ll get to take and you don`t have to be divorced to have a support case filed. It would be in your best interest to start the paper war or she`ll have you by the short ones.
13. Paying support for your kids is not a "nice" thing to do, it is the right thing to do. Trying to weasle out of what your children rightly deserve is pathetic. Looking for loopholes when it comes to providing for your kids is pretty sad if you ask me. My son used to live with his Mother, legally my reported income meant that I had to pay very little support, however I made money on the side and paid a percentage of that as well. I would rather eat beans everynight then see my children provided with less than I am able to provide. Give your wife a divorce. I do not doubt you do not believe in divorce, but it really sounds more like you want to control your estranged wife. Move on buddy, be a man. To the 24 year old, who do you think cares for your kids. What is that worth to you. I have two ex-wives. Both love and respect me. I have never seen a lawyer in my life. My kids love me and respect me. If you think being bitter about a few bucks or how the person that takes care of your kids spends money, good luck. How much do you think the time and the money she puts into your kids is worth.Who is fixing their scrapes and wiping their bums. Is it you buddy. You got cockhold and then rolled over and let your ex have primary custody of your kids. Oooops. Now are we supposed to feel sorry that just realized you live in the real world. re: I collect a disability pension and I pay for my kids, I wish I had a teachers salary. My former wives,pay as well, it is an equal partnership. It pays to be enlightened and not believe that because I have a penis I am somehow entitled to strut about like the lord of the manor.
14. I would probably consult a lawyer about this.(I'm sure you thought of this but the couple hundred you spend would be well worth it if you could save even more) That being said, I would most likely quit the side jobs and liquidate as much as your investments as you can (again, consult a lawyer this is just my opinion) The idea is that with the higher income and savings/investments you will need to pay more child support. As a single father, I know this can be devastating to your finances. The less income you put down, the less you will have to pay. That's about all I know. I feel your pain. If it makes you feel any better, even the Bible allows divorce in the case of infidelity, so according to the Bible and me, you are morally innocent here. My heart goes out to you. God Bless. P.S. dont listen to rockinjellyfish and some of these other idiots. your wife brought this upon your family. You do have an obligation to your children and im sure you know that. This does not mean that your ex-wife deserves to live a life of luxury because she ruined your life. THE SUPPORT PAYMENTS GO TO THE EX, NOT THE KIDS. She can spend the money on anything from a new mercedes SUV to cocaine.
15. Divorces are nasty! Quit those jobs and empty your bank account. If your ex is like mine, she'll take you for every penny you can spare. If you want to use your income for your children, (which would be the noble thing to do) keep your child support payment low, but shower your children with love and spend money on things you can do together. Take them to Disney land, six flags, Europe etc. That way you're spending money on them and creating family memories.
16. That's pitiful that people are giving advice on how to keep from paying child support. Why would you not want to take care of your kids to the best extent possible? The support is for them, not their mother. They are innocent in this situation.
17. I'd quit your jobs. Put the money you do have somewhere safe where she can't touch it. Ie- your mom's account. Get an attorney and go for it. Even if you get joint custody in most states there will be one parent paying the other.
18. You shouldn't have been nice by paying her $800 a month until you had talked to a lawyer. If it turns out that you have to pay less according to your income, she might say that you have been paying $800 a month, so why shouldn't you continue to do so. You might have only had to pay $500 or so, and you are giving her the extra. My husbands ex feeds the daughter hot dogs and spagetti, and uses the child support money for her digital cable and high speed internet.(we have dial up!!!, and basic cable) She also bugs him constantly to buy his daughter clothes, because she can't afford it. We do buy her clothes, but they stay at our house so she has stuff for here. Talk to an attorney...soon!!!
19. I think most states have a child support work sheet. If you quit the 2 jobs now and they give you a lower amount, and then you get more jobs, she can report that you got additional employment and they can increase your support, so either way you are going to end up paying support from whatever income you bring in.