War on Divorce
Help for a man going thru a terrible adversarial divorce?
My friend got hrt on the job, to the point of where he was almost paralyzed. His wife has become very shrewish and its a very sad long story, They have a 5 year old son and, my friend has no money for an attorney , the shrewish wife has a small trust and so has gotten an attorney. My friend has no support system ( i live several states away myself) and he needs help.He CANNOT afford a lawyer. Legal aid and all that have been a bust, he is in debt and living on his disability from work. He was talking about suicide as the wife is a control freak and going to make sure he never sees the kid except ON HER TERMS (she is not a well woman has some OCD and control issues BIG TIME it seems like ) My friend bought them homes and supported them by driving a truck and she is going to charge that he was never home, but he was supporting them. he never fooled around. they live in Texas. we have searched the internet for support groups and legal help to no avai The woman badmouths my firend to the little 5 year old son, has said Daddy never bought you your toys that she did,, but of course my friend was on the road and the wife got the PAYCHECK to take the boy to buy toys. its breking my heart and I am worried, my friend is a good guy and needs some serious help all he wants is fair divorce so he can see his son and have a healthy relationship with the boy but the wife is not letting that happen she seens to need to destroy my friend. she was very belittleing of my friend in front of the child and even my friends family that went to Texas to visit him. emotionally involved?, my friend is suffering and I an trying to help as much as I can by finding resources. you are an idiot
Public Comments
- You're TOO emotionally involved. You need to back off a bit, until he is divorced.All you can do at this point, is continue to be his friend, and listen.
- I know women like that. Horrid, terrible excuses for a human being. Don't even get me started on those kinds of women. There should be attorneys that will take a case like this but accept a contingency; pay upon a win. I don't know enough about this to know if a divorce attorney would do this or not. You're a good friend....asking a question where a lot of people will see it is a good idea. Apart from just taking up donations, or having a garage sale, bake sale, etc to raise money for him, I can't think of much you can do. The women will rip and tear until there's nothing left, and poison the kid to his dad in the process. I can picture her running around whining about how bad a guy he is and how horrible s has it. She may have been unhappy in her marriage, but it's no reason to be vicious and mean and cruel, especially where kids are concerned. If you want to contact attorneys on his behalf and try to set some up for him, or raise money to help him, I can't think of anything else constructive to add......wish I could be of more help. Wish you all the best tho. Rough road ahead for your friend.
- I agree with music3luvr, you need to get less emotionally involved with this situation. It would be better if she did file for divorce; he will be entitled to stable visitation rights. She can't manipulate that. If you or he can't find an attorney who will do pro bono work, then he will be without one and he won't be the first male or female without one in the state of Texas. You should encourage him to talk to a psychologist or counselor or suicide hot line.
