War on Divorce

I need tips on dealing with family issues? I always am put in the middle of there mess and they are divorce?

Public Comments

1. Tell them to fight their own battles and quit running to you like they're some sort of crybabies that can't function by themselves.
2. Tell htem that you have your own life and that if they want to talk they can talk to one another and that htey need to not put you in the middle of there problems.
3. the best way to conquer this type of issue is to stop making yourself available. you are likely putting yourself in the middle.... take care
4. Don't allow yourself to be put in the middle. I had to step in & do this with my parents. I told them both that I love them equally & that if they wanted to have a sane daughter, they needed to stop involving me in their quarrels and issues. I also insisted that the entire family (including Dad, Dad's wife, my siblings and our Mom) go to family counseling. When we were all together, the counselor helped us sibs explain to our parents that their issues and complaining were hurting us and that if they wanted to remain as a family they would need to make some concessions. It worked like a charm!
5. How did you get in the middle? If you allow yourself to B in the middle and/or pry on parents due to divorce wouldn't that be something that is your responsibility? I know many that cry the victim act while simutaneously becoming involved in something that isn't any of their business. Once anyone gets married the unity is between the two and as for divorce it's also the decision of the marital couple. You will struggle with confusion if you blame your parents for your "being in the middle". I've even seen people and relatives make excuses linked to someone's divorce. "he or she stole because of the divorce" or "my grades are messed up because of the divorce". Theft and low grades are *self-destructive*. Are you your parents daughter? Then that's all you have to be in those relationships. As for your actions wrong or right they are your choices.