War on Divorce

As a petitioner for divorce, do the reasons I state on the paperwork have to be directed against my spouse?

I wish to get divorced from my partner of 15 years. We split 1 year ago and have been living seperate lives since this date. I feel now is the time for closure and am initiating divorce proceedings. The problem is that if I state on the divorce papers that the reason for divorce lies solely on her innapropriate behaviour, I feel that she will not agree to the divorce. So, is it possible as the petitioner to state reasons for divorce that are attributed to myself as well as my spouse? I am in the UK, so would like to hear UK information preferably as I am unsure of law in other countries

Public Comments

1. Not sure how it works in the U.K., but in the U.S. the notion of "irreconcilable differences" is both an effective, popular, and blame-free reason for divorce.
2. Not sure about in the UK, but in US you can file for a no fault divorce, that way you don't have to say it was anyone's fault. Good Luck
3. you could always do the divorse on eritrievable break down of marrage and then just say you was no longer happy in the marrage so then it would be you as well
4. can you just say irreconcilable differences?
5. For those in your situation in The States, the term incompatibility is mostly widely used. It is a generic term that simply does not assess blame or disparagement against the other party, but does admit that we simply cannot get along. Im sure that in UK you have a comparable if not that one term to satisfy your demands. This will help both of you heal in the future which is what is needed.
6. Don't let anger become a part of it. That makes things so much worse. Irreconcilable differences and the marriage is not to be mended. Simple as that. Good luck top you and just be fair.
7. I really don't know how the law works but in the UK, but in the US, in most states with no fault divorce, you would simply cite irreconcilable differences. The problem with making specific allegations against your spouse is that you have to prove them in Court. If it works that way there too, you just have to make up your mind whether you want to be divorced quickly and cleanly or if you want a long, dirty fight.
8. hi i like to say u hear if u had good time with hear and if she stil dont wan give u divorce than u should give her one more try and she how its go ?u never no when and where life l chang .try nothing harm in try .i knew this may not which u waiting to hear but this i thing good for u.best luck for life.if its work pls let me know thanks
9. Based on my knowledge U.S. In some States we still utilize the U.K method which means you will have to point the finger directly about infidelity.....
10. Of course you would do best to consult an attourney on this, but for my 2 cents I suggest that you stick to stating your case against her. I'll be willing to bet that she is perfectly capable of making her own claims against you, & she doesn't need you to point them out for her. If the suit goes before a judge then the judge will be totally capable of realising that there are three sides to this story, yours, hers, & the actual. If you don't want to have her contest the divorce, then meet with her, & agree with her that this needs to be done free of emotion. What I mean by that is: if the division of the marital assets are fair & equitable to both you & her, then who cares if it says on the divorce papers that you (or her) was a dirty rotten b*stard during the marriage. That type of thing usually gets put on the divorce petition if it's necessary to convince the courts that a divorce is appropriate in your situation. If the both of you can agree to how to split up the marital assets between the two of you, then you will have accomplished the hard part. Most uncontested divorces go through the courts relatively quickly, & the lawyers don't get as much either. ;-)