War on Divorce - what effects does divorce have on children?

what effects does divorce have on children?

what side effects or obstacles do children of a divorced family deal with?

as long as the children get to see both then that is good, dont bring the children into your fights
Depends on the parents... can either be very traumatic or no big deal. Be sure to LEAVE THE CHILDREN OUT of the arguments
it completely depends on the mature or immature behavior of the parents involved. my ex is currently trying to get full custody of our two children and he is saying things to them they shouldnt hear and that aren't true so that they will not want to see me. its so heartbreaking because i can do nothing about it. all i can do is not stoop to his level. and i haven't. and i will tell the kids the truth when i have them. i never talk badly about their father or his friends and family.
One common effect on children is that they often feel that somehow they are at fault. If they had only behavrd better or tried harder in school etc.
It can run the gamut from devastating to very little effect. My former wife and I have maintained a very cordial, friendly relationship since our divorce and have been sure to reassure the kids that there was nothing they could have done to prevent our break-up. We've told them many times that it was not their fault and that we both still love them very much. Our break-up has had an almost imperceptable effect on our children, as a result.