War on Divorce

Who SHOULD get the ring???

You basically know your relationship is over when during a 2 week split, your fiance tries to supposedly play head games with his ex to finally end their divorce, but gets busted by you when "the ex" calls you and lets you know that he has been spending time with her and they are trying to work it out while you to are hanging out together. Since then my trust in him is gone and we both know the relationship is done, financial reasons still has us living together though, but not for much longer...Now I havent caught him PHYSICALLY with her, but when she called, he was right next to me and admitted "pretending to get on good terms with her to get their divorce final, cause she has been dragging it and not coming to an agreement". He admitted that it was "probably wrong" to do that to me but that " well we were split". So anyway, its kinda mutual hes tired of me complaining about his ex always tryin to get him back, and Im tired of her in his life, my life. So who should keep the ring? Its not a big deal, and I actually dont want it, but Im just really curious on after what he did, why would he want it?

Public Comments

1. You should give it back to him, throw it if you want. Why would you want anything from him to remind you of how it "use to be". Good luck!
2. I will catch crap for this, but I believe the engagement ring should always be returned.
3. If YOU call off the wedding you return the ring. If HE calls of the wedding any heirloom jewelry must be returned, otherwise opinion differs greatly.
4. If this is a ring that he gave you as an engagement ring - then give him back the ring and move on. If the ring was merely a gift - keep it. Regardless of how an engagement ends - it is best to give the ring back. The ring is a promise of a marriage commitment. If that promise is broken by his playing head games - why be reminded of the whole ordeal by keeping a piece of jewelry? An engagement ring is a conditional gift.
5. A agree with the fellas above. If you break it off, you should return the ring
6. I would throw the ring in his face and tell him to take a f*ckin' walk.....damn thing is probably cursed now anyway.
7. Give back the ring, then cut off contact with this man. He sounds a bit immature and this situation will take its toll on you if it keeps on. He didnt need to play games with his ex, he would have eventually got the divorce if he just cut off contact with her and continued a happy relationship with you. he does have bad issues, and it will be best if you dont get dragged down too. Good luck with your new life, just trust yourself and tell yourself you deserve better. Then you will be OK.
8. If he paid for it, then he should get it. If you paid for it, you should keep it. If the money came out of a joint account, and neither of you want it, then sell it and split the money. If you don't want it, give it to him and then he can deal with it. I'm with you. I wouldn't want it either. I would give it back to him.
9. Give it back and tell him to give it to his wife.
10. Unless the ring was given to you as a birthday, christmas or valentines day present you give the ring back.
11. Since it is in contemplation of marriage, legally you're supposed to return it.
12. If you did not actually get married then whoever purchased the ring gets to keep it.
13. do you mean who should get a ring he has given you? or who should get his wife's wedding ring? you cant be engaged to a man who is still married, so i dont really know what in the world you are talking about. if he has given you some sort of ring, keep it for petes sake. if it was given to you, it is yours. period. the only reason to give a ring back to a man who is breaking off the engagement by his disrespectful actions is if and only if it is his family heirloom. otherewise, it is yours.
14. I think by tradition the ring belongs to you. He gave it to you. Besides it may stop him from recycling the ring set with another woman.
15. what? he gave you the ring! its yours!