War on Divorce - Is marriage based on trust and commitment only then?

Is marriage based on trust and commitment only then?

OK so help me wrap my brain around this concept of marriage. So if marriage isn't about sex but about "trust and commitment" then lets look at a few scenarios. Scenario 1: I say to my woman, "Of course I won't by that car honey. It costs too much." But then the next day I come home with the car and she is pizzed. Did I betray her trust and thefore this warrants a divorce? Scenario 2 I say to my woman, "Is it cool if i bone another chick tonight? I'm just trying to bust a nut and I know you don't feel well." And she agrees. In this situation, I did not break her trust so this is OK? So scenario 1 didn't involve sex, yet we need to divorce because I "betrayed" her. Scenario 2 involves sex but she was in agreement so this was not cheating and therfore not grounds for divorce. Im so confused here. Apparently you can sleep with other chicks during marriage as long as she agrees with it. But if you lie to her about stuff this is when you are screwed.

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Why are you so confused? It's really rather simple...different people have different priorities and levels of forgiveness. Scenario 1, not justification for divorce in my mind but you did lie and therefore you aren't trustworthy and your lying will likely cause further issues and an end to the relationship at some point. Scenario 2, sex is a bigger issue for some than others, however if one partner tells the other they may have sex with people outside the marriage, then why wouldn't that be fine? I don't get your puzzlement here...people in the swinging lifestyle do it all the time...it's not cheating, and sex is treated like any other recreational activity. Why are you (or are you pretending to be) so confused by this...lying, deceiving, betraying are the issues...would you maintain a serious relationship (friendship or otherwise) with someone who constantly lied to you, never kept their word, broke your confidence, etc? Unlikely, huh?
Let's talk real life here pal. I've never heard of a woman yet that threatened divorce over buying a car without her say so. I also haven't heard of any conventional marriages that a wife has given her husband her blessing to bone another woman. Marriage is based on trust, commitment and many many other things. It is not a joke, a game, or a contest to see how much of a single man's fantasies that a married man can live by. If you want something better in life than anything else you could ever have then get married with the right woman. If you just want to stick your bone in anything that walks and wind up living alone at 70 as a withered up old man with a lot of hollow memories then suit yourself.
In marriage, It is most important you try to make one another happy. If you are lying and she finds out, Good luck. But if you truly "love" your other you will try to make on another happy. Service is the secret to keeping a happy marriage.
When you truly love someone, regardless if you're married or not, there would be no need to lie, to hide anything. - scenario one - If there's love, changing your mind about buying that car doesn't mean you lie. - scenario two - If you "need" to have sex outside your marriage, and if she doesn't seem to care then the only issue is that neither one of you love each other.
Marriage is about trust ,commitment, and love. The thing is if you are in a commited relationship you would not need to lie about anything and by the same standards you would not need to sleep with anyone else to be satisfied with her approval or not. Any lie is a betrayal. does it warrant a divorce? it depends on how much trust is lost. the buying of a car may be very upsetting but I don't believe that is big enough for a divorce but being unfaithful (her knowing or not) is a very untrustworthy act . It shows that the person isn't really commited to the relationship at all. When you are commited you consent to making something work even when things are at their worst.