War on Divorce

My husband and I got married when I was 20 its been 2 and a half years but I am starting to hate him?

we have been together at first it was great .. but now I have a baby and he expects me to do everything he doesnt even take out the trash.. he gets mad over the smallest things... has told me I am worthless, called me a coniving hoe.. and once when I came home late asked me if I busted a nut!!! I want to divorce him... but I will have to start from scratch with my daughter and I have this felony... I havent worked in a 1 1/2 years ... can someone give me advice on how to just get rid of him... the only thing is he gives me money and that is what is keepin me what should I do

Public Comments

1. Yep, that's what happens when experienced advice gets ignored. Because you know better.
2. I think you'd need to have a serious conversation with him about things. If he's being so disrespectful to you, is that because of something that you have done in the past or did it come out of nowhere? If you did nothing to cause his reaction, then find out what he would like to see in a perfect world from you. I have this theory that we try to get away with as much as we can in a relationship. Think about it. If I told you that he would handle all the housework and that you could sit around watching TV all day, don't you think part of you would be tempted to take this offer? So if he thinks he can get away without doing anything while you do everything, then you'd need to find out what his ideas are of what HE should be doing. Does he think he should only have to go out and make the money or does he think there are one or two other things that he should do in the relationship? Also, if you're responsible for all the inside chores, then ask him which he thinks are more important than others. Will the world end if you don't dust the top of the TV once in awhile? Probably not. But if you have a toddler that crawls around, you'll need to keep the floors vacuumed and the bottom of the tables dusted. Keep this in mind and see if there isn't some way that you can come to a compromise.
3. First off, you need a job before you do anything so that you will be able to support both you and your daughter during and after the divorce. I say during because most couples separate when they are in the middle of a divorce. Think about the skills you have and what you could see yourself doing. Remember that you can't really be picky right now, especially with that felony hanging over your head. Just get a job because there is not any snowball's chance in hell that a judge will grant you custody if you don't have a job. Start getting evidence of the abuse/bad stuff he is doing so that you can use it in court (if need be) and start quietly looking around the house to see if there is anything you want to take with you. Get that job and then tell him. That way, when the money stops flowing in, you can feed yourself and your daughter.
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5. i know it sound's like your never gonna do better without him, that the world is to hard. having a baby with no job, is hard to start a new life, so what you need to do is, have a backup plan. start saving money, but don't let him know. girl your better then that, don't let no man put you don't. even if he's making the money. but if you still love him, be strong. but if the hatred id over coming the love. then leave. just be start and plan it first. don't just get mad and leave with a plan. the outcome of it is bad. so always plan.. take care and good luck. my Addy is rylei_aeris@yahoo.com, if you need any advice let me know.. MSG anytime you like..
6. I am in a similar situation. I have a year without working or studying etc...because I am from another country and my soon to be ex-husband did not "fix" my legal pappers. but I don't care I will runnnnnnn from this relationship no matter what. I think that you think that is very very difficult but you will have people that care about you. your parents?? family?? have courage and walk out that door because stupid animal he will destroy your identity through the years and you will not be happy and when your daughter/son grow up and finds out that you are miserable she/ he will be not happy for sure. So save you and save your baby. The hard times will pass fast if you work hard to get your life back. take care and don't believe everything that he says. and yes make a plan, save money without he finds out.
7. Even felons can get a job maybe not a great one, but a job, and there is always child support and public assistance. Get out now. You should never have to be called names by your husband, and your child shouldn't be raised listening to him disrespect you.
8. so what you have a felony, if your not happy, and you dont love him, then what makes you think by staying and taking his money it is going to get better. get a job, save some money up and move your ass out and move on with your life. it is not that hard to do.
9. I would make a game-plan for yourself. I would spend a day st a coffeeshop if you can, find someone to watch the toddler and get some stuff done. I know that I brought my laptop with me and from the coffeeshop I went online and found apartments and a storage unit and whatever else. Make arrangements even if it means getting yourself a couple jobs and a 1 bedroom apartment and taking out a small loan to get yourself started (maybe from a relative?) ... Then, after I had these things arranged I would hit the road jack and nevuh come back :) Oh, and have him pay child support in court and whatever else I could think of.