War on Divorce

Why do people down me for being a single mom?

I am a single mom of two boys. I work all the time and bust my but to take care of them. I do everything to get them what they need and sometimes what they want. I am geting a divorce and I am trying to get there dad to pay child support. I get put down for this. I did not make the child by my self and should not have to take care of them by my self. I do not do drugs and only drink on specal events. I did not give my kids up and never wanted to. So why do people look down on me. I was not the reason me and my husband is geting a divorce so what is wrong with me? I do what needs to be done for my kids, so am I so bad? I do not seal drugs or my self to take care of them so am I the wrong one? I do not depend on any one and they look at me like I am stuped and can not do anything.

Public Comments

1. Its peoples prejudice
2. Some people put others down to make themselves feel superior. You're doing what God wants you to do. It seems the more we do, the less people appreciate it. Just do your best and screw the rest.
3. its the the stereotype that women are single moms due to their bad choices. Too often do men get women pregnant and then leave them high and dry stuck for the rest of their lives with a baby. They can easily move on and create other families, but the mom is ALWAYS tied to the baby. Its different the bond and sense of responsibility a mother feels toward her child. I think your a great mom, from what you've said here. He was an as s and you arent making your sons suffer for it. I say good that you are taking him for child support. He helped make them babies, and damn it he needs to help care for them. Why should you be a bad person for this? Why does society blame WOMEN for mens irresponsibilities? Why is it your fault, or make you a bad person because he is divorcing you? He probably cheated or "fell out of love" or some other bull shi* excuse... I could be wrong, but that is usually the piece. dont listen to others, nor should you try to please them. You will only end up unhappy. YOu do what you have to for you and your sons, even if it means taking him up for child support. He should be helping support your children, he sure as hell enjoyed creating them!
4. The hell with other people. Right now it's YOU and those Boys. Everybody else can kick rocks. Child support is something to ME a no brainer. It's taking care of your own kids. It's not Spousal Support, totally different. HE doesn't even have to AGREE, the STATE "WILL" TAKE it from his paycheck, or ANYWHERE they can get it. If he's not careful it could mean his house, even his freedom (jail).
5. Because when people can't figure out how or why something happened, they place blame with the easiest target. Unfortunatly these idiots have chosen you. Turn your back to all their crap and keep doing what your doing. good luck and stay positive!!! :)
6. You are great. You have values and morals. Don't let other people get you down.
7. Maybe it is not your fault, but now the kids have to be raised in a family without a father figure always there. This increases the odds of the kids failing in life.