Why do people with Aspergers Syndrome have a higher divorce rate?
I have started dating a woman, 28 years old, that told me she has Aspergers. I have read some into it online. I really like her, but am kind of cautious about getting into this relationship any more seriously untill I know more about this condition.
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- why the hell do u think they do ....come on
- People with Aspergers tend to have a kind of social disconnect. They often come off as callous, rude and stubborn because they don't quite understand what offends people and what doesn't. They are also very attached to their daily routines and can become quite upset if those routines are disturbed.
- do a google search or talk to a health professional.. Aspergers syndrome is a condition where the person's social skills can be limited.. doesnt mean that the person is retarded.. but their ability to relate to people is different to a non-aspergers sufferer.. once u get to know someone with it.. u get used to it.. like anyone really.. they can be pretty blunt tho.. my boyfriend at the time told my aspergers mate that she should go for a drink with us because she doesnt get out much; and the aspergers person thought he was asking for a date! a tip.. communicate clearly to the aspergers person!
- They have difficulty perceiving social cues, and, because it is in the autistic spectrum, often have a tendency to live in their own world, and not be emotionally responsive, and available, to their partner. This often causes problems. With proper treatment, they can learn how to cope much more effectively, and lead apparently normal lives. Section 21, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris refers. Find out about what coping skills she has, and whether she is prepared to seek treatment, if lacking in certain social skillsets. Try living together for a fair while: then you will have a more complete picture.
- I think lots (most) people with Aspergers syndrome have a hard time communicating with people, especially in regards to emotion. Aspergers is a kind of high functioning autism (not sure if thats the correct way to say that sorry). Basically they usually understand how emotions/feelings work and stuff like that but have a hard time dealing with them in social situations/real life. That can lead to difficulties in relationships when they don't understand how their partner is feeling, or don't react in a "normal" manner to the partners emotions. Also, like the previous answer says, subtlety in conversations and also certain social cues ("you're annoying me" type gestures, flirting, eye rolls, whatever) can be hard for them to pick up. There are varying degrees of Aspergers, and people can get specialized therapy to deal with it so it doesn't affect them as much. I guess it could have an impact on your relationship or not? It just depends on the particular person I guess. Maybe talk to someone who knows someone in real life who has it, or ask the woman to tell you more about it and how it affects her if you're comfortable doing that?
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