War on Divorce - Anyone had a healthy, sane divorce, still get along, live close-by (for the kids)?

Anyone had a healthy, sane divorce, still get along, live close-by (for the kids)?

I need guidance/tips from anyone that's been "successfully" divorced - sort of like Sarah Ferguson and her ex (they get along famously - live in the same, well, castle actually!). Can divorce be OK??? Can kids be OK???

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it would be wonderful for that to happen for the kids sake .... kids are the real one that are hurt by d i v o r c e ,
divorce is difficult i dont care who they are its not all sparkly and dazzling as some can make it out to be. in my opinion there is a reason why they are getting divorced. yes its ok to get along with the ex for the kids me and my ex try to we dont fight in front of them and he can come over here to see them any time he sees fit as long as he calls a head fo time. we try to be friends and give each other advice and that is basically it but its not always going to be a bed of roses.
When there is a lot of money at stake, yes otherwise if people get along so well, they stayed married.
I myself have not been divorced, however my parents divorced right before I turned five. They were civil for the first few years and it took a little time, but within the last ten years or so they've been getting along great (I'm now 22) My dad comes over for Christmas and other holidays and my mom and myself go hang out at my dad's sometimes too. For Mother's Day the whole family went miniature golfing. I know they are never getting back together, but they still care about each other. So yes untimately I think it's possible to have a "successful" divorce, but it may take some time.
This really depends on the people involved. I definately think its possible to have a good divorce. You both need to agree the marriage isn't working, harbor no ill will toward each other and act in a polite/friendly way toward each other. Just keep it simple, no drama. I divorced and tried to be friendly with my ex. Unfortunately, he still had feelings for me and was very immature and irresponsible. He moved out of state to live with his parents (at 31....when he had a house that his parents gave him free and clear living 4 blocks from me and the kids and a job here). The kids and I haven't talked to him in years and can't say that I am saddened by it.
Yes!! It's actually possible, and so worth it!! Just be cool, treat him with respect (your babydaddy should always get your respect!! He's the babydaddy,ok??), be nice when he dates again, be nice to his girlfriend, try to keep out of his business, keep in touch enough to stay connected but not too close, don't badmouth him to your kid, don't interfere with the way he parents when your kid is with him, be positive, don't demand more than what's fair in child support, and don't forget to thank him for providing you with such a wonderful child. And it will all come back to you effortlessly! Oh yes, don't forget to forgive him quickly. Develop a short-term memory, fast. Take it from me, who's done it the hard way, and then finally mastered the right way. Divorced now to the most awesome dad ever.
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Been there, done that. So the answer to your question is YES. You can have a healthy sane divcorce! It's all up to the 2 people getting the divorce. You can either choose to be adults about it and TRULY put the past behind you. Or you can resent it all and wind up with the kids in the middle and you, yourself in a horrible divorce situation. The outcome? The kids regret both of you. The only catch to that is that you have to have 2 willing adults. That can be hard to come by. I myself have a fabolous relationship with me ex and his new wife including my ex in laws etc. I have had my ex's siblings and their family at my house for BBQ, outings and so forth. My ex and I communicate ONLY ABOUT KIDS AND FAMILY. NOTHING FROM THE PAST! That is what truly keeps it CLEAN and pleasurable. It can be done. Keep your children involved in all their families lives, respect them and their roots, never put down the other parent and always respect their relationships with their family. You in return are building a firm foundation for your kids. If they don't feel anomosity and restrictions with their relationships then they will feel secure. If they feel secure they are much more happy and secure within themselves. Good luck!
ME AND MY EX- ARE REALLY GREAT FRIENDS, NO SEX INVOLVED!!!!! WHILE MARRIED, WHAT COULD GO WRONG, DID GO WRONG! BUT NOW WE ARE THE BEST OF FRIENDS. WE DO RESPECT EACH OTHERS PARTNER, BUT IF I NEED HIM OR HE NEEDS ME WE WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR ONE ANOTHER.