War on Divorce - Tips for getting through a divorce?

Tips for getting through a divorce?

I am currently separated and fixing to get a divorce because I have finally had enough of being treated like crap. But knowing it's for the best doesn't ease the pain. I still love my husband very much...what can I do to make things easier to deal with? What were some things that got you through your divorce and helped you move on? Counseling isn't really an option since I won't have health insurance and can't afford to pay for it out of pocket.

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Think of the things you would have liked to do for yourself? Take a class, learn a sport, take some me time. Do not waste your energy dwelling on what could have been, what should have been. Close the door and move forward. Look in the mirror and know you deserve better.
rely on friends and family, do not be afraid to talk and cry to others, seek support groups in your area and online. Start a new hobby to keep your mind occupied. Be strong and do not worry it will get easier to coop with each new day.
try remebering how he made you feel like crap and remember what was said ansd done to you to want the divorce... try moving on with your life as best as possible and just stick to your guns
surround yourself with positive people. Have girls night out and do the husband bash thing. All us girls do it weather were divorced or not and we laugh till we cry.
First, take time to nurture yourself. Don't immediately jump into another relationship. Take time to heal a take a reflective look at what caused the divorce... not just at the things that he did, but it does take two so be willing to look at the mistakes you made too so that you don't end up repeating the same mistakes in your next relationship.
First off, don't talk to him... it makes it worse. Don't dwell on the good times... it only makes you feel like sh*t... think of the bad stuff he did. Get mad... don't do the whole... I still love him bit. Find a hobby... it will help take your mind off him, especially if it is something he hated. While you still have health insurance go see your doctor and tell him you are having a hard time sleeping... keep the pills handy - because trust me you will have many nights of staying up until 530. Find yourself again... most women forget everything they loved before the marriage... they conform to their husbands likes and forget their own. Good Luck
Hm, good tips for getting a divorce. Well, there is no good one but I will do my best. Separation saps energy, creativity and outlook. Time may be best, but keep healing with proper diet and invigorating exercise. Don't skip meals or rely on fast food. Take a multivitamin, and drink plenty of water. Curb your coffee habit, too. Lack of sleep and the need for a quick wake up is tempting. Exercise will help you sleep better. Realize also that your emotional healing might best be accomplished with the help of medication and/or a professional therapist. It's wise to seek such counsel early for it can have lasting impact. You can go to your local church or find a real good leader who specializes in this area.
Friends and family are what are getting my through mine. Its not easy I will be honest with you but its slowly gets easier every day. I still have my days where I wonder if I made the right choice but I am standing by my choice. Also pick up a hobby or joing a club getting your mind on something else also seems to help.
Let me see, it's been awhile....I prayed alot!!!!!!! I went out and got a job.Could only find a part time job so moved.I now have a job that gives me insurance and full time.I purchased a house right after divorce.I lived in it for 4 years than sold it.It is a constant struggle money wise but so,so much better now.I am Man free and loving every moment of it.BTW, I was married for 25 years.This to shall pass.Good Luck.
Congratulations for finally saying enough is enough. Love isn't being treated like crap. You deserve better and you will find it. As far as counseling is concerned, if you are involved in a church, some offer pastoral counseling that requires no fee. You could join a divorce support group, sometimes it is just a lot of people who want to complain. You made the hardest step. GOOD LUCK!