War on Divorce

How do you begin dating after a divorce? What tips do you have to stat dating again?

Just went through an ugly divorce now Im ready to start dating again. I have not dated in 16 plus years. I know things have changed. What advice do you have?

Public Comments

1. Humph...You say your ready to begin dating...but have you resolved the issues that brought about your divorce in the first place? I'm not saying whose to blame or whatever...but something went wrong. There's anger, resentment and feelings of rejection to deal with..Why would you want to go into a relationship, dumping all that baggage on someone else?
2. Just be yourself, and don't try to hard,no-one likes someone would appears desperate! Mainly just have fun,also don't forget to listen when she talks and compliment her on her dress/hair/makeup. But don't go over board! Have fun!!
3. Keep a tight grip on your wallet and always use a condom.
4. Things haven't changed actually. Most people have just turned open minded and liberated. There isn't any surefire method of dating. Its how you present yourself to women that matters... Just be yourself.
5. Just be yourself and try not to act desperate.I don't think things have changed much. Respect and kindness still go a long way.
6. i think you should just be calm, cool and collected. you know be comfortable in your own skin. i believe most women have a very keen sense and can read guys pretty good so they know a good thing when they see it. really, don't overdo anything. i think the simpler the better works for almost everything like what you wear, where you go on a date, etc.... i don't think too much has changed. i can tell you that most women still prefer the guy to make the first move and that women love compliments. good luck out there, i'm sure you'll do great!
7. Just get out there and ask, ask, ask and ask some more!!!! Get out and have some fun!!! If you feel akward explain to the person that you are with that you are recently divorced, if they are a sincere person, they will be considerate of that!!! Have a good time, have fun looking!!!
8. well as far as the divorce how long has it been? but u should take it slow at first and like meet some nice female for lunch get to know her and see what comes of it as u date more but take it slow dont jump to fast on the first date
9. things haven't changed much at all............ good luck and go for it.........
10. Find a woman you share a lot in common with. Like hobbies, recreation, movies, views and ideas. Learn to be friends and don't rush the physical thing if you can. But, before you even go out and find someone. Write down the reasons why your previous relationship failed and try to decide what you will do differently on your part if you had any blame. Maybe you didn't. Maybe you married a selfish high-maintenance witch. Just takes things slow and gradual. I find if you rush into things. You really resent eachother later.
11. be yourself things have not changed that much and you being a guy I'm pretty sure you still got it...movies, dinner, plays and long walks are still a big hit for the girls! you will get used to it again its just been a while is all. good luck
12. well first you have sit down and ask yourself if you are truely ready to began dateing again. And then ask God to give you a mate to spend the resr of your life with. And all you have to do is to wait.