War on Divorce

Why do so many people have anger for people who divorce?

Why do they copy & paste biased studies that say boys raised by single parents are more likely to become rapists from displaced anger or girls are more likely to become promiscuous when raised by a single parent? I've also seen studies that show women who have good relationships with their fathers are more likely to become promiscuous as well. I don't get it.

Public Comments

1. Don't let it bother you. Lots of single parents raise great children, that just isn't interesting enough to do a study about :) Nobody has statistics on the good kids, so don't worry about.
2. i don't
3. who knows, people are just looking to blaim things they don't understand. My parents divorced and I didn't screw around. My brother isn't a rapist or anything like it. My sisters have their problems but they had the problems before their parents divorced. They don't read all the studies they just want to say if people aren't married they shouldn't have kids so they look for studies to prove that thery no matter how wrong the study may be. If you want people to stay married through everything what do you tell them...."your kids will turn out messed up if you divorce" then some listen to that and stay together for the kids and in the end they regret it and the kids still have issues because the parents can't get along.
4. I think people just feel so disappointed when they hear of a divorce, especially when there are children involved. Of course, there are a lot of good reasons for divorce (physical abuse, etc.), but so many people seem to leave for the slightest reason. They forget their vows "for better or worse". They leave because the grass is greener (or they think it is). I think it is true that the boys don't fare as well if they don't have their dad around. It's just not the same having a Dad who "visits", and many times, Dad remarries and moves away! My own two half-brothers turned out very bad after this happened to them (dads abandoning them after divorce.) So I would say, if you must divorce, both parents stay as close as possible physically to your children. But, if possible, work the marriage problems out, instead of opting out.
5. People are trying to blame bad parenting on something. Instead of saying that certain people are just not good parents, they have to have a scapegoat or certain people to sterotype. Personally, I think it's a form of a abuse to remain in an unhappy and unhealthy marriage. The kids grow up with all kinds of mixed messages about commitment and true love. Just because to parents are seperated, it does not mean they are bad parents. The love that each person has for their children, should not change because of divorce. If it does, then maybe they weren't good parents to begin with.
6. ok i would really like to see the studies that you are talking about. really give me a link bc i don’t think they exist. i do think that it is best for a child to grow up in a loving home with 2 parents that love each other very much but we all know that that happens almost never. my parents are still together but they had there problems along the way and tried to keep the kids out of it but we knew. but there are definitely situations when the parents cant stand each other and are mean and hateful to each other when it is clearly better for all involved including the children to have happy parents that can be good parents bc they are happy or at least not living in a war zone. those studies that ppl are pasting are clearly more a situation of children who grow up in a situation were one parent is not involved at all and the parent they have is struggling to survive not that i am saying it is the fault of the parent who stuck around they usually do the best they can but ppl do need to realize that if you make a baby you need to be a parent to that child it is not a decision that you get to make it is required! although i don’t understand the rapist thing i get that they would be more likely to become dead beat dads because "i turned out ok" i do definitely think that girls who don’t have a father figure or who have a bad one are more likely become more promiscuous because they are trying to get the love of a man that they didn’t get from there father. So I guess like with most issues it really depends on the situation. I know that this isn’t what you are asking about but I really think that as far as custody they need to start out with 50/50 custody and if one parent cant do that then go from there. Fathers really need more rights.